I’m clicking through one of those quizzes people share on Facebook, feeling preemptively smug.
Click. Click. Click. Self-congratulatory back pat.
My results appear on the page and I grimace. Apparently, that self-congratulatory back pat was not earned.
I scored a 35 on the quiz in question: “Do you live in bubble?” And if I hadn’t worked as a teacher (“Have you ever had a job that caused you to be on your feet all day?”) or grown up in rural Minnesota (“Have you ever lived for more than a year in a city with fewer than 50,000 people?”) I would have scored a 14.
Good lord, it is easy to surround ourselves with people who look, act, and think like us. It’s so nice to meet all my college-educated, liberal, feminist friends for coffee and validate the ish out of each other’s opinions and life choices! It’s so comfortable to drive my Prius to J Selby’s and order a $10 Buffalo Soy Curl Wrap with my vegan friends!
But – and I know you know this – we don’t grow by surrounding ourselves with people and ideas that don’t challenge us.
It’s an overcast spring day and my friend and I are walking our dogs around Lake Nokomis. We’re drinking takeaway coffees and engaging in one of those it’s-been-too-long-tell-me-evvvvverything conversations. To be totally honest, I was busy fiddling with Loretta’s poop bags when I tuned back into the conversation and heard my friend say: “… and those are the hallmarks of my Best Self. That’s how I knew I’d made the right decision.”
It’s already August and – as per the usual – I’m haunted by the belief that I haven’t “Summered correctly.” I haven’t gone swimming enough, taken enough roadtrips, and I’ve eaten nary a snow cone. FAIL.
So I’m taking the next two weeks off to:
a) live out a life time dream of visiting Prince Edward Island
b) get a bunch of business-y stuff set up behind the scenes
I’ll be sharing some of my favorite vintage Summer-y posts over the next 15 days so if you stop by there will still be fresh(ish) content here on the Yes & Yes homepage.
I’ll still be on Instagram and Facebook during this break, probably overwhelming you with photos of beaches and Tim Hortons, so follow at your own risk 😉
See you on the 16th and thanks for making Yes & Yes part of your online life!
You’re smart. You already know that good habits will get you closer to the life you want.
And you’re totally aware of the bad habits that are pushing you further from your goals.
But you just can’t seem to make habit change stick. You drink smoothies every morning for a few days and then fall off the wagon. You resist Netflix binges for a few weeks, but then you have a bad day and you’re back at it.
You see other people who seem to have all figured out. You wonder what they know that you don’t.
“How can she go running every morning? Doesn’t she ever want to sleep in?”
“He never seems tempted to order a third beer. Why not? Where does he get all that self-control?”
“Every day she unpacks some impressive salad she brought from home and I’m over here with my mediocre $10 deli sandwich. Why can’t I be like that?”
You already know what you should be doing. You just need your brain and body listen. This 6-step system and self-paced course will help you understand how to make habit change stick – for good.
Your good habits feel effortless and almost second nature
You’re finally free of those bad habits that have dogged you for years
You’re not tempted or easily derailed; you don’t waste energy struggling with self-control
If you do fall off the wagon, you treat yourself with compassion and grace; then you get back up and keep going
“This course helped me realize that working out/being active every day is key to my happiness: I feel better, eat better, and look better when I do. With Sarah’s humor, humility, and science-backed strategies, I haven’t missed a workout since I took the class. I know I’ll miss a day eventually, but Make It Stick has also prepared me to lessen the impact of that by planning alternate activities and, most importantly, going easy on myself.” – Bobby S.
“This course really forced me to be honest with myself about why I’m doing or not doing things. Now that I understand my own motivations and triggers, it’s so much easier to change my habits!” – Geraline M.
What you’ll gain in this course:
A specific-to-you plan for changing your habits
An understanding of why your attempts at habit change have failed in the past
Science-backed strategies for avoiding temptation and reinforcing good habits
Methods you can apply over and over again, to any habit you want to make or break
After you sign up, you’ll immediately have access to:
8 self-paced modules
9 video lessons
9 audio versions of that same lessons so you can listen at the gym or in your car
You will be taken to an order form. Once your purchase is complete, you’ll receive an email with your workbook and access to the whole course!
“This is the magic formula. I’ve been trying to build a regular fitness habit for a decade, but I wasn’t allowing myself room for any deviation whatsoever. Now I have a whole collection of mini ‘bookmark’ activities that I love to do, so that when I can’t get in a ‘real’ workout, I’m still moving my body every day and maintaining my habit.” – Erin G.
“Where was this information all my life?!! Habit School helped my discover why my new habits haven’t stuck in the past. The suggestions to focus on how I feel when I do the bad habit, and then what I want to feel is mind-shifting!” – Amy C.
We’re more than halfway through 2017. I’d love to help you make the second half of this year better than the first! You can read more about Make It Stick Habit Schoolhere or click below to join us right now!
This country (and planet) is made up of individuals. Many of our individual choices got us here and our individual choices can make a difference now, too.
Donald Trump can’t stop us from recycling or composting.
We’re signed up for Hennepin County’s organics recycling program and we loooove it. In case you were wondering, it’s not gross and nothing smells. If your city doesn’t offer composting, this countertop compost bin is cute, costs $22 and has 5,000+ five star reviews.
Donald Trump can’t stop us from reusing things and using fewer disposable items.
It’s only 6 am and I already hate everything. I’ve been awake for three hours and I’ve already tangled with my Lyft driver and spent $9 ill-advised dollars on airport donuts. I’ve battled for the armrest and been called ‘honey’ by the guy sitting next to me. I’ve questioned the wisdom of wearing skinny jeans on a six-hour flight. I’ve moved ‘air travel’ into the Unpleasant Situation column in my mental spreadsheet. Do you have an Unpleasant Situation column in your mental spreadsheet? Or a Things I Dread box? Maybe you have an Experiences I Hate But Can’t Avoid list. Dude, me too. But what if it didn’t have to be like that? What if we could make unpleasant situations – any unpleasant situation – suck less? We can! The good news: we can use the same six steps to make any shitty situation less awful. Long flights, the busy season at work, houseguests you didn’t invite and don’t enjoy – the same six steps apply to all of the above. The bad news: even if we execute each of these steps perfectly, I’m not sure we can turn an Unpleasant Situation into a Perfectly Enjoyable Situation. Going to your partner’s family reunion in the middle of nowhere is never going to be the same as heading to Italy for two weeks. Painting the exterior of your house at the height of summer is never going to feel like a day at the spa. But! With some forethought and a slightly better mindset we can make unpleasant situations suck less.