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Web Time Wasters

This trailer made me so uncomfortable I couldn’t watch all of it – which means I need to watch the movie.

How was your week, friends? Minnesota was buried in a blizzard, as I’m sure you heard. I had coffee dates with friends, painted the bathroom, and shoveled SO MUCH SNOW.

Links for you!

A very intriguing pasta recipe!

Less than thrilled about how the president has treated Ilham Omar? Here’s a script for calling your reps and telling them that.

I was on the Creatively Human podcast talking about why I do online business the “wrong” way and habits that leads to happiness. Click here to listen!

Related: I’m in the beginning stages of creating a Yes & Yes podcast and I am forever lol-ing at Creative Commons music. Did you know there’s an entire album called ‘Corporate and Motivational Music‘ with track titles like ‘Driven To Success’? It’s true.

Body positivity applies to men, too. I appreciate the type of bodies this brand is using.

I wish my 2002 self had read these thoughts about ethical traveling, poverty, and photography.

If you fantasize about buying an abandoned mansion and returning it to its former glory, this six-bedroom, three-bathroom historical home is $185,000 in St. Paul. I would watch a reality tv show about who ever buys this house!

Related: I’m reading this book and this book as we start to consider house-hunting.

If you watch my Instagram Stories, you saw me share the tale of my averted financial-assholery (trying to get everything for free and not supporting people or businesses who benefit me on a regular basis when I can absolutely afford t0). Related: 15 ways to support artists for free!

Our collective cool aunt Anne Lammot is getting married!

Wowsers is this house gorgeous.

I loved Amy’s budget-friendly advice on starting an online business.  I ran a profitable business for YEARS with a $300 netbook, a Paypal account, and a yahoo email account. It’s not nearly as complicated as we make it!

Gorgeous photos from … SNL?

I have SO MANY FEELINGS about money, consumption, competition, the way we talk about + think about all of the above. I loved what Paul wrote about keeping up with the Insta-Joneses.

The act of trying to keep up is an inaccurate comparison though and debt doesn’t photograph well.

We’re comparing the things others want us to see, with our own reality. Because flaws and overdue credit card bills, problems and the sometimes-mundane of day-to-day existence doesn’t photograph that well. We get to choose what we share (and what we don’t), and in this never-ending game of one-ups-person-ship, we act as if we’ve got things together at all times, for the sake of our own social status. Picturesque vacations (we can’t afford), private jets (rented on the runway), and on-trend clothes (we can’t wear twice on camera).

This comparison trap with the Insta-Joneses isn’t just a thief of joy. It’s a thief of our pay cheques as well. The lie this “keeping up” tells us is that everyone else is living well except for us. Everyone else has the nice things they deserve except for us. Everyone else is more interesting, more picturesque, more socially accepted than us. And we end up feeling bad because shouldn’t we have nice things too? Don’t we deserve to be happy enough to conspicuously consume as well?

Hope you had a lovely week!

Web Time Wasters

How was your week, friends? On Monday, I taught high schoolers about how to use Instagram to find internships, brand partnerships, and collaborators (if you’d like me to teach something similar at your company, organization, or school email me at sarah@yesandyes.org). The rest of the week was devoted to lunch and coffee dates and last night was a friend’s yearly lip sync party. Fun!

Links for you

Related to teaching those teenagers on Monday: a Twitter thread from a teacher who incorporates phones into lessons, rather than confiscating them.

Such a cute way to start the day!

I’m definitely trying a few of these nine things to refresh for spring.

A book I am extremely enjoying!

I’ve written several ebooks: The No Grocery Challenge Guidebook + Cookbook, How To Get What You Want, the ebook version of Bank Boost … and I wish I would have read this super helpful post about how to market ebooks! I just, uh, wrote them and mentioned them a few times!

Related: 7 Honest Ways To Spring Clean Your Mind + Life

I was on the Own It All podcast talking about how use your time wisely + productively. Listen here!

P.S. If you have a podcast, I’d love to be on it! Drop me a line at sarah@yesandyes.org and we’ll get something sorted!

