101 Ways To Cheer Yourself Up

Need to cheer yourself up? We all need some happiness tips from time to time! Whether you need better self-care or just a mood boost, these tips will help! #happinesstips #cheerup

Do you need to cheer yourself up? We all need a bit of cheering up from time to time – and it’s easy to fall back on the ol’ standbys of wine and Netflix. We can do better! This guest post from Steff can help!

101 ways to cheer yourself up

1. Have a pyjama party

In bed. Just you, something (or someone) to snuggle, a laptop, notebook or sketchpad, some rad music, a good movie, and a hot cup of chocolate. It’s the perfect antidote for dreary weather or cancelled plans.

2. Sushi

Buy one of those “make your own sushi” kits and learn to roll your own little roundels of heaven. Once you get good at the traditional Western “chicken teriyaki”, experiment with kooky flavors. My favorite sushi is avocado, cream cheese and pineapple. No joke.

Eat your sushi sitting on the floor watching kung fu, Japanese horror, or a good ole-fashioned anime tentacle scene.

3. Send Postcards

Buy a packet of ten postcards and send a note to your friends – even the ones you see every day. Tell them how awesome you think they are, and how much you love hanging out with them. Or, if you want to be less sappy, just quote some Manowar lyrics and tell them they smell.

4. Share the Cookie Wuv

You are going to a gig at the local bar. Bake a batch of cookies and bring them along to share. You have now made 50 new friends.

5. Poetry

Find poems you like and hang them on your wall or write them on your diary. Every time I read words fitted together like an intricate puzzle, I feel like the whole world is magic. I really love the work of Catullus and Henry Wordsworth Longfellow and Richard Brautigen and Dean Koontz. Even old Aliester Crowley created remarkable imagery.

6. Dress Up

Create outfits of ridiculous clothes and accessories to do mundane tasks. Walk the dog in your bondage pants and Pantera shirt, vacuum the house in a tutu and high heels, buy milk at the store in nothing but a trench coat. (I’ll let you invent your own definition of “ridiculous”).

7. Make Magic Everyday

Learn a magic trick – it could be something a simple as a card trick or a slight-of-hand. Practise until you’re really good, and delight your friends next time you see them. Don’t give away your secret.

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8. Star-i-fy your life

Buy a packet of glow-in-the-dark stick-on stars (you know the ones). Sneak into a friends house while they’re away, and decorate the ceiling of their room. They probably won’t notice till they turn off their light.

9. Laugh

Watch a DVD of one of your favorite stand-up comedians. If you don’t have a favorite stand-up comedian, I suggest you get one! Here be my favorites: Dylan Moran, Ed Bryne, Eddie Izzard, Flight of the Conchords.

10. The Royal Bedchamber

Make a canopy and coronet for your bed. Go to the fabric store and choose luxurious fabrics – chintz and brocade and lace and satin – in your favorite colours. Gather them on the ceiling and tie them to the corners of your bed. You can attach curtain rods to the ceiling to create a dramatic canopy. If you have any leftover fabric, make a few simple pillows to match. You are now a princess.

11. Make a Paper Hat

Wear a paper hat. You don’t have to stick to the simple boat-shape. Why not design a paper bowler hat, beret or top hat? I have a mini-top hat with a flower I made entirely from Braille paper, which I do wear out on occasion.

12. Healing Stores

Go to one of those hippie shops and buy yourself something – a homeopath treatment or some incense or a dream catcher or a reiki massage or whatever they’re got on offer. Hell, what have you got to lose?

13. Indulge in Bathtime

Run yourself a bath. Gather together all your exquisite bathroom pampering treatments – all the luscious soaps and decadent shower gels you haven’t opened because they’re “special” and you don’t want to use them up. Open them all. Use them all.

Take the phone off the hook, put up a do-not-disturb sign, pour yourself a glass of wine or mead, put on some relaxing music, and read a book, or stare at the ceiling.

14. “Get Away From It All”

I’ve never been an advocate for this method of dealing with an issue, because you’re bound to find the issue waiting for you when you return from your sojourn. But sometimes, you just need a break from the world. If you know you need to “get away” for a few days, really get away.

Skip town, and don’t take your cell phone. Go bush. Pack your tent and billy and find a corner of the wilderness unpopulated with human life. Relish the stillness of a world untouched by urban living. In the clarity of fresh air, all your muddled thoughts sometimes become crystal clear.

15. Fly a Kite

I never forget the thrill of a kite soaring through the sky, tugging at the string in a desperate attempt to be free. Some shops rent kites – a friend and I rented one from a shop on the Gold Coast once, but you’d have to google your area to find out where they are. Better yet, make your own kite.

16. Add Trim

Find one of those treasure-trove fabric and trimming shops with hundreds of bits of old lace and rooms of buttons and bins of fabric offcuts. Set yourself a budget – say, $15, and find a mad ensemble of items. Take them home and decorate a hat, headband, bag, necklace or bag.

17. Midnight Snackage

Invite someone over for a midnight snack – someone who makes you laugh so hard your stomach hurts. Eat nachos from the plate together and giggle. Last night, a friend and I stayed up late watching old favorites from our DVD collection and eating apple and rhubarb crumble.

