How was your week, friends? I had a super busy week of mutually beneficial brain picking, walking around lakes, and joyfully fussing with the yard. This weekend we hosted a family barbecue, helped a friend celebrate her graduation, and protested the separation of immigrant families.
Links for you!
How do you regain your confidence after a stumble?
Kenny bike commutes to work every day so I loved this cycling safety hack involved a … pool noodle? (Thus far, I have not convinced him to do this.)
What if you disconnected exercise from eating? Like, exercise wasn’t ‘punishment’ for eating something ‘bad’?
Who doesn’t love a good listicle? Parenting hacks that I’ve truly never heard before.
One of the habits I picked up from years of traveling international on my own is to a) stay out of arm’s reach of any man I walk past
b) cover my chest with the arm that’s nearest them. Depressing, right? Thus, I enjoyed this article: How to play Patriarchy Chicken: why I refuse to move out of the way for men
If you don’t move out of the way for men, your commute changes. For one thing – I’m not going to lie about this – you do collide with a lot of men. This is where the name of the game comes from. You need to really commit to Patriarchy Chicken: don’t let your social instinct to step to the side kick in. Men are going to walk into you: that isn’t your fault.
Somewhat related: Cardinal rules for safe, solo lady travel.
Some thoughts on minimum wage, the businesses that pay minimum wage, and who’s ‘supposed to’ be working those jobs.
YESSSSS. What’s the difference between ‘having boundaries’ and ‘refusing to interact with anyone who doesn’t do everything exactly the way you want‘?
When it comes to sustainability, it can feel like the ‘best’ thing to do is replace all the things we currently own with bamboo this, stainless steel that, organic cotton everything. A good reminder.
And if you think sustainable stuff is too expensive, remember that buying second hand is always better than buying pretty much ANYTHING new. Even those cute organic linen pants! If you’re overwhelmed by thrifting, I share all my best tips here.
One of things I teach in Make It Stick Habit School is the importance of building new neural pathways. If you’re like “Huh?” this article is a good place to start: What It Takes To Change Your Brain’s Patterns After Age 25
If you want to keep your brain agile, you’re going to have to hone in on parts of the brain that you use less frequently, says Swart. And this new task has to be so challenging that you’ll feel mentally and physically exhausted after practicing the task because you’re forcing your brain to work in ways it’s unaccustomed to. This is the only way you’ll actually grow new neurons strong enough to connect with existing neurons, forming new pathways.