A very good post about making responsible choices + how it’s hard to be perfect:
In the face of it, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed or cynical. I don’t think we need to throw up our hands and declare the whole project useless, but I do think it’s helpful to know that in seeking sustainability, we’re not always going to get it right. It’s wise to acknowledge that the least detrimental form of consumption is to abstain from consuming altogether, but that abstinence isn’t always possible (and not always pleasurable). I guess most of all, I’m hoping to remember that ultimately we’re in it together. 

A recipe I’ll be trying for my next No Grocery Challenge: Easy Dukkah

True story: when Kenny and I got married, I tried to convince him that he, his dog, and his two sons should join me in my 850 square-foot apartment. He could not be convinced. This family of four makes living in a 750 square-foot apartment look great!

Totally co-signed on these eight things to do for yourself before you leave for a trip.

Funny!

An excellent Twitter thread about being okay with people disliking you and releasing the desire to control everything.

I hope you had a lovely week!

Web Time Wasters

How was your week, friends? I lead a workshop for high schoolers about safe/cheap international travel – so fun! I wish someone had talked to me about this stuff when I was 17. (P.S. If you’d like me to lead a workshop for your company, school, group – drop me a line at sarah@yesandyes.org. I’d love to chat!)

Then Kenny, Loretta, and I had a nice weekend away in Crosby at this super cute, dog-friendly Airbnb. Highly recommended! (If you’ve never used Airbnb before, here’s a $40 credit towards your first booking.) Also, if you find yourself in Crosby be sure to eat at Iron Range Eatery. Truly one of the best meals I’ve had all year! Yes, in a town of 2,300.

And a reminder: the live version of Make It Stick Habit School starts tomorrow! Nora McInerny says:

“I loved Habit School. 1, because it helped me realize why all my other good habits have slid right off me. And 2, because it actually. Made. Good. Habits. STICK! I’m not kidding you. It just worked, and it made me feel amazing. I’ve been able to replicate that same success over and over, with little habits that I was so discouraged about not being able to accomplish before. It is a whole new way of looking at how you behave, and it has really and truly helped me make steps towards being the Nora I want to be.”

Links for you!

An incredibly stylish woman we’d all like to have as a BFF.

Twin Cities friends! Have you heard of Fix It Clinics? They’re free clinics that you can bring your small appliances that need repairs. You’ll be paired with an expert who will show you how to fix your item. Again – it’s free! It’ll save you money and keep things out of the landfill!

Related: are you recycling correctly? I thought I was an A+ recycler, but I was more like a B!

Two recipes I’m bookmarking for future No Grocery Challenges: roasted vegetable winter crumble + super green spaghetti.

Have you ever heard of ‘rose reflexing‘? Apparently it’s *the* trick to making supermarket roses look really lush.

A lovely Instagram account

Controversial opinion: I’m never going to Tulum again. Who Killed Tulum?
But seaweed was only one of Tulum’s problems, and before the dark wave distracted him, Barbachano had been detailing a list of other plagues: failing infrastructure, overzealous developers, drugs, too many DJs. In a white linen shirt, a Panama hat, and rose-tinted sunglasses, Barbachano looked the part of the fashionable type who had made Tulum one of the world’s hottest destinations. He gawked at a brunette walking by in a red bikini. “Look at this woman! I mean, I’m gay, but she looks like Kate Middleton,” Barbachano said. “You want that, with the beautiful ocean behind, chill music that’s not fucking pounding in your head. But not everybody gets it. They have a few million dollars and say, ‘We’re gonna buy a place in Tulum, get 16 speakers, put a DJ on, and fck this all up.’ ”

You’ve already seen this and been charmed, correct?

A lovely photo essay of people who have been working the same job for 50+ years.

This is a note-to-self and a note to everyone who sends IG DMs.

I am EXTREMELY co-signed on this: Why You Shouldn’t Start A Business

It absolutely does not matter what type of business you start. In fact you should not start an actual business at all—nonprofit or otherwise. Here’s what you should do instead.

Just start doing the thing that you want the business to do.