18. Amp up the Sexy

Wear a suspender belt (‘garters’ if you’re American) with stockings. All day, every day. Even if you’re a guy.

19. Wear Bells

Wear bells around your ankles. You can buy ankle bells at medieval markets. I love them, although you can never sneak up behind someone to surprise them.

20. Do some Inexpensive Pampering

Go to a shop like “Lush” and spend some time smelling everything. Then buy yourself a little treat. Many people like to buy incredible handmade soap from Etsy – I don’t, because I live in NZ and the shipping makes it horrendously expensive. Plus you loose out on the smelling – the smelling is the important part.

21. Hydration

You should drink water more often – it’s good for you and makes you feel happy. But it should also be fun. Buy yourself a water bottle – not one of those one-use plastic ones, but something fun, like stainless steel masterpiece or a skull-shaped bottle. Or find yourself a beautiful vintage glass bottle and use that. I bet you’ll feel like a pirate!

22. Out, out, dammed spot!

Quote Shakespeare at inappropriate moments. If you’ve never developed an appreciation for Shakespeare, it’s never too late to pick up a copy of Richard III or a Midsummer Night’s Dream. Or why not go against the grain and read some Ben Johnson or Thomas Marlowe instead? They were bloody good, too.

23. Ancient Foibles

If you really, really can’t understand the modern English, read Aristophanes – an ancient Greek comic writer. He’s hilarious. Seriously, laugh out loud funny, especially if you have a passing knowledge of ancient Greek culture and mythology.

Try the Lysistrata, a play about a group of wives who are desperate to stop the war between Athens and Sparta and bring their husbands home to sleep with them – so desperate, they declare a SEX STRIKE until the war is over. Hilarity Ensues.

24. Give Presents!

Buy or make an amazing gift – like a mix CD of your favorite songs or a beautiful box of chocolates – and wrap it in a big box with a pretty ribbon. Give it a tag saying “to you”, and place it in the middle of the sidewalk outside your window. Watch how long it takes before someone picks it up.

25. Create better, funnier passwords

Change your passwords on your email, your bank, your paypal account, everything, to words that make you smile. Banana, elocution, evisceration, duped, muggle, flippant, pumpkmen, snooty, sneed, salacious … the possibilities are endless!

26. Swing it

Find a playground in your area. Swing on the swings. Better yet, if you have a backyard with a tree, build a swing for yourself. I find all the world’s problems can be solved by a little swing-time.

27. Love your Fear

If you’re afraid of something, tell yourself you actually love it. I’ve found if you tell yourself something often enough, eventually you’ll believe it. I used to be afraid of thunderstorms, until I started telling myself I loved them: the epic display of nature’s prowess, the anticipation of waiting for thunder, that feeling of being warm and safe inside. Now I love them.

28. To the Theatre

Go and see a play. No, not a movie. An actual display of live theatre. You can find descriptions of plays on theatre websites – local productions cost about the same as a movie ticket, and they often give student discounts. You could travel even further from the norm and try the ballet.

29. Write to Your Idols

Compile a list of all the people in the world you want to meet – all the amazing artists, writers, musicians, actors, thinkers, dreamers and activists who’ve inspired you over the years.Start emailing them and making contact. Tell them everything you’d want to tell them in real life.

Tell them how they touched your life and inspired your own creativity, which of their works had the greatest impact on you, what you think of their latest project. Ask their opinion on matters concerning the world and point them in the direction of your own work. You never know, you might even get a reply!

30. Read Outside

There’s something very peaceful about reading a book under a tree, or while sitting on a wooden bench in a deserted rose garden.

31. Join the Library

I lived in Auckland for four and a half years before I joined the public library, and, although I had access to the university library, I regret my sojourn from fiction books. Now, I work right next door to the library, and I’m reading a book or two every week. Plus, you can use the Internet there for free, and they run fun events and readings and competitions.

32. Take a Break from Technology

Stop watching TV for a week. Unplug the modem. Live in the real world totally and utterly for a week. Sometimes I feel as though we live too much of our life online, and we make contacts, but no real connections.

Get out into the world and experience RL for a week – if nothing else, you’ll have something interesting to write about when you get back to your blog. Here are 23 free fun, technology-free, screen-free adventures.

33. Write Haiku

The very act of focusing your thoughts into a haiku relaxes and empowers you. (For those of you who don’t know, a haiku is style of Japanese poetry: the first line has 5 syllables, the second line 7, and the third line 5. Write all your emails in haiku.

34. Fancy Up your Wallet

I bet you keep your money in a plain leather wallet, don’tchya? Well, find something cooler. What about this fleur-de-lys Stone Hinged wallet? Or this Steampunk Gear leather wallet? Or a gothic cigarette tin wallet?

35. Re-create your Food Lust

Think of your favorite food at your favorite restaurant. Now, scour the Internet and all the fancy cookbooks for a likely recipe. Buy all the fresh ingredients and attempt to make your fave dish at home. You probably won’t succeed, but you might come up with something even nicer, or, at the very least, a new appreciation of the skill of your favorite chef.

