I was on the Money Made Easy podcast, talking about saying yes to BOTH money and happiness. Listen here!
A must-pack if you’re traveling carry-on only to a sunny place.
Another podcast episode about money, but I’m not in this one. I so appreciate Jason Zook’s honesty in this episode of Beyond The Dollar. He talks about how he got into debt, how it affected him, and his ‘enough’ number.
I loved this: How One Couple Lives Separately, Together Cecilia and Gerry say the decision has been great for their own relationship. “I’m super tidy — that’s my zen. Gerry loves that he can come home and put his keys wherever he wants without someone telling him otherwise. He’ll have hockey nights at home, where he can knock himself out watching sports, while I’ll be on my side, watching Catastrophe.”
Cecilia also swears by the separate sleeping arrangements. “When I get into my bed every day, I give thanks. I sleep with three comforters and socks, and Jerry sleeps with a fan and just a sheet. Before, one of us would be hot or cold, and now we can each do our thing. The intimacy is still there. We make time for each other, and then when it’s time for sleep, we’re like, ‘Bye!’”
How was your week? We celebrated Kenny’s 46th birthday with tiki drinks on a rooftop, housewarmed a friend’s new condo, and I kept preparing for my month-long trip to Morocco and the UAE. I leave on Wednesday! I’ll be sharing the trip on Instagram, if you’d like to follow along.
I loved this round up a cooking Q & As, particularly her suggestions about using up leftovers and keeping your dog calm during a dinner party!
Related: I finally tried Imperfect Foods and it is SO GOOD! Reduce food waste, save money, and have it all delivered to your door? INTO IT. If you’ve never tried it, here’s $10 off your first order!
A super interesting essay about the reality of the publishing world + managing your money: How to Lose a Third of a Million Dollars Without Really Trying After that second advance came through, I stepped into my dream life: I quit my day job to write full-time, moved to New York City, bought $15 cocktails, and learned (with astonishing speed) not worry about prices when ordering at a restaurant. I said yes to travel (often book research I wasn’t reimbursed for), concert tickets, new shoes, and finally being able to buy people the kind of presents I felt they deserved. I donated large sums of money to organizations I cared about, and delighted in the feeling that I was making a real difference.
I was on The Best Of The Nest podcast talking about how money affects how we feel at home. If you’ve never heard my teach my three highlighter money method, I talk about it there!
This applies to body acceptance and every thing else, ever.
This made me laugh till I wasn’t making any noise. This, too.
Amazing! I love Meg’s story of what she did after ending her engagement 10 years ago and how’s she’s celebrating that anniversary this year.
How was your week, friends? I lunched with friends and mostly worked, worked, worked since I’ll be taking almost a month off while I travel around Morocco and Dubai soon! I’ve got 20-hour layovers in Amsterdam on each end of the trip – wish me luck!
Links for you!
Reminder: On September 23rd, we’re winnowing down the Yes & Yes free resource library from 10 (!!!) free workbooks to two. So if you want access to literally hundreds of pages of super helpful stuff, now’s the time to grab ’em! Click here to download your free workbooks.
DISCUSS: How social media enabled the memeification of mental health. Drawing a map of any given concept based on the internet’s information means the vast majority of us are disordered in numerous ways, many of them conflicting. “The silent treatment is ABUSE,” according to an Instagram post by NarcAway, an account run by a self-proclaimed survivor of narcissism. And if my sense of intuition often proves true, does that make me an empath? If I’m empathetic, compassionate, and headstrong, am I an Indigo Child? What even is an Indigo Child? (The answer: sensitive children believed to possess emotional intelligence that borders on the supernatural.)
Friends! Last week I spent a few days in the Lehigh Valley and now I won’t shut up about it. As you know, I loooooove slightly-under-the-radar destinations and I really need to tell you about this one. It’ll be particularly gorgeous when the leaves change (and potentially closer/cheaper/less crowded than Maine or Vermont.)
Some thoughts + a potential itinerary for the Lehigh Valley
The Lehigh Valley is less than three hours from Philly, NYC, and DC. If you live in NYC and you’re looking for a getaway, OMG GO HERE INSTEAD OF THE HUDSON VALLEY. It’s not much further, the traffic is so much lighter, and the lodging prices are much lower than the Hudson Valley. Case in point: Lehigh Valley: The Historic Hotel Bethlehem is a 4-star hotel and rooms start at $189. Hudson Valley: The Diamond Mills Hotel is a 4-star hotel and the rooms start at $300.This 2-bed, 4-guest Airbnb in a historic home is $109 a night! (P.S. If you’ve never used Airbnb before, here’s $40 towards your first booking!)
Wander downtown Bethlehem and die over the cuteness – their historic downtown has been placed the US Tentative List for nomination as a UNESCO World Heritage Site (!!!)
Walk one block over to the Easton Public Market for great fresh food, cute vendors, and kid-friendly play spaces.