Go out into the world, test and validate the ideas you have before ever creating a logo, opening a bank account, registering an LLC, or anything else.

Sure, there will likely be some amount of financial investment to bring something big together—but not on any of the above.

Also co-signed.

What do breakfast + beauty routines look like in Mexico?

Hope you had a lovely week – and I hope to see you inside Make It Stick Habit School tomorrow!

Web Time Wasters

What’d you get up to this week, friends? I worked on getting everything ready to open the live version of Make It Stick Habit School – enrollment opens on the 19th and class starts on the 25th! My last live class sold out in 4 days, so if you’re interested I’d recommend getting on the waitlist. If you have any questions about the course, shoot me an email at sarah@yesandyes.org!

Links for you!

Donate here to support the victims of the Christchurch terrorist attacks.

What if you only have one more relationship?

A super helpful Twitter thread about surviving your first year of self-employment.

We all know that feeling!

Four sneaky ways to break those bad habits this year

If you’re someone who’s easily influenced or has a hard time figuring out what’s right for you, you’ll love this essay from Kristen.
If I can just convince you that I have The Answer, then you’ll buy it and I’ll move along to the next person. If, instead, I teach you to find the answers yourself, that’s a.) far more work and b.) eventually, you won’t need me. I can’t pump you full of solutions indefinitely, which is why the marketing industry hooks you with headlines like, ‘You won’t BELIEVE the thing I do every six months to keep my whole life running smoothly. And it’s FREE!”  (That’s the spammy version of this podcast episode!)

If you work with brands, you’ll appreciate this post: Why third-party creator platforms aren’t helping your influencer marketing

What food geniuses eat when they’re home alone (I eat stove-top popcorn popped in bacon fat and topped with nutritional yeast)

Such a cute reno of a camping trailer!

And what a great makeover of a stairway and entryway.

20 things every single gal should do before her next relationship (extremely co-signed on #14!)

I looooove coordinating the Cost Of Living Diary interviews for Livability. This month, we’re talking about Tampa!

A new tool for having good trips – What To Eat In:

Related: breakfasts + beauty routines in Italy.

I have mixed feelings about FIRE (financial independence retire early), and my concerns are pretty well captured in this article.
If this hack for spending less time and money on cleaning sounds like it involves being less clean, that’s because it does. “In the cool, dry winters I might need a shower every two to three days,” he continues. “With careful re-hanging, my towel will last at least 10 showers before it smells anything less than perfectly fresh.” The upsides to this approach, he says, is increased free time, saved money and a more robust immune system.

Relatable?

Truuuuuue.

I loved this super simple nightlight DIY!

And remember to get on the waitlist for Make It Stick Habit School if you’re interested!

Web Time Wasters

Doesn’t this sound like 1997?

What’d you get up to this week, friends? I finally saw Bohemian Rhapsody, warmed myself at the Como Park Conservatory, and celebrated filing our taxes with a meal at The Red Stag Supper Club. I hope your week was also filled with flowers, movies, and good food.

Links for you

I’m an under-buyer and I’ve had this $30 item in my Amazon cart for LITERALLY A YEAR. I finally bought it and, yes, it’s as amazing as I’d hoped.

Somewhat related: over in the Money & Happy Facebook group, we’re having a really great, honest conversation about family financial support and it’s very illuminating.

YES.

Two cheap, easy recipes I’m going to try: roasted buffalo chickpea bowls + crispy baked tofu with broccoli

This is why we need The No Grocery Challenge! ?

Why People Wait 10 Days to Do Something That Takes 10 Minutes
As any good chore procrastinator knows, the drama doesn’t simply end with deciding to do something later. For Gloria Fraser, a caretaker from Massachusetts, that’s where it just begins. She’s always considered herself a prompt, efficient person in her professional life, but the emotional baggage of housework makes personal chores more difficult. “There’s the negative tape going on in my head that I should have done something, and why did I wait until it got this bad,” she says. “So that’s piling up, and instead of doing it, I’m thinking about all the times I should have been. So I end up kind of catatonic over not doing stuff instead of doing that stuff.”