36. Practice your Green Thumb

Buy a weird plant and take care of it. By weird, I mean a deadly nightshade or Venus flytrap or sarracenia or nepenthes.

37. Hang Windchimes

I’ve always loved the tinkle of windchimes and crystals. I lined the entire length of my window in my room at my folk’s house with various chimes – ceramic bells I strung up with beads, clear crystals that sparkle in the sun, blown glass droplets which make an incredible sound when they clink together, a ceramic wind chime, dream catchers, African animals with bells … it’s so colorful and cheery.

38. Re-vocabise

During my second year of uni, a friend and I embarked on an important and dangerous mission: to banish those horrid words “like” and “totally” from our everyday vocab, when used as a sentence filler “You’re like totally kidding me?” or “I want to, like, find that shirt I lost.” So every time I’d say one of those words, she’s interrupt me and I’d have to say the sentence again, without using “like”.

After awhile, your brain gets sick of being interrupted all the time and you stop saying them. It worked for a good two or three years. They’ve crept back into my vocab, and my writing, but I aim to remedy this!

39. Learn Braille

Yes, you read correctly. You’re probably not blind, but you could learn Braille anyway. First, you learn to read the dots with your eyes and interpret them as letters, and then you learn contractions “ed” and “and” and “st”, etc. It’s super easy, like learning a secret code, and will make trips in elevators more fun.

Also, you learn something of what it would be like to lose one of your senses. You understand that, no matter what happens to you, the world keeps turning, and dragging you with it. You can survive anything.

40. Alternatively, learn Sign Language

For the same reasons above.

41. Wear a Mask

If you’re feeling lonely and self-conscious, why not hide your face with a mask? If you want to hide away, hide behind a wall of latex or leather or sequins or lace. Here’s a gorgeous Venetian mask!

Need to cheer yourself up? We all need some happiness tips from time to time! Whether you need better self-care or just a mood boost, these tips will help!

42. Exercise

You know exercise is good for you, and it makes you feel good. So exercise! Run around the block, do star jumps in the living room. Find the local ice-skating rink or rock climbing wall, hike through the park, practice yoga, salsa dancing or burlesque. You can find lots of free lessons on Youtube.

43. Archery

I am legally blind. I can barely see three feet in front of my face. Yet I love archery. Strutting around with a massive bow and arrows in your quiver feels awesome. I’m constantly posing like I’m in Lord of the Rings. Archery takes concentration, a steady hand and a keen eye (or a good spotter). It’s a sport you do outdoors, rain or shine, by yourself or with a friend.

There’s no shouting, no balls flying everywhere, no team rivalry … just you and a bow and your own internal challenges.

44. Change your voicemail message

Mine says “Hello, you’ve reached Steff’s cell. Unfortunately, I can’t come to the phone right now, as I’m preparing for the imminent zombie apocalypse. If you’re listening to this, I suggest you find yourself a sharp implement and head to your nearest shopping mall.” All the messages I receive begin with the callers giggling.

45. Worship a new God

Go to a religious service of a religion you don’t belong to and don’t believe in, (only if this is allowed and you’re not offending anyone). Really embrace the experience with an open mind and try to learn something about who these people are, who they believe in and how their faith affects their everyday life.

46. Wear a different type of High Heels

Make yourself a pair of stilts. All you need are two sturdy planks or wood, and two wooden squares to act as footholds. Bolt / nail / glue the squares to the wooden planks, sand down the rough edges and practice your high walking!

47. Participate in Operation Beautiful

Operation Beautiful’s mission is to put up anonymous notes in public places for other women to find. The notes say “you are beautiful” and give the Operation Beautiful web address. I’ve put up a few around Auckland, and I hope they made somebody’s day.

48. Dig out your favorite Music

Dig out your favorites – the music that makes you feel the world is full of wonder. Play loud, sing along, dance on the bed, throw your arms around, headbang, smash something, slow dance with your cat.

49. Make a plan to Realize a Lifelong Dream

Have you ever had a dream come true? I can’t describe the feeling – like everything in your whole life has lead up to that moment, and nothing will ever make you sad again.

I’ve wanted to see the Great Pyramids since I was … ooh, about seven. And when I stood there, and I touched them, and I went inside, I cried. So sit down and start planning how you can make it happen.

50. Decide on a Lifelong Dream

Maybe you’ve never had a dream come true because you don’t have a dream … or you don’t think you do.

Write a list of things you wish you could do before you die. Keep the list nearby you and ad items to it constantly. Even write down the dreams you have for other people. Do you want to see your child succeed or your partner quit their job and pursue a lifelong passion? Add that to the list, too.

You’ll discover certain items on the list tug at your heart-strings more than others. These are your dreams. Knowing what they are is your first step to achieving them.

51. Indulge a Guilty Pleasure

Whatever it might be. I am partial to eating Tim Tams and watching Dr. Phil, or listening to the Rasmus. Be proud to be silly.