Come back to Bethlehem for the evening and visit Steel Stacks – the old Bethlehem Steel factory that’s been turned into a park, elevated walkway, and a space for live music and movies. Check out one of the indie movies playing at the theater or grab dinner at one of the three restaurants.
No joke, I groaned “Ugggggh, cuuuuuuuute” about 15 times a day while visiting this area and fell down a Zillow rabbit hole looking at real estate – which is how you know a town is truly great. P.S. If you live someplace where historic houses cost more than $200k don’t look at Bethlehem’s Zillow. You’ll just end up crying and planning to move. DON’T SAY I DIDN’T WARN YOU!!!
Anyway – Links for you!
If you think you have Too Many Feelings, this is for you.
This is probably filed under the heading of “Nobody cares, Sarah” but I get tons of questions about how I get all that volume in my hair. For a long time, the answer was Aveda Dry Shampoo, but I’ve officially switched this. It’s $20 cheaper (!!) and because it’s a paste it won’t spill when I travel. Note: it’s very texturizing and it won’t make your hair feel ‘clean,’ but it’ll definitely get rid of greasy roots and give you an absurd amount of volume!
A very sweet article about the end of Car Talk. Those brothers were so sweet and funny! Some other Car Talk words and phrases The Boston Globe identified: “dope slap,” or a quick, corrective slap to the back of the head in punishment of stupidity; “urgent haircut,” or the need to relieve oneself; “T.S., Eliot,” or a public-radio friendly way of saying “tough shit”; “schnerdling,” a word with Icelandic origins to mean toilet; and “boat payment,” a unit of measurement arising from Ray’s discovery that the least scrupulous mechanics he knew all owned boats.
This is exactly what I want my space to look like!
I was on the Woke & Wired podcast this week talking about how I developed an intentional relationship with money + how I verrrry carefully curate what I see on Instagram so it’s inspiring and helpful, not disheartening.
Ashley is traveling around Transylvania (long on my to-visit list) and I’m gobbling up her Instagram posts!
Also: I know I already told you that I’m reading this book and it’s great. If you’re on the fence about immigration, granting people asylum, or you don’t understand why we’d ever allow people into the U.S. who can’t 100% financially support themselves, pleeeeease read it. (It’s a very enjoyable novel! It’s not a dry, non-fiction book that will talk down to you about immigration policy!)
We’re in the process of redesigning the Yes & Yes website and cleaning up the clutter that comes with 11 (!!!) years of blogging. To that end, on September 23rd we’ll be retiring the Yes & Yes Free Resource Library and its TEN free workbooks. If you haven’t signed up for the library yet, do it now!
How was your week, friends? I rang in my 40th birthday, celebrating with a few nights in the Hudson Valley with Kenny. We spent the day doing all my favorite things: poking around small towns, swimming in a lake, browsing used book stores, and eating good food. Lovely! Now I’m in the Lehigh Valley (extremely recommended!); you can follow along in Instagram Stories if you want to see what I’m up to!
I’ve been devouring this novel on my trip and dog earring sections I want to revisit.
I loved this! On Being A Great Aunt “One of the best ways I’ve found to foster a rapport with kids is to ask them for their opinions. Say you’re out for ice-cream and can’t decide between strawberry and chocolate. Ask Ms. Five-Year-Old and then go with what she recommends. Her face will light up. Kids are often underestimated, so when you value their opinion, it’s esteem-building.” — Tracey
Extremely ready to poke around the adorable downtowns of historic Pennsylvania! This is Easton, PA if you’re curious.
I’m writing this from Teaneck, New Jersey! I’m on the first leg of a 12-day trip out East, starting with Kenny’s family reunion. Tomorrow, the guys are headed to Six Flags and I’m headed to the Jersey Shore, which I’m disproportionately excited about. Exactly HOW much will it be like the show?!
How to design your life based on intentional living values Fundamentally, this approach works well because as Annie Dillard says, “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” If the small ways we show up each day align with the vision of the life we want, we’re much more likely to look back on a life encompassing our vision over the years.
I’m always a bit skeptical about ‘ethical’ websites that encourage you to throw away things you already own and then buy new things that are ‘ethical’ (when the most ‘ethical’ thing you can do is … use and repair what you already own or buy secondhand.) That being said, The Good Trade has a lot of great articles and resources for when you truly do need to buy something new.
You’ve probably already seen The Crane Wife being shared and posted around the internet, but if you haven’t it’s a must-read. These were small things, and I told myself it was stupid to feel disappointed by them. I had arrived in my thirties believing that to need things from others made you weak. I think this is true for lots of people but I think it is especially true for women. When men desire things they are “passionate.” When they feel they have not received something they need they are “deprived,” or even “emasculated,” and given permission for all sorts of behavior. But when a woman needs she is needy. She is meant to contain within her own self everything necessary to be happy.
That I wanted someone to articulate that they loved me, that they saw me, was a personal failing and I tried to overcome it.