Somewhat related: 5 business tasks you’ve been putting off that, yes, you need to do

And also somewhat related: If the open rates of your business’s newsletter have been going down, you’re not alone! Deliverability rates have decreased across many providers.

Accurate.

I appreciate Cup Of Jo’s interviews with stepmoms 

I am extremely co-signed on Captain Awkward’s advice to this woman
I just want you to keep in mind that “shopping for symbolic jewelry items” may not come “naturally” to your chosen spouse, but he had and continues to have choices open to him. Some of these choices are: 1) Goobingle it 2) There are many step-by-step guides! 3) You can make the decision/ask the question about becoming engaged and save the whole darn jewelry bit for later, 4) Or use a silly/fun/cheap stand-in prop if the ritual is important 5) You can ask for help, like“Can we take an afternoon and sort this out together?” 6) You can ask for specific suggestions, like: “Here is my approximate budget, can you show me some examples of rings you might like, or would you like to pick something out together?” 7) You can set/manage expectations: “I haven’t mentioned it before because I saving up so I can get you something really nice and I wanted it to be a surprise, but it doesn’t have to be a surprise if waiting is stressing you out so much!”  IF PEOPLE WANT TO MARRY YOU, THEY HAVE MANY WAYS TO LET YOU KNOW. You told him this particular step/symbol was important to you more than once, so it shouldn’t be a mystery that it’s important to you.

Also totally co-signed with this: Let’s Stop Making Excuses for Our Spaces (and Love Them As-Is)

A cute idea for gardening this spring!

I love Wendy’s ideas for different ways to style what you already own.

Ha!

Related: The unpleasant truth behind why we “can’t” break bad habits

Web Time Wasters

How was your week, friends? I just got back from another week in Costa Rica leading a retreat for Fit & Fly Girl. I’m weirdly looking forward to having at least two months of flight-free time in my future. Sometimes you just need the time and space to really dig into your life and get some momentum going, ya know?

Links for you!

Breakfast and beauty routines in The Netherlands

Some truth about why it feels weird to break long-term patterns

Related: 5 reasons your good habits don’t stick!

Where I’ve Lived: Eight homes of a 13-year-old former foster kid
When he was 8, Logan moved in with his last foster parents, Shasta and her husband, Ben. They adopted him in 2016. “I just remember going into my room, and it was really cool. I had this fort between two couches where it was warm and squishy. It felt good, like I finally was going to stay somewhere.”

Agreed! Kevin WAS the hottest Backstreet Boy!

Ghost apples

FASCINATING: The lonely life of a yacht influencer
“I used to feel all messed up about my career,” he continued. “I was a short-haul truck driver in the Bronx, and I guess I caught the yacht bug. I’d go to a bookstore, grab a table and read everything I could about yachts. Then, on the very first weekend after I downloaded the Instagram app, right after Instagram became a thing you could download, I went to a luxury boat show and took some of pictures of the yachts. I added some hashtags, and pretty soon I had 800,000 followers. But the quantity doesn’t really matter to the folks who pay me, it’s the quality. Influential people follow me, Gulf state princes and Russian moguls who might actually be able to buy these yachts.”

One of my absolute least favorite things is when people talk about saving a lot of money in a short period of time and then you find out that they a) lived with their parents b) don’t have school debt. ANYBODY CAN SAVE A LOT OF MONEY IN A SHORT PERIOD OF TIME IF THOSE THINGS ARE IN PLAY.

I will absolutely be making these mushroom ‘scallops’ for a future No Grocery Challenge!

I was on the Life Rebrand podcast talking about redefining happiness for yourself. If you have a podcast, I’d love to be on it! Drop me a line at sarah@yesandyes.org and let’s get a date on the calendar!

I use Canva for pretty much everything – my blog post graphics, Instagram graphics, project proposals. Now they’ve added a whole bunch of new, free stock photos called ‘Natural Women‘ and they are GREAT. Super inclusive and free.

A $700 kitchen makeover!

Hope you had a lovely week!