Web Time Wasters

As you read this, I’m in Costa Rica leading a group for my friend’s retreat company, Fit & Fly Girl. So lucky, right?

I think it’s really important to be forthcoming in situations like this, situations where someone fills their Instagram feed with beautiful, expensive-looking experiences. It’s SO EASY to look at that stuff and feel less-than. It’s so easy to think “Why don’t I look like that/own that/experience that?!”

So I’d like to say:

• I’m literally working. Like, this is a contracted job.
• When you see photos of the swanky place I’m staying or the cool things I’m doing, obviously I didn’t pay for any of that.

I wish more people were honest about things like this! Talking about money is a gift to everyone around you!

If you’d like to see photos of beaches, coconuts, and me taking my first ever surfing lesson (!!!) you can follow along on Instagram.

Links for you!

Goal setting isn’t limited to January first! I loved this podcast episode about the art of goal-setting and doing 90-day stints.

Such a good reminder about our careers and leadership: it’s a journey, not a destination.

This sweet potato and quinoa burger looks amazing! And I’m intrigued by this avocado and citrus ‘ceviche.’

I know many of us use Go Daddy to host our sites, despite their 1.2 star customer service ratings. May I point you towards Lyrical Host instead? Woman-owned with several different hosting options!

This service looks amazing! Part personal stylist, part StitchFix, part Cher’s closet from Clueless!

Fascinating interviews with four women who choose to live in isolation.
“I lost my dad and London had become unbearable. I was having panic attacks on the Tube. It’s really unbearable for something like that to happen, then to come back to your city and be faced with hundreds of people who seem like they don’t care. No one is stopping their day. You want to stop people and say, ‘Don’t you realise this thing has happened?’ but you can’t. I had come back to my old life and everything around me was the same but everything in my life was different. I felt I needed to make a change that would fully represent that, something that would match the scale of what had happened.”

What’s online dating like for women of color?
A certain thirtysomething Bumble user texted me: “We would prob make the most adorable east asian babies.” Sure, I think he was trying to be complimentary, but I couldn’t help but feel distilled down to a category. I wasn’t Priya; I was nonwhite person number X.

How many of the Oscar-nominated movies have you seen? Here’s where you can stream some of them!

What’s your stance on Glossier products? I’ve never used any of them but I know tons of people who swear by them. This interview with the founder was fascinating.
When she was in seventh grade, she wrote a Letter to the Editor to Vogue after admiring an Arthur Elgort shoot starring the model Trish Goff. “I wrote in and said, ‘Thank you for showing young women how to wear short skirts in a classy way, Signed, Emily Weiss, Wilton, Connecticut.’ When they published it, I died.”

She babysat on weekends for a neighbor who worked at Ralph Lauren. “It was like, ‘I like your kid and all, but what I really want is to work at Ralph Lauren,’ ” Weiss says.

Related: are you listening to Forever35? It’s a podcast about taking care of our bodies and all that entails – juices, face masks, baths etc.

Hope you had a lovely weekend, friends!