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How to find your dream apartment

Want to find your dream apartment? Don't we all! I've rented 13 apartments in 17 years - all my best tips are here! // yesandyes.org
Did you know that I’m oddly passionate about …. renting?

Such a sexy, hot-button topic, right? I’m also Pretty Serious about refugee resettlement and climate change but if you want me to get really excited? Let’s talk about mortgage rates or how to make your apartment look great on a budget.

Of course, there are many reasons to buy and maybe homeownership is totally, totally right for you. But when you own, housing-related costs are usually the biggest expenses in your budget. Homeowners have less free time due to the upkeep that houses require. If something in your life changes – you get divorced or married, you get an amazing job offer, your family grows or shrinks – it could take years to sell your home and find a new space that fits your new life.

If you want to buy a home, you should do it!

If you want the freedom of renting, come sit next to me and let’s talk about how to find your dream rental – something in a cool neighborhood, with affordable rent, and an awesome landlord.

After 13 rentals in 17 years, I’ve got this ish DOWN. Here are all the questions you should ask yourself before you sign a lease, plus some handy tricks to find the best places!

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How To Hygge (Or: 29 Ways To Actually Enjoy Winter)

Want to know how to Hygge? Looking for things to do in winter or winter survival tips? You're in the right place! Click through for advice from a 3rd-generation Minnesotan about how to survive winter! #hygge #wintertips #cozy
Imagine looking forward to the cold and dark of winter.

Can you picture it?

Pulling out your favorite soup recipes and a pile of cozy sweaters.

Lighting candles around the house and inviting friends over for sledding and board games.

Snowshoeing through a forest muffled with snow, towards a bright cabin full of your favorite people

When we put it like that, six months of dark and cold seems almost …. pleasant.

If you’ve never heard of hygge before, it’s the Danish concept of warm coziness during the winter months. It’s “creating a warm atmosphere and enjoying the good things in life with good people” (according to Denmark’s official tourism website.)  Those Danes actually enjoy winter! They embrace it and look forward to it! Whaaaaatttt?!!

And as a third-generation Minnesotan of Scandinavian descent, I know a thing (or 29) about winter. I know how to cozy down and warm up.

So if you, too, are looking for a more social, more enjoyable winter – this post is for you. Bookmark it for the coming months when the excitement of the holidays has worn off and now it’s just cold and dark and dreary. Pour yourself something warm, settle in, and have a read.

How to Hygge (or at least hate winter less) 

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How To Chase Your Dreams Without Hating Your Life

Can you chase your dreams while still having a social life? Can you chase our dreams without going broke? Do you really need to drop $$ on a new computer or camera? Click through for 12 tips from people who have made it happen // yesandyes.org

When I was nine years old, I told my parents I wanted to be a writer.

Loving and supportive and deeply pragmatic as they were, my parents patted my tiny, third-grade hand and said, “That’s great! Maybe you should get another job and write at night. See how that goes first?”

And while I resented their advice even at that young age, I followed it. For years, I taught ESL at a non-profit, coming in early and leaving late so I could write on my work computer.

For two years, I spent every 45-minute lunch break leaving comments on other blogs. I learned to live on, like, $2 because I was saving money to leap into self-employment.

While all this sounds a bit hard-assed and dire in retrospect, I’ve discovered that it’s not unique. Nearly every dream-chaser and goal-achiever I know has a similar story! Last month, Rêve Consulting invited five dream-pursuers and me to speak about what we’ve learned by chasing big, audacious ambitions. I was amazed that so many of us shared similar epiphanies!

Below, you’ll find some of my personal revelations as well as those of Tricia Khutoretsky, founder and curator of the Public Functionary art gallery, Jamie Millard co-executive director of Pollen Midwest, and my husband Dr. Kenny Blumenfeld, senior climatologist for the state of Minnesota.

12 things you learn while chasing your dreams­­­­­­­

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11 Charming, Clever DIY Headboards

Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!

