I nattered on about 2015 and all the big, exciting, really difficult things that are coming my way this year. I talked (at length) about all the articles I was reading and the books I’d ordered so I could research everything in exhausting, minute detail. I discussed the counsel I’d sought in experienced friends and professionals.
I couldn’t shake the belief that no matter what I do, or how I prepare, I’m going to screw it up, ruin my business, and fall into a carb coma so deep I’ll never dig myself out from beneath all those buttered noodles.
After listening to me drone on for hours a few minutes, that calm, kind man said reminded me of a plot point featured in nearly every fantasy/sci-fi/magical book his sons read:
The wizard in the woodsWhen you’re the hero of your own story, you very frequently begin your journey with a cape and a staff and a interaction with a wise, mysterious wizard.
He’ll appear beside a gnarled tree and tell you all about the amazing things that await once you reach your goal. Gold! Self actualization! A castle! Your very own dragon!
But – he cautions you – your journey will be fraught with peril. You’ll meet temptation and distraction. You’ll doubt yourself, your travel companions, you’ll question why you ever started on this stupid adventure anyway.
It will be challenging because that’s the nature of adventure.
This is what happens when you go after what you want.
You’ll be required to show persistence and bravery. Yes, this will be hard, but you knew that. Hell, you expected that.
I immediately felt better. I have a tendency (like many of us) to only do things I’m good at. Apparently I also believe that research and preparation will protect me and if something’s hard, I’m doing it wrong.
But a lot of things in life – big career choices, friendships and relationships, huge athletic goals, moving to a new city – are hard and right. Next time you’re engaged in floor-pacing and hand-wringing, I’d encourage you to remember that wizard in the woods. This is your path and your adventure. You can do this.
Do you have a go-to analogy that helps you navigate hard times? I’d love to hear them in the comments!
P.P.S. No, I’m not pregnant nor am I attempting to become so. 🙂