What’s you get up to this week, friends? It was sweltering here in Minneapolis, so I drank lots of iced coffee with friends, sat in a dark, air conditioned theater to see The Rider, and on Saturday we went to a wedding at the Science Museum that united a North Dakotan and a Cajun in matrimony and the the food was as great as you’re imagining!
Links for you
I’m reading this novel set in Wisconsin and Vermont in preparation for our upcoming trip to Vermont and it’s lovely. I guess there’s a reason it’s “one of the greatest and most cherished American novels of the twentieth century”!
A list of apps, plugins, and ideas that are saving one woman’s digital life right now.
This woman is living her best life! (And my dream life in 20+ years!)
An interview with a (non-violent) psychopath. Fascinating!
Do you ever feel afraid?
We don’t feel fear. We get adrenal responses. When you have adrenaline responses to a car accident, or bungee jumping, or what have you, we’ll still get that, but for us, we don’t feel the fear, which can be obviously dangerous if you’re a little kid, and you don’t know you’re supposed to be afraid of stuff. We don’t process the emotion of fear. It doesn’t occur to us. And we can’t understand it, either. I mean, we get that you feel something, but we don’t get it.
New Zealand wants to treat domestic violence like a contagious disease
You read Beyonce’s interview in Vogue, right?
It’s important to me that I help open doors for younger artists. There are so many cultural and societal barriers to entry that I like to do what I can to level the playing field, to present a different point of view for people who may feel like their voices don’t matter.
Related: You can pull people up the ladder behind you.
A reminder to my fellow Nice Midwestern Women: You don’t own anyone an interaction.
Will some people have hurt feelings if you decline their invitations and delete their messages? Probably. That’s tough to accept, but the alternative is worse. Trying to manage other people’s emotions while tuning out your own is exhausting. It harms your health and your relationships.
We’ve been conditioned to believe that being kind means being available 24/7. But if we don’t guard our time, our ability to be kind erodes.
If there are children in your life: are you a ‘carpenter’ or a ‘gardener’?
Hope you had a great weekend, friends!