Have you ever noticed that headboards are weirdly expensive? How is this piece of wood that keeps my pillow from falling down between the mattress and wall $500?

Thankfully, ASID-certified interior designer Liz is here to help!


Now that I am officially done with mourning the loss of summer, it’s time to pick myself up and focus on the best thing about autumn. The perfect windows-open sleeping weather is here, at least in Cleveland. My constant desire to snuggle under a cozy blanket has me thinking a lot about beautiful beds and I’ve come to a conclusion: it’s hard to have a proper adult bedroom without a headboard.

Jamming your pillows right up to a plain wall just doesn’t seem quite as luxurious as the finishing touch of something to lean against while watching the Big Lebowski for the eleventy-third time. Sadly, this is my life!

My 100-year old apartment has tiny bedrooms and losing a few inches to a headboard means my glorious king bed won’t fit.

But, I’m determined to rectify this so I’ve rounded up a few of my favorite unconventional headboards that scoff at spatial and budgetary constraints. I’m skipping using room divider screens, palette wood, and reclaimed doors because they’re all over the interwebs.

11 Charming, Clever DIY Headboards 

My favorite is always the classic upholstered headboard with linen bedding. Do it on a budget by upholstering a large sheet of foam core

Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!

Work wallpaper into a strong vertical line by placing it to the ceiling, but not much wider than the bed. Your ceilings will look taller. There are a bunch of inexpensive removable wallpapers on the market right now. Or, you could starch a piece of fabric to the wall for the same look.

Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!

Spruce up a DIY palette bed with a ye olde wall map. You could work a palette as a headboard, but I’m a little tired of seeing them. Is that just me? Probably.

Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!

Wallpaper or stencils can be applied to mimic a traditionally shaped headboard, but without the price tag or commitment to power tools.

Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!

Go big with height and width and install reclaimed ceiling tiles right to the wall. Make sure the edges aren’t sharp! You could always frame around the edges with strips of 1x to ensure nothing snags. Bonus points for a regal pet.
Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!
Keeping the reclaimed building materials theme going, how sweet is this mantel turned headboard? It’s a great alternative where there isn’t the width for bedside tables.
Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!
In a nod to traditional tapestry hangings, a dowel rod and a favorite fabric will pull the eye up and lend an extra layer of softness.
Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!
So will a rug. A RUG! I’m doing this in my next guest bedroom.
Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!
 Can’t find a proper headboard to fit under a high window sill? Use floor or seat cushions!
Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!
I’m obsessed with the idea of framing cork or peg board as a headboard.
Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!
And last (and most definitely not least), just paint a headboard right on the wall. Bravo to this designer for having the guts to do it in black chalkboard paint. Just use a chalk marker so you don’t get the dust of normal chalk.
Looking for DIY headboard ideas? You're in the right place! Don't blow $$$ on a new headboard, make one yourself instead!
And there you have it, a bunch of well-put together beds that will make you feel like a proper adult.  Just remember to Treat Yo Self and invest in quality sheets to make your slumber that much more luxurious.
Thanks so much for the great ideas, Liz! Have you guys DIY-ed a headboard? Share your tips in the comments!
Photos by Project Newton Corner // Bellechasse 2 // Louise de Miranda // Louise de Miranda // Farrow & Ball // House Nerd // Dreamy Whites // Castro Residence // NW 13th Avenue Loft //  Sleeping Loft // Fells Point // Headboard guest post // cc

How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments

Yes! You CAN DIY window treatments that look nice and don't cost a fortune. Click through for 9 ideas that will help you deal with low ceilings, small budgets, and even un-removable blinds. // yesandyes.org

Window treatments are weirdly expensive, aren’t they? Like, how are those curtains HUNDREDS OF DOLLARS???

Thankfully, we have Liz to helps us DIY window treatments that won’t break the bank. And Liz is an ASID professional designer so you know she knows what’s up!


Hello, friends! I’m back this month to talk about an aspect of design that often makes me a little batty… window treatments.

