How was your week, guys? Kenny and I had a little mid-week adventure at this gorgeous architect-designed … camper cabin. Since he’s a state employee now, we really try to take advantage of all the days he gets off. Veteran’s Day, ahoy! I also got to meet up with one of my usually-on-the -East-Coast clients here in Minneapolis!
But enough about me. Let’s talk about you, internet.
I wrote this post years ago in response to a reader email, but I find myself referencing it whenever I’m crying over current events. I hope this helps you fellow, empaths: How To Stay Optimistic When Everything Is Horrible.
Welp, my college dorm certainly didn’t look like this.
Christmas breakfast = almond joy rolls.
Dinner tonight = squash noodle soup.
I looooved this post about the reality of ‘Midwestern Nice.’ Really beautifully written.
To live in the Midwest is to experience two realities: the first, all sunshine and bland pleasantries among other potluck-suppering churchgoers; the other, a red-lit underworld where people relay vulgarities through the learned second language of euphemism, eye rolls and loaded silence.
Related: a lot of people say that the Twin Cities are incredibly insular and that it’s really hard to make friends here. If you’re looking for new buddies in MSP, check out Break The Bubble!
If your Thanksgiving is going to include nosy relatives or a creepy uncle who keeps trying to give you “shoulder rubs” this is for you.
And if you’re hosting Thanksgiving like me, let’s familiarize ourselves with how to fix/prevent common entertaining mishaps
Well, forpetesake. This is adorable.
New podcast obsession: Every Branch. Brooke and Sarah cover topics like transforming the mundane, using mistakes creatively, and integrating work and play. Love it!
Have you ever wondered what it’s like to raise a kid on your own?
The hardest bit isn’t having nobody to share the burden, it’s having no one to share the love. Nobody right there when your child tells their teddy that “people are bears, too, but with bones inside”, which you think is the most amazing thing in the history of the world, but you have a creeping suspicion nobody else will, and you can’t go on Facebook or ring your mother again.
A beautifully written piece on why Serena Williams is important.
Imagine that you’re the player John McEnroe recently described as ‘‘the greatest player, I think, that ever lived.’’ Imagine that, despite all this, there were so many bad calls against you, you were given as one reason video replay needed to be used on the courts. Imagine that you have to contend with critiques of your body that perpetuate racist notions that black women are hypermasculine and unattractive. Imagine being asked to comment at a news conference before a tournament because the president of the Russian Tennis Federation, Shamil Tarpischev, has described you and your sister as ‘‘brothers’’ who are ‘‘scary’’ to look at. Imagine.
I LOVE hearing about people who make huge changes in their life anytime after the age of, oh, 30. Anna Dorfman – everyone’s favorite design blogger – just turned forty. She also moved from NYC to a small town in New Mexico, quit her job of 16 years, and amicably ended her marriage. And she’s doing great! Hats off to you, Anna, and best wishes on your new beginning!
A reminder to dudes who tell women to smile: you’re not the boss of my face.
If you’re offended when people say “Happy Holidays” instead of “Merry Christmas” I’d encourage you to read this.
And a few Yes & Yes posts you might have missed: How to spring clean your mind + life, That time I left an enormous tip, How to do things by yourself (and actually enjoy them!)