This trailer made me so uncomfortable I couldn’t watch all of it – which means I need to watch the movie.
How was your week, friends? Minnesota was buried in a blizzard, as I’m sure you heard. I had coffee dates with friends, painted the bathroom, and shoveled SO MUCH SNOW.
Links for you!
Less than thrilled about how the president has treated Ilham Omar? Here’s a script for calling your reps and telling them that.
Related: I’m in the beginning stages of creating a Yes & Yes podcast and I am forever lol-ing at Creative Commons music. Did you know there’s an entire album called ‘Corporate and Motivational Music‘ with track titles like ‘Driven To Success’? It’s true.
Body positivity applies to men, too. I appreciate the type of bodies this brand is using.
I wish my 2002 self had read these thoughts about ethical traveling, poverty, and photography.
If you fantasize about buying an abandoned mansion and returning it to its former glory, this six-bedroom, three-bathroom historical home is $185,000 in St. Paul. I would watch a reality tv show about who ever buys this house!
If you watch my Instagram Stories, you saw me share the tale of my averted financial-assholery (trying to get everything for free and not supporting people or businesses who benefit me on a regular basis when I can absolutely afford t0). Related: 15 ways to support artists for free!
Our collective cool aunt Anne Lammot is getting married!
Wowsers is this house gorgeous.
I loved Amy’s budget-friendly advice on starting an online business. I ran a profitable business for YEARS with a $300 netbook, a Paypal account, and a yahoo email account. It’s not nearly as complicated as we make it!
Gorgeous photos from … SNL?
I have SO MANY FEELINGS about money, consumption, competition, the way we talk about + think about all of the above. I loved what Paul wrote about keeping up with the Insta-Joneses.
The act of trying to keep up is an inaccurate comparison though and debt doesn’t photograph well.
We’re comparing the things others want us to see, with our own reality. Because flaws and overdue credit card bills, problems and the sometimes-mundane of day-to-day existence doesn’t photograph that well. We get to choose what we share (and what we don’t), and in this never-ending game of one-ups-person-ship, we act as if we’ve got things together at all times, for the sake of our own social status. Picturesque vacations (we can’t afford), private jets (rented on the runway), and on-trend clothes (we can’t wear twice on camera).
This comparison trap with the Insta-Joneses isn’t just a thief of joy. It’s a thief of our pay cheques as well. The lie this “keeping up” tells us is that everyone else is living well except for us. Everyone else has the nice things they deserve except for us. Everyone else is more interesting, more picturesque, more socially accepted than us. And we end up feeling bad because shouldn’t we have nice things too? Don’t we deserve to be happy enough to conspicuously consume as well?
Hope you had a lovely week!