Exquisitely detailed custom silk draperies make my heart swell when they’re done right, but the cost associated makes my eye twitch.

Most of my clients aren’t in their “forever homes,” so I feel like it’s a disservice to use a big chunk of the budget on expensive window treatments that likely won’t work in their next place. But, most off-the-shelf drapery panels leave a little to be desired. So I’m here to discuss some the land of the middle.

Before I get into the details, I have one demand: just say “no” to heavy, swagged, multi-layer draperies that are out of place anywhere other than a legit mansion. Simplicity goes a long way when it comes to window treatments.

Start by thinking about what sort of fabric you want to use. If going the ready-made route, stay away from faux satins and silks since they tend to look cheap. Cotton blends are my favorite.

If you need to blackout or insulation properties but are gasping at the cost of lined drapes, order some Roc-Lon instead and add it behind your panels.

If going the DIY route and sewing isn’t your bag, source wide fabrics with pre-finished edges. Sheets, drop cloths, table cloths, duvet covers, and burlap are all great options when finished out with lining. Drapery clip rings are the quickest way of securing the fabric to the rod.

How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments // yesandyes.orgMost bathroom, kitchen, or windows with a sill high off the ground can get a shade. Skip the mini blinds and go for a bamboo stick-shade or roman fabric shade. There isn’t much of a cost difference if you get them from the right place. Cough cough, IKEA, cough. Or, you could craft a faux shade out of any piece of cloth… placemat, scarf, pillowcase, or your old Coachella shirt.

How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments // yesandyes.org
Height of draperies is really important. Do yourself a favor and skip the 84” tall panels if the top of your window frame is 78” or taller. Instead, go with a 96” panel or longer and hang them as high as you can, extending at least 6” on the sides of the frame. Your ceilings will look taller when the drapes are hung higher on the wall, particularly if the fabric color is close to the wall color.
How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments // yesandyes.orgIf you’re working with a series of windows, consider using long rods and individual panels for each window. Again, it will make your ceilings look taller!
How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments // yesandyes.org
A top valance can hide mini-blinds that your landlord won’t let you remove.
How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments // yesandyes.org
Hide off-center windows and make small rooms look larger by draping an entire wall.
How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments // yesandyes.org
Help open floor plans flow by choosing similarly colored draperies in adjacent rooms. Also take a look at how the shades are layered to create a luxe look and make the windows appear taller by hiding the space above the window frame.
How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments // yesandyes.org
Did your landlord paint the ceiling the same color as the walls? Create strong vertical lines that help the room look less monolithic by opting for bold drapes that hug the ceiling.
 How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments // yesandyes.org
And finally, if you’re lucky enough to have high ceilings, you can get those extra-long drapes by adding panels to the bottom of normal height drapes! It’s a look that’s on-trend right now and your wallet will be happy.
How To DIY Cheap, Classy Looking Window Treatments // yesandyes.org
Confused about terms? Drapes are full width and will close fully; curtains are stationary panels. I just learned this a few months ago, which is quite sad for a professional designer!

And there you have it! I’m happy to answer window treatment questions in the comments.

P.S. How to fill your home with cheap, beautiful things from thrift stores

Sources: 1. Window Treatment Ideas  // 2. Window Coverings // 3. Lombardy Lane // 4. Young House Love // 5. Jan Hiltz Interiors LLC // 6. Ashton Woods Master Bedrooms // 7. Philadelphia Penthouse // 8. Small room, big curtains // 9. Lynwood Remodel // 10. Modern Interior Design //  11. Belleview Project

How To Replace Your Apartment’s Terrible Lighting

You're not stuck with that terrible boob light! You can replace your apartment's lighting! (Or at least disguise it or work around it.) Click through for where to place lighting, which height to put your lighting sources, and even which light bulbs to buy >> yesandyes.org

Want to replace your apartment’s lighting? Trick question! Of course you do! Who actually enjoys those ubiquitous “boob” lights?!