52. Have Something Delicious Delivered to your House

Don’t go for the normal pizza – see if your favorite Italian or Moroccan restaurant do deliveries? Will the bakery send you out a fresh-baked loaf? Bask in the glory of ringing someone up and having hot food arrive on your doorstep. It’s a wonderful world we live in.

53. Play tourist in your own city

Dress up like a tourist (shorts, shirt, camera, fanny pack, ridiculous hat, guidebook in back pocket) and go do something really touristy: whale-watching, the tourist bus tour, or go to the over-priced amusements. Talk loudly, take hundreds of photos.

54. Clothing Attack

Find all the clothes in your wardrobe you don’t really like and attack them with hundreds of studs and spikes. I bet you like them better now, right?

55. Invent Music

Buy a silly instrument – a harmonica, a tin whistle, a recorder, a djambje, anything as long as it’s inexpensive and makes noise. Be loud and enthusiastic in your playing.

56. Feed the Ducks

Make a “feel happy” soundtrack of your favorite songs, and stick it on your MP3 player. Put on your favorite walking clothes. Walk to your local park or river, stopping at the dairy on the way to pick up a loaf of bread. Walk through the park listening to your favorite songs, a find a good stop to sit down a throw morsels of bread to the ducks and geese.

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57. Get up high

Find a secret place. Your secret place should be high up, with a great view. Look for tall trees in the park, abandoned buildings with easily-scaled roofs, or unknown nooks and niches above bridges.

Take yourself there when you feel blue, listen to music or read a book and watch the city unfold around you. Be careful climbing to your secret place – falling from your favorite tree won’t cheer you up!

58. Buy Silly Slippers

In the cold of winter, your feet need all the warm they can get. A pair of ridiculous slippers – shaped like giraffes, penguins or Eric Adam’s loincloth – cheer you up.

59. Coin new nicknames

Decide on new nicknames for all of your friends. Send them a text or email to let them know their new nickname, and call them that from now on. The more outrageous the nicknames, the better. Nicknames make a person feel loved, like they’ve reached a new level of intimacy with you.

60. Change up your morning

Changing your morning routine can alter your whole day. If you shower at night, try showering in the morning, just after you wake up. What do you eat for breakfast? DO you eat breakfast? We need to change that? Do you open the curtains? If not, open them wide! Do you get up too early? Too late? Change up your routine for a week, and measure the affects on you whole persona.

61. Change your Wake-up Call

Change your alarm clock to something fun. On our epic Europe adventure we had “Morning Manowar”. I tell you, nothing makes you more excited to get up and explore castles than “Hail and Kill” at 7am.

62. Find a Totem

A totem is an embalm representing a creature or object you feel a strong connection with. Carrying a totem on your person gives you the sense of being able to draw power from associating yourself with that creature. It’s a little new-agey, but I also think it’s quite cool.

My totem animals are cats, and birds – specifically ravens and ducks. We made friends with ravens in Norway, and ever since, I’ve fallen utterly in love with them.

63. Experience New Things

Find a list of “what’s on in your town”, and for a week, do something new every day. Alternatively, search travel websites for reviews of off-the-beaten-track things to do in your area – sometimes backpackers find the gems you’d never otherwise discover because their hearts and minds are actively searching for those experiences.

64. Break out your Legos

One day I was feeling crap, my husband snuck out of the house. He returned 20 minutes later carrying a huge box. What was inside? A lego viking ship! We spent the afternoon making it up and having high seas viking adventures. Best. Cheering. Up. Ever.

Need to cheer yourself up? We all need some happiness tips from time to time! Whether you need better self-care or just a mood boost, these tips will help!

65. Write a Personal Manifesto

Who are you really? What are you about? What makes you tick? What morals and beliefs do you follow? Write yourself a personal manifesto – who you are, who you want to be and how you’re gonna get there. For more info on manifesto writing (an artform in itself) read about Nothing Elegant’s Blog Manifesto project

66. Open an Etsy Shop

If you’re a creative type, why not see if you can sell some work online. Etsy is a great place to sell handmade crafts or vintage collections. You don’t have to try and make millions selling your work, but list a few of your best pieces and see how you go.

67. Make Someone’s Day

Mark Twain said “the best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer somebody else up”. The man speaks truth. Call an old friend up, just to say hi. Text someone and tell them they’re awesome. Take any idea from this list and do it for someone else, instead of for yourself.

68. Practice Gratitude

Write a Gratitude List – I do this sometimes on the blog. It’s called Up the Irons! and it’s a shout-out to everything good in life. Sometimes, when you concentrate on the bad, you forget all the little things making up the world of good.

69. De-Clutter

Clean out a drawer, cupboard, desk or room you’ve filled up with stuff. Pile up old clothes and books to give to charity shops, and toss the rest away (or recycle it, if you can). You don’t need so much stuff, and having a clean desk/room/drawer feels like having a clean start.

I feel instantly fresh and inspired after cleaning my eternally cluttered writing desk. Here’s how you can purge your closet without losing your mind.

70. Make a Fire

Don’t you find something oddly comforting about a live, roaring fire? My family has always had open fires blazing throughout winter – I’ve never owned a heater till I moved to Auckland and lived in a hostel. We would sit round the fire at night and eat dinner, do our homework, watch TV.

