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What’s you get up to this week, friends? It was sweltering here in Minneapolis, so I drank lots of iced coffee with friends, sat in a dark, air conditioned theater to see The Rider, and on Saturday we went to a wedding at the Science Museum that united a North Dakotan and a Cajun in matrimony and the the food was as great as you’re imagining!

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I’m reading this novel set in Wisconsin and Vermont in preparation for our upcoming trip to Vermont and it’s lovely. I guess there’s a reason it’s “one of the greatest and most cherished American novels of the twentieth century”!

A list of apps, plugins, and ideas that are saving one woman’s digital life right now.

This woman is living her best life! (And my dream life in 20+ years!)

An interview with a (non-violent) psychopath. Fascinating!
Do you ever feel afraid?

We don’t feel fear. We get adrenal responses. When you have adrenaline responses to a car accident, or bungee jumping, or what have you, we’ll still get that, but for us, we don’t feel the fear, which can be obviously dangerous if you’re a little kid, and you don’t know you’re supposed to be afraid of stuff. We don’t process the emotion of fear. It doesn’t occur to us. And we can’t understand it, either. I mean, we get that you feel something, but we don’t get it.

21 simple things to try when you’re bored (instead of surfing the internet) 

New Zealand wants to treat domestic violence like a contagious disease

How to tell if you’re mansplaining

Proud of you, Minneapolis!

You read Beyonce’s interview in Vogue, right?
It’s important to me that I help open doors for younger artists. There are so many cultural and societal barriers to entry that I like to do what I can to level the playing field, to present a different point of view for people who may feel like their voices don’t matter.

Related: You can pull people up the ladder behind you

A reminder to my fellow Nice Midwestern Women: You don’t own anyone an interaction.
Will some people have hurt feelings if you decline their invitations and delete their messages? Probably. That’s tough to accept, but the alternative is worse. Trying to manage other people’s emotions while tuning out your own is exhausting. It harms your health and your relationships.

We’ve been conditioned to believe that being kind means being available 24/7. But if we don’t guard our time, our ability to be kind erodes.

Related: Are you wasting your likable  on the wrong people?

If there are children in your life: are you a ‘carpenter’ or a ‘gardener’?

Hope you had a great weekend, friends!

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So proud to call Ilhan Omar one of Minnesota’s own! Fellow Minnesotans: remember to vote in the primary on Tuesday! Here’s everything you need to know about the candidates and races. 

How was your week, friends? I crossed ‘hammock camping’ off my New Things List and was surprised to discover I liked it! It is a million times easier and more fun than tent camping.

I also opened my super-affordable ($35!) super effective class Bank Boost on Wednesday. In the last three months, Bank Boost students have collectively added more than $45,000 to their bank accounts! Class starts tomorrow, so if you’re keen to join us, now is the time!

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What’d you get up to this week, friends? I mean, besides reading the news and tearing your hair out? I brunched with some of my favorite self-employed ladies, was interviewed for two podcasts (I’ll let you know when they’re live!), and attended my friend’s annual .10k party. Yes, you read that correctly. POINT 10 k. So fun!

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Do You Have a ‘Me In 5 Years’ Role Model?

This post is brought to you by rock music, pink hair, the letter A, and Amy Edwards. 

Have you ever heard that life-coachy phrase “If you can’t see it, you can’t be it”?

If we can look past the rhyme for a moment, that cheesy phrase reminds us that if we don’t see someone doing/acting/living in a certain way, it’s hard for us to imagine a future like that for ourselves.

Since I got married and became a stepmom, I’ve been looking for a “me in five years” role model. I wanted to see a woman in her early forties living a life that looked like what I wanted for myself.

I wanted to see a woman who took her role as a wife and parent seriously … but didn’t let those roles define her exclusively. I wanted to see a wife and mom who had an exciting creative career, took trips with her friends, took risks, and wore things other than, like, khaki capris.

Weirdly, women like this – adventurous, sexy, outspoken, creative women in their forties who also happen to be wives and moms – are hard to find on the internet.

Till I found Amy.

Amy is a singer, songwriter, and author who picked up a guitar for the first time at age 38. She writes about staying motivated and being a force in the world even when you’re not feeling it. She’s an activist, a great mom, a loving wife, and an unabashed pink-hair haver.

If you’re looking for woman who’s living her life in a way that works for her, I think you’ll love Amy.

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How was your week, friends? I spent the weekend and Monday at my parents’ house, digging through bins of paraphernalia from my high school and college days. I unearthed soooo many mix cds and had The Best Time listening to them on the drive back to Minneapolis. Late 90s Ani DiFranco A+ would recommend will be listening to repeatedly.

Awesome things from a few of my lovely sponsors

Are you a coach? Or maybe you want to become one? Hillary Rubin is hosting a free (!) 5-day, live interview series with some of the most successful coaches in the land! Even if you’re not a coach, you might love this post about getting over perfectionism.

I want to send a link to Whisked Away Travel to anyone who’d ever consider buying me a gift. They plan surprise trips for you OR for someone you love! You choose the continent/budget/time frame and they plan the trip! Funnnn!