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Web Time Wasters

How was your week, friends? I lunched and coffee-d with friends, fussed with the yard (it is never-ending!!! will the grass grow this year?!) and devotedly wished that the weather would clear up.

I finished everything I need to work through Bank Boost with our new round of students. Class starts on Monday and – not to toot my own horn – but it’s an AWESOME program. People add hundreds and thousands of dollars to their bank accounts, strengthen their self-advocacy muscles, change their relationship with money, NBD. All to the tune of $57. Click here to join us!

Links for you:

It’s been a pretty tough week for current events. Reminder: 5calls.org has call scripts and phone numbers that make contacting your reps super easy.

WOW.

An unsexy, honest, inspiring photo of what intentional spending looks like.

Ahhhh! A must-read for anyone who’s been dumped and is trying to convince someone to take them back. (We’ve all been there, right?)

You could be absolutely perfect, you could become all the things your former partner specifically said would be exactly right for him, you could find the golden ratio of speaking up and staying silent about all the right things in exactly the right order, you could even send me a list of all your best private jokes and relationship touchstones and I could write you a dazzling, personalized speech that strikes a breathtaking balance between “maintaining a quiet dignity” and “being vulnerable and real…”  …and he could still go, or rather, keep going, in the same direction he already went, i.e. already gone.

My favorite things: financial transparency and a liiiiitle bit of voyeurism: How much it costs to live in Raleigh, NC.

Somewhat related: The best $5,929.10 I ever spent: moving back to the Midwest
On the subject of apartments: I’m paying $650 a month for a gorgeous studio with a view of the Cedar River and in-unit laundry. I’m the first tenant to occupy this apartment (and the first tenant to use its brand new appliances). Considering that my first Seattle apartment was a converted hotel room with no kitchen and a landlord who advised me to wash my dishes in a bus tub and dump the dishwater into the toilet — WHICH I DID, EVERY DAY — living in this apartment feels like living in another world.

Speaking my language! A house tour with a “thrifty maximalist.”

Related: 12 cheap home improvements that are totally worth it.

I hope that Mothers’ Day is a good day for you; if it’s not, you’re not alone. This is one of the most highly trafficked posts I’ve ever published – True Story: I have a toxic relationship with my mom.

Also: if you’re a stepmom, this is must-read I wish someone had told me about four years ago.

Why is this so cute?! Japanese Ambassador To Sweden Sees Pikachu As His Son
“The first time I saw Pikachu, I felt that he was my son,” the tweet from yesterday reads. “When Pokémon Go came out in 2016, Pikachu and the other millions of figures got new friends around the world. Now I will gladly see the Detective Pikachu movie.”

Want to redefine your relationship with money? What luck! That’s exactly what I talked about on this podcast!

Also: Kelly and I talked about all things self-help!

Sometime I feel like I’m the only person on the internet who’s not trying to create a multi-million dollar empire that sells self-paced business ecourses and has a team of 15 people. It’s just me and Paul Jarvis. 
I’m free from financial worry, as it doesn’t take much revenue to be profitable and expenses are quite low. I’m free from the stresses of always being busy or having to hustle constantly, because I know what enough is and don’t have to push myself beyond it. I’m free from the weight of typical “business growth” responsibility—I don’t have to manage others, I don’t have to answer to a board of directors or investors, and I don’t have to be on the hook for high office rent.

The Pied Piper of kittens!

This made me smile.

I loved this: advice you’d give your younger self.

Hope you had a lovely week! And I hope to see you inside Bank Boost on Monday! If you’re on the fence or you have any questions, drop me an email at sarah@yesandyes.org and I’ll answer ’em!

Web Time Wasters

Another song with millions of views that I heard for the first time this week

How was your week, friends? I spent most of mine getting ready for the next round of Bank Boost (enrollment opens tomorrow!) Kenny spoke at UW Platteville on Thursday so we turned it into a long weekend away with cheese curds and House On The Rock.

I was also able to live out my extremely specific fantasy of living (read:renting an Airbnb) over a coffee shop in a cute, historical apartment that overlooks the main street of a quaint small town. This is where we stayed and here’s a $40 credit towards your first booking if you’ve never used Airbnb before!

Links for you

For my fellow MSP-ers, is it Lake Calhoun or Bde Maka Ska?

And very proud of Minnesotan Halima Aden for making history as the first model to wear a hijab and burkini in Sports Illustrated Swimsuit!

You’ve probably heard me rail against premium pricing and traditional marketing methods before. I was pumped to take part in the Unconventional Marketing Summit!

What to say (and what NOT to say) to someone with a broken heart.
“What’s something that would make your life just a tiny bit easier right now? Could I bring over some food? Wash your sheets and make your bed? Fill up your car with gas? Something else? I know you’ve got so much weighing on you right now, so I’d love to do something to make your day a little easier and calmer.”

Related: How to get over a break up

Did you know you can follow hashtags on Instagram? I’m really enjoying the #hauteeclectic hashtag. It’s a nice break from white, minimalist, farm house decor 😉

If you live in MSP and are looking to add a dog to your family, make sure you follow my friend Leslie’s Adopt A Stray May! She’s a professional pet photographer so her photos are gorgeous and the dogs she features are amazing!

Extremely co-signed.

