Sometimes, when I think about my friends I get a little verklempt. And by “a little verklempt” I mean “at least twice in the last year I’ve cried about how great my friends are” (?!)
When things are bad, they send me flowers, bring me magazines and hash browns, call me from New Zealand, and get just as upset as I am. When things are good, they shriek with joy, give me high fives, and tell me they’re proud of me. We speak in a series of inside jokes and talk each other out of questionable boots/haircuts/sweaters.
Just like a good romantic relationship, I never worry if they’re ‘into me.’ I don’t have to worry, because I know we’re all totally, totally in L-O-V-E with each other.
4 little ways to show people you love them
1. Post a funny photo or video on their Facebook page for their birthday
2. Send them an email with a memory about them
If you’ve fallen out of touch with someone, drop them an email about something awesome you did together.
Like that time you and Kathryn took the train to Taoyen, convinced you’d be able to find that basement hip hop club you went to one time and instead just ended up wandering around for two hours, drinking Red Bull and asking every 7-11 employee for directions in broken Chinese. You know.
It’s a great way to reopen communication, remind someone you still think of them, and just be awesome.
3. Tell their partner what they’d like for Christmas/their birthday
4. Remember the anniversary of tough stuff
So if your friend goes through something really tough – the loss of a family member or partner, a divorce, a miscarriage – mark that date on your calendar and in the coming years, make a point to email or text them on that date. Even if it’s just to say “I’m keeping you in my thoughts today.”
How do you show the people in your life that you love them? How do they show you?