If you have an open fireplace, light a fire in your living room and curl up next to it with a book and a bag of marshmallows. Hot chocolate, pancake mix, jam and chocolates work a treat, too.

If not, can you make a fire in a drum in your backyard? (check your local law about this). Pull up a chair, a can (or horn) of mead and a steak sandwich. Taste the night air on your tongue.

71. Eat some produce

A diet of highly processed foods deprives us of much-needed nutrients, and nutrients make us happy. So give yourself a nutrient feast – find your local farmers market and spend up large and the freshest, most delicious fruits and vegetables. Toss into a salad, bake into a pie, boil up in a big vat of soup, or just enjoy raw with olive oil and hummus.

72. Play Board Games

You’re going to need a partner for this. Dig out all your “old school” board games – Monopoly, Hamburger (my favorite, cuz it’s about food), Mousetrap, Trouble, UNO, Backgammon … whatever you had as a kid, and play them all. Make fairy bread and drink orange juice and wrap yourself in big blankets.

73. Blow Bubbles!

Blow bubbles. You can buy little jars of bubble mixture at those $2 shops, or make a simple bubble mixture at home using dishwashing liquid, water, and sugar or corn syrup. TIP: Storing your solution for a day can actually lead to better bubbles.

74. Make something The Old Fashioned Way

I bake bread every day. EVERY DAY. I don’t use a breadmaker, or any prepackaged mix. I make bread the old-fashioned way – the way humankind has made bread for 10,000 years.

Throw away your modern conveniences and learn to make something to “old-fashioned” way. Can your own tomato pasta sauce, squeeze your own orange juice, make your own beer (I’m doing a home-brew course this year – exciting!), bake a loaf of bread from scratch … kneading that bread is therapeutic, trust me.

75. Build a Fort

Need I say more?

76. Take a hot air balloon ride

This isn’t cheap, but I guarantee it will cheer you up.

We took a hot air balloon ride over Cappedocia in Turkey. Not cheap (wiped our Middle-East budget clear out) but worthwhile. I never expected the sensation of being inside a hot-air balloon to feel like it did – everything is still. You can’t feel wind. You just hang, and bob along. You can hear everything happening on the streets below. Amazing.

77. Head to the Beach

Maybe it’s just a New Zealand thing, but nothing says relaxing and good times like going to the beach.

Go to a deserted beach – they’re easy to find if you know where to look. Pack a picnic lunch. Roll the legs of your pants up and run through the surf. Clamber over the rocks and find little fishies in the tide pools. Build a sandcastle. Watch the sun set over the water.

78. Adopt a Pet

Obviously, this requires a lot of forethought and research, but consider giving part of your home to an animal without one. Every day, the SPCA and other animal shelters rescue hundreds of unwanted, neglected pets, and if no one comes to adopt them … you know what happens. It’s shameful and we should all do our bit for these animals.

Scientists have proven stroking a cat induces healing and reduces feelings of loneliness and anxiety. Pets love unconditionally, and they always know just what to do to make you laugh.

79. Sing Karaoke

Who thought up such a ridiculous idea? And yes, as silly as karaoke seems, it’s immensely popular and lots of fun. Can’t sing? Neither can anyone else. Just do the best you can. Ham it up, be OTT ridiculous. Death growl if you have to.

80. Break out the Sparklers

Wait until fireworks go on sale in November, and stock up on these little packets of joy. Bring out a few sparklers to light up your BBQs over summer, or just dance around the backyard when you feel a little feral. Spell naughty words in the air, have a dual against a tree, or just pretend you are a fire fairy. Sparklers rule.

81. Go to the Ice Cream Parlour

Find your nearest ice cream parlour, and order the largest, most ridiculous sundae on their menu. Eat it all. Don’t feel guilty.

Or, better yet, make your own concoction at home. Give it a hilarious name, like “Steff’s Epic Metal Sundae Mountain of Doom”, cover it in whipped cream, frosting, crumbled biscuits, cut-up Mars bars, nuts, sprinkles, chocolate chips, cherries, bananas, blueberries, sauce, fudge, sherbet and anything else you can think of. Eat it all. Don’t feel guilty.

82. Re-read a favorite old book

Go to the library or a second-hand bookshop and find some of those series books from the nineties: the ones you undoubtedly read: The Baby-Sitters Club, Sweet Valley High, Pony Club, Goosebumps, Fear Street. Read them all again. Damn, weren’t they terribly awesome?

83. Take a Community Ed. Class

My husband and I are taking German classes at a nearby high school. It costs us $89 for seven 2 hour lessons, with all materials included. The school runs classes in everything: from burlesque dancing to Metalworking to Indian cooking. They are cheap, they are run by enthusiastic, experienced teachers, they are filled with interesting people, they enable you to learn new skills. In short – community classes are awesome.

84. Buy yourself a new Notebook

Buy yourself a fancy notebook, and a nice pen. I love Black Spot Books and Bibliographica who hand bind journals they’ve created using recycled leather and found materials. I also like Immortal Longing’s Shakespeare-inspired journals. Lots of people adore Moleskine journals, but I honestly don’t see the difference between them and any other notebook.

What will you use your notebook for? Oh, the possibilities!

85. Go to a Random Club

Open your local gig guide, close your eyes, and point. That’s where you’re going tonight. Dress inappropriately, and make the best of it.

86. Enjoy a Starry Night

Find your local observatory or planetarium. Show up for one of their evening lectures – they normally set up telescopes so you can look at celestial bodies. Better yet, take a course in astronomy. Amaze yourself at just how busy it is out there.

87. Improve your Sleepy Time

If you can spare the dough, buy new sheets and a duvet for your bed. Find something completely luxurious in a your favorite colour. Make over your bed, and you make over your sleep.

88. Actually get to know your Facebook Friends

You know all those random “friends of friends’ who keep adding you on Facebook? Strike up a conversation with one of them. You know you already have something in common, and they added you so they can’t think your a serial killer or anything. Who knows, a “friend of a friend” might turn into an actual friend.

89. Take yourself to Dinner and a Movie

By Yourself. Yes, go out on a “typical” date all by yourself. Eat at your favorite restaurant (and don’t bring a book. You don’t need to distract yourself from your own company), and then go to a movie you really want to see. Buy yourself all the treats YOU want to eat, sit wherever you want (I love sitting right in the front row, and I fold all the armrests up and lie down. Cushiony!)

90. Write a Love Letter

Write someone a love letter in chalk on the steps up to their apartment or the pavement outside their flat. Use several colours. Hide and watch their reaction when they see it.

91. Create a Signature Cocktail

Pull all the liqueur bottles out of your cabinet and line then up on the counter. Now, go to the fridge and pull out all the liquids and fruits. Do the same with the pantry. Now, line up all your shot glasses and start mixing! You’re searching for the perfect signature cocktail. This involves lots of taste-testing.

Be daring, be crazy. Give your drink a wacky name. (This is an also excellent way to use all those liqueur bottles people have left with half a centimetre of liquid inside.)

92. take a Road Trip

Road trips kick ass. A car, good music, an adventure, bad food, what more could you want? I love a trip when you know roughly where you’re going, but you don’t have a specific schedule, so you can stop and look at random things on the way.

On the last road trip I went on – up to a campsite by a lake – we stopped to take air-guitar pictures outside a picturesque white chapel in the middle of a rolling field. Next, we made faces underneath a duck-crossing sign. Here’s everything you need to plan a roadtrip.

93. Collect Something Interesting

It could be anything – I collect miniature trinket boxes and fossils. My husband collects vintage books about trains. I have a friend who collects typewriters, another who collects statues of elephants.

Once you’ve decided on your collection, spend a few hours scouring eBay or Amazon and making a huge wishlist of all the items you want to add to your collection. You probably can’t afford to buy them all, but maybe splash out on just one.

94. Pay off Debt

Owing people money stresses me out. I feel like a failure if I haven’t budgeted accordingly to be able to pay for something in cash, or I have to borrow money from a friend.

So sit down and make a plan. Many people find great success in Dave Ramsey’s “Debt Snowball” plan: you write a list of all your debts in order of how much money is left on them. You make sure you’re paying the minimum on each, except for the one with the least amount left to pay back.

You throw everything else you’ve got at that payment, and as soon as you’ve paid it off, you throw everything at the next smallest, and so on. It’s not the most cost-effective way (if one of your larger payments has a much higher interest rate) but most of debt repayment is about staying focused, and it’s hard to stay focused if you don’t see any results. Getting rid of each payment is like a little present for all your hard work – you stay motivated.

95. Paddle

You can buy a decent-sized wading pool at Wal-mart. Fill it with water (warm or hot) and bubble bath. Pour yourself a glass of wine and have your own private spa in your backyard. I like to do this at night when you can see the stars.

96. Celebrate random holidays

You might have realised by now, I’m a big fan of celebrating random and made-up holidays. I’ve written before about remembering Dimebag Darryl and having a metal Christmas, but I’m sure you can think of lots of ideas for random or made-up holidays. Celebrate the birthdays of your favorite writers, musicians and artists.

97. Let Go of Useless People

On a couple of occasions I’ve had to let go of friends who were hurting me. They were good friends and good people and I loved them and didn’t realise what a negative effect they had on my life, until it was too late. Sometimes, loving someone isn’t enough, when they expect you to carry them too.

Let go of the people who cause you pain. Set them free to find themselves. Be the hero – be the person brave enough to say “this isn’t working and it has to end.” Letting those people go was like a huge weight lifting from my chest. I’m a firm believer that if the friendship is meant to be, it will come back, stronger than ever. And ending a friendship doesn’t undo all the wonderful, amazing good times and experiences you had together.

98. Embrace another Culture

Choose a culture or time period you don’t know anything about, but have always been fascinated with, and start reading books and websites. Whether you choose ancient Egypt, Communist Russia, Imperial China, the Maori or the Inuit, start a love affair with another time or place.

99. Bake something

Bake a cake for a friend, or for your colleagues at work. For no reason, except “just because”. I find the act of baking therapeutic – no matter what’s going on in the world, you still stir the batter, lick the bowl, and make your house smell amazing. Plus, you get to surprise someone with cake.

100. Hug someone

I love hugs – they’re my favorite thing in the whole world. Go find a friend or family member and hug it out!

101. Take a nap

Most challenges in life are best approached with a well-rested mind. If you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or grumpy, a nap is always a good place to start.

Wow! Thanks for all those amazing ideas, Steff! How do you guys cope when you’re in a foul mood?

P.S. Life has big plans for you

photo credits: Jay Wennington, MD Duran, Thought Catalog, Dominik Wycislo,Mira Bozhko, STIL, Paul Green on Unsplash

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Cathy on 26 March 2010 at 12:19 pm

You are so cool!
Sarah Von Bargen on 26 March 2010 at 12:23 pm

All the credit here goes to Steff! 🙂
squarepegperson on 26 March 2010 at 12:39 pm

My morning started off "more grey, overcast and melty than sunny and daffodil-filled", but you got me smiling.

Great list – I love that the items are so do-able and real — nothing like: "write the first 317 pages of your new manuscript while skating naked through your local MENSA gathering" (not saying that the above has no potential for fun — but it'd require getting skates, applying to MENSA, figuring out what the manuscript would be about… — all time consuming.

Your list rocks!
Crafty Maria on 26 March 2010 at 1:07 pm

This is a fantastic list! I can see that many of the things you mentioned would lift my mood right up.

My secret way is to bake a cake. It takes your mind off your crappy mood and results in a feast!

Alternatively I reread my favourite books.
Abu on 26 March 2010 at 1:11 pm

amazing!
at home with flu on my own but once again your beautiful blog comes to the rescue and cheers me up!

I cried a bit at the pyramids too…mostly because I got so excited running into them that I whacked my head off the very low roof…in fairness it was very very low…I'm 5'1" and had never in my life had to listen to the guide saying 'mind your head':)
But as I lay there on the flat of my back inside the pyramid the headache I'd had from dehydration and early morning starts evaporated…I swear best headache cure of my life was to whack my head off a pyramid and lie laughing on the flat of my back at the fantastic-ness of it all.
uh-oh bit of a long rambling comment, blame the fever.
Thanks so much for writing the coolest blog ever!
Aoife
- HappyBoxGirl on 27 October 2018 at 3:12 pm
  
  My signature sentence is “I’m ok”,LOL
Chrissy on 26 March 2010 at 1:13 pm

ah yes, the old bucket list… i have a few in mine.. would love to do it unfortunately i had my heart in doing it w/someone i shared my life with…
anyway, some of what u listed i have done and yes, windchimes, re-doing a garden makes me extremely happy…oh and finding a great book…
miss. chief on 26 March 2010 at 1:46 pm

love this!!!
Angie. on 26 March 2010 at 2:09 pm

All of these suggestions are wonderful!!! You've just given me a list of things to try out. Thanks!
Jen on 26 March 2010 at 2:34 pm

These are all so great! Thank you, Steff. Right now, I am listening to my songs of the 90's on iTunes; it's how I cheer myself up. Brings me back to the best (and worst, ironically) times of my life, and I usually smile. These are the songs I attached feelings to, the songs that got me through the worst times and were there for the best times. *sigh*

I like the idea of joining the library (been meaning to do that for months now that I've moved to a new town!) and visiting a church outside of your own faith. I had to do that in college once for a theology class, and it was one of the best experiences! I've always wanted to attend a Jewish service (I'm Catholic), so maybe I'll ask one of my Jewish friends to take me!
brlracincwgrl on 26 March 2010 at 2:44 pm

These are amazing and have made my day! Thank you!
hip hip gin gin on 26 March 2010 at 3:23 pm

Getting to wear a tutu and heels might be the ONLY way to get me to vacuum the house. Seriously.

Great post!! And next time the husband and I are at Target I'm totally getting some bubbles, just thinking about them makes me happy. For all the pet owners out there they make chicken flavored bubbles you can blow for your dog. They smell icky so do it outside, but the dogs love trying to catch them!
Renee on 26 March 2010 at 6:24 pm

this is awesome! i love writing and reading poetry, it always cheers me up—but also just getting out in the Sun lightens my mood too!
Helen on 26 March 2010 at 6:53 pm

I need to do every single thing on this list. Except number 27. That just won't happen.
Kristine on 27 March 2010 at 12:01 am

I just discovered your delightful blog and it is cheering me up, thank you!!! And now I am obsessed with getting a vest for my cat-where on earth do you find such a thing? Looking forward to following your musings!
Steff Metal on 27 March 2010 at 9:30 am

Awww, thank you guys. I'm so glad this list has been so well loved :).

Abu, your story made me laugh, because I remember walking down into that pyramid and thinking about all my short friends and how even they would have to stoop.

An author friend of mine, Louise Curtis, is embarking on a mission to do EVERY item on this list, and adding lots of her own – one a day, for a year. You can read about it on her blog: http://www.twittertales.wordpress.com
wawa on 27 March 2010 at 4:58 pm

i love this! i always read poems =P
Melissa on 27 March 2010 at 9:24 pm

I love #49. I started doing that last fall when I started Irsh dance classes. I'm not up to Riverdance caliber yet, but I plan to have a ton of fun trying to get there. 🙂

And #24 sounds like fun. I think I'll have to do that this summer when the ground dries out. 😀
rachel on 28 March 2010 at 11:45 pm

You live in NZ? Why did I not know this?! I read your blog every day – talk about how dense I've been to have missed that. Sheesh. 🙂

To get out of my current funk and to celebrate spring, I am planning to get a mani/pedi in a spring-y color (I almost never paint my nails) and do some yoga…perhaps outside.

Thanks for the pick-me-up and inspiration!
Louise Curtis on 29 March 2010 at 3:23 am

Hi Sarah and hi Steff (thanks for linking me). I especially wanted to visit you (Sarah) because I also stole at least one idea from you. . . guerilla gardening. I did it (and of course blogged it) today and I can't believe how good I feel right now.

My next Steff Metal item is to adopt a pet. . . I can't wait!

Louise
Christie, Describe Happy on 29 March 2010 at 1:47 pm

Thank you so much for passing these on! I can't wait to see part II. For me… all I have to do is play with my goofy dog and I am instantly a million times happier!
Magatha-May on 30 March 2010 at 12:06 pm

Archery is amazing – I highly recommend it for everyone. And the gear looks sexy too!

I used to love going flying kites with my dad on a Sunday afternoon, really must do it again sometime.
marta on 1 April 2010 at 11:10 pm

really love this list. thanks for all the unique ideas. writing letters, flying kites, reading something fun or surfing blogs always cheers me up.
Anonymous on 3 June 2010 at 11:39 pm

Great list, cheered me up, inventive and funny 🙂
www.venetianmasquerademasks.co.uk on 9 February 2011 at 10:07 am

well here I was feeling quite fed up already with today when i read this. Thanks it has cheered me up
Diamantina on 1 May 2011 at 11:59 pm

Im planning on trying everthing on this list and I mean everthing
Anonymous on 18 June 2011 at 6:35 am

I know this was posted over a year ago, but I just found it today on Stumble Upon.

All of these ideas are great and found myself smiling or even laughing out loud!

My fav: #24 Presents. I don't know what it is specifically about this idea – perhaps the thought of how much something like this would totally make my day and imagining how much it could make someone else's day too!

Thank you so much for the great ideas and for adding some happiness to my day 🙂
Anonymous on 22 June 2011 at 1:00 am

I love this!!! Can I ask a question? Is there certain trick to getting so many people to follow your blog!
Caryn on 22 June 2011 at 6:57 pm

I just stumbled upon this and I NEVER leave comments on stumbleupon but I found this to be so wonderful I couldn't help myself. Thanks for brightening my whole day and for a host of really good and useful ideas that I can't wait to try out! rock on!
CS on 23 June 2011 at 5:35 pm

So… My question is… how do you deal with life-long dreams that you can't accomplish?
- Anonymous on 22 January 2019 at 9:46 am
  
  I went through the same thing when my child was 12 months I went to school for early childhood education and just before I was about to finish the 1st half of my hours my babysitter fell through and I had no one to watch my daughter so I stopped going to school. 2 children later I am now back in school, my classes were paid for in full by the college and I have already taken 4 classes from last June until this January. God let me know that a delay is not a denial. I had no money for school and God paid that too. I surrendered my dreams and God made it happen, the Father of Jesus Christ. What He does for one He can do for all. Don’t give up! I’m praying for you. Without God we can do nothing but all things are possible through Him. It’s not by might, not by power but by my Spirit says the Lord of heaven’s armies.
Anonymous on 29 June 2011 at 8:51 pm

Haha thanks, feeling kinda low just in general and just reading the list made me feel a little better, before even attempting any of them. I like the idea of brightening someone else's day and my favourite has to be the hugs one. I love the idea of the whole free hugs thing and it's something i'd like to do before i die: just stand in some busy place with a sign and a friend. 🙂
Well thanks, nice ideas!
-Jess.
Anonymous on 23 August 2011 at 8:50 am

go auckland!
VanityofVanities on 20 September 2011 at 8:44 am

"Decide on a Lifelong Dream"

I love this way to cheer myself. indeed having a dream and ambition is a good start on looking forward for what we really want, and what we really want to become. This could give me focus also on the things that i must fight for and to not pursue those things that are not necessary for my life.

Thanks for sharing,
Cathy@embroidery digitising
Anonymous on 21 January 2012 at 11:52 am

Im going to go and buy some BUBBLES!!!!
Anonymous on 26 August 2012 at 4:25 am

Aw, this actually will cheer me up. I will start asap after i get better from this horrible flu. Thankyou so much. xD -anoymous anoymous. c:
Hannah M on 17 January 2014 at 7:17 pm

I thought I'd let you know that this post has inspired me to make my own blog and post about all the ways I can find to cheer myself up. Thank you :o)
Anonymous on 18 February 2014 at 4:26 pm

thanks for making me smile. I relly needed.
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