Today, I brought in professional interior designer Liz to tell us all how we can upgrade our lighting without breaking the bank


My biggest complaint about rental living is the terrible lighting. Most apartments come with cheapie fixtures that throw off stage-level illumination from overhead: the most unflattering of lighting situations.
When planning a professional design project, I like to take an approach that’s layered so that illumination is coming from more than one source and height. Balance is also important, so I like to use a lot of sources scattered around the room, rather than a central fixture that’s overwhelmingly bright yet leaves the corners dark.

As a life-long renter, I know how frustrating it can be to not have recessed cans, hard-wired sconces, or dimmers to control light with precision. So let’s focus on how to get that luxe, layered look in a way that’s achievable in any apartment.

4 ways to replace, repair or disguise your apartment’s bad lighting

Let’s take a minute to admire this room, shall we?

How To Replace Your Apartment's Terrible Lighting // yesandyes.org

The design of the room is ultimately successful because of good lighting. The general illumination comes from the ceiling fixture, yet it’s not too bright (although a show-stopper).

Otherwise, dark corners are balanced out with lamps that cast a warm glow that’s inviting and cozy. The lamps provide eye-level lighting while seated, which is the most flattering light for your face.

If the only light source is over your head, it can be a little harsh; think about every sad fitting room, ever. So break up with the $20 torch lamps from college and explore the myriad of lighting choices out there.

You're not stuck with that terrible boob light! You can replace your apartment's lighting! (Or at least disguise it or work around it.) Click through for where to place lighting, which height to put your lighting sources, and even which light bulbs to buy >> yesandyes.org
Lamps are probably the easiest way to bring task, accent, or general illumination into an existing space without disturbing your landlord’s place. There are seemingly endless options available and at all price points.
Do yourself a favor and buy a pack of 3 matching lamps from your local big-box store. Stick them in poorly lit corners of your rooms, suck them into bookshelves, or use a pair on a sofa table.

Floor lamps are often overlooked, but can anchor a vignette and make up for a lack of overhead lighting. Create a real dining room in a loft or otherwise non-compartmentalized space with a simple arc floor lamp like shown here.

You're not stuck with that terrible boob light! You can replace your apartment's lighting! (Or at least disguise it or work around it.) Click through for where to place lighting, which height to put your lighting sources, and even which light bulbs to buy >> yesandyes.org
The “chandelier” in my dining room is too small and mounted about two feet too high. My plan is to conceal it with a huge drum fixture as shown in the picture below. It’s a great way to work with terrible rental fixtures.
If you’re lucky enough to be able to swap hard-wired fixtures, create an intimate dining space by hanging so the bottom of the fixture is 30-36” above the table.
pendant light above dining room table
Pendants on long cords can get worked into living room corners or flanking beds when table lamps aren’t wanted. Ultimate flexibility!

pendant lights in bedrooms

Looking for something adjustable? Consider creating a reading nook with a library sconce! No bedside table needed; just hang on the wall and use a cord cover to finish off the look.

wall lighting sconce

Once you have the fixtures in place, think about the level of illumination. Bathrooms and kitchens should be bright, but bedrooms and casual entertaining spaces feel most comfortable when the lighting isn’t harsh. Use plug-in or wireless dimmers for maximum flexibility.

For a less expensive option, use lower wattage bulbs. Most fixtures in my place have 40w Edisons (it’s cool, I trade my lack of AC for fancy bulbs!). If using LED bulbs, go with the lowest light temperature number; 2700k will look closest to a regular incandescent.

And don’t forget about stylized bulbs if you want to roll without shades or remove existing ones that are terrible. Low cost, big impact!

fancy lightbulbs

Have you got a lighting conundrum? If you do, tell us about it in the comments and Liz will weigh in with advice!

P.S. How to work with a galley kitchen

Sources: 1. Bergen Street Residence // 2. 55 Central Park West // 3. FORMA Design // 4. Choice Dining Galley // 5. East London Flat // 6. Master Bedroom // emily may