I loved this: Money + misdirection: the shadow side of “charge what you’re worth” pricing culture

Related: Why I charge $57 for Bank Boost even though I could charge a lot more

An old essay from David Sedaris that a) still makes me laugh b) is incredibly relatable
Now I’m up to sixty thousand, which is twenty-five and a half miles. Walking that distance at the age of fifty-seven, with completely flat feet while lugging a heavy bag of garbage, takes close to nine hours—a big block of time, but hardly wasted. I listen to audiobooks, and podcasts. I talk to people. I learn things: the fact, for example, that, in the days of yore, peppercorns were sold individually and, because they were so valuable, to guard against theft the people who packed them had to have their pockets sewed shut.

Yum! An unusual rhubarb pie recipe.

You probably know by know that I’m a huge champion of small and mid-sized cities. I love traveling to them, promoting them, talking about how their low cost of living can dramatically improve quality of life for certain people. So I was suuuuuuper interested in this piece: HGTV stars Chip and Joanna Gaines helped convert a sleepy Texas town into a tourist mecca. But not everyone agrees on what Waco’s “restoration” should look like.

I hope you had a lovely weekend and that I see you inside Bank Boost on Monday!

Web Time Wasters

This song has 12 million views but I only discovered it last week. Doesn’t it have a Dolly Parton vibe?

How was your week, friends? The weather was gooooorgeous here in Minneapolis and I spent it fussing with the yard, re-painting, and cleaning a million things – activities that I have INCREDIBLY soothing. ‘Improve something visually’ is literally an item on my Happy List! We also celebrated my oldest stepson’s 16th birthday, saw friends, and generally rejoiced that the snow is (hopefully!) finally gone.

Links for you

Opening May 6th!

I was on the podcast ‘That’s What She Said‘ talking about money and how “tapping on your temples and repeating mantras about manifesting abundance won’t help you stop buying throw pillows at Target.” 🙊 Click here to listen – and if you have a podcast, I’d love to be on it! Drop me a line at sarah@yesandyes.org and let’s get something scheduled!

Ten years after everyone else, I am reading this book and it is GREAT. A must-read if you, like me, care about climate change, food waste, or farmers.

How to curate meaning in your online life.

Related: This week, our private Money & Happy Facebook group talked about moving in with partners just to save money, down-sizing, switching careers, and travel purses! Come join us – it’s free.

Somewhat related and I’m interested to hear what you think: what if individual choices aren’t responsible for climate change?
A recent report found that just 100 companies are responsible for 71% of global emissions since 1988. Incredibly, a mere 25 corporations and state-owned entities were responsible for more than half of global industrial emissions in that same period.

I loved this roundup of a week in outfits!

Online business people very rarely talk about the programs that failed. I really appreciated Tara’s recent podcast where six long-time online entrepreneurs shared their struggles.

Cutecutecute.

I can’t wait to work my way though this list of 12 old-school Minneapolis and St. Paul restaurants – we’ve already been to seven of ’em.

A new-to-me site you might already know about: The Aesthetics Of Joy. So Good!

What does ‘enough’ look like?

Are you waiting for proof that you’re ‘really’ an artist?

An icon!

I Wanted to Fall in Love With Men. I Also Wanted Men to Leave Me the Hell Alone
Dating men, studying men, sleeping with men—it felt like lancing the blister. A mixture of pain and release. There was the polyamorous poet. The writer who told me I was overrated and insisted I listen to his vinyl collection. The very nice lawyer. The former white nationalist turned librarian whom I ghosted with no shame. The man who, when he saw a professional accomplishment of mine, told me it wasn’t as impressive as his dick. The politician who told me to tell people he had a big dick. (It was average.) The woke professor who talked a lot about feminism but refused to put on a condom and scared me when he grabbed my neck and kissed me, leaving bruises. There was the wedding hookup. The married novelist. The date I walked out on 10 minutes in, after he told me if I wanted to be with him, I would need to be a better cook. The sports editor who pulled out his phone and read Seinfeld plot summaries to me. I walked out on him too.

Hope you had a lovely weekend!

Web Time Wasters

How was your week, friends? I was on Twin Cities Live talking about what to do with your tax refund – if you were lucky enough to get one! I promise my suggestions aren’t as dry and joy-less as you’d think! We hosted Passover this year and were excited to serve the meal on Kenny’s great-grandmother’s fine china; I love traditions like that.

Links for you!

This week I learned that worldwide, the equivalent of almost 27,000 trees is either flushed or dumped in landfills every day in the form of toilet paper. We decided to switch to Bim Bam Boo which is made from bamboo – which grows much faster than trees, making it much more environmentally-friendly. Now, you’re not going to confuse it with your tripled quilted Downy or anything but it’s fine! You can order it online but it’s a Minneapolis company, so if you live in MSP like me, you can probably find it in your local grocery store!

I went to grad school in Wellington, New Zealand – an amazing city that doesn’t get enough love online. This apartment tour of a Wellington apartment is great; I know exactly where they are based on the view from their windows!

I’m sloooowly starting the process of building a Yes & Yes podcast and the Messyfm Instagram account is full of SO many good tips!

Also: If you’re an author, I highly recommend watching Laura Jane William’s Instagram Stories. They’re always great, but right now she’s promoting her new novel and she’s doing it in such a lovely, interesting, educational, non-pushy way. Let’s all learn from her!

A great Mothers’ Day or graduation present

And this is a good gift for anyone in your life who cares about racial justice

This would happen to me.

A gorgeous essay: Notre Dame will rebuild. I will too.
Notre Dame was on fire, and I desperately want to talk to Jamie about it. Instead, I’m reminded once more that we can’t control things — no matter how hard we try or how much we believe. We can and should plan for the best, but we can never fully protect ourselves, our loved ones, and our loved places from the worst. At some point, we have to let go.

Jamie’s death gave me plenty of reasons not to revