Funnily enough, a few friends refer to me as “The One With Boundaries.” I have no idea if this is a compliment but I’m choosing to interpret it as one. While I’m (obviously!) a positive, yay-saying lady, I also have approximately zero tolerance for bullshit and I work to add awesome and subtract foolishness from my life.
If you want to spend our time together complaining about bad things that have happened to you – things that have happened before and should not come as a surprise – well, that’s not particularly enjoyable or enriching for anyone involved. I want to spend time with people who inspire me. I, personally, do not find repeated bad decisions inspiring.
Random, crazy, difficult things happen to all of us. But some people seem to invite the crazy. Clients who are late or mean, friends who do crazy, drunk things or yell or cry or throw things? Nope. I am too old for that ish. Really, anyone over the age of 22 is too old for that ish. I will happily be Facebook friends or see-you-at-the-party friends with a Drama Inducer, but that’s about as far as I’m willing to go.
People who complain constantly about things they have the power to change
For every thing there is a season, and I’m not in that season of life where I’m interested in dating someone who wants to date other people. If I like you enough to date you, I like you enough to date just you. Dating multiple people works for a lot of folks – I’m just not one of ’em. I’d rather spend my time + energy on one person and one relationship than spreading myself thin with several dudes I’m lukewarm about.
Does it strike you as ridiculous that a professional blogger can’t check email from her phone? Fair enough. But, it’s not an exaggeration to say that I’m addicted to the internet, and one of the ways I curb that is by making my phone an internet-free zone. Plus, it’s super annoying when you’re trying to have a deep and meaningful with your friend and she’s googling “Grumpy Cat + Santa hat.” I would be that friend. We’re all better off when I can’t get online from the nail salon.Taking on clients I wouldn’t be friends with
Of course, this doesn’t work out every.single.time but I try to limit my clients to people I’d want to meet for coffee or who appreciate my taste in stinky cheeses. I want to build my proverbial ‘tribe’ of like-minded awesome people whose products I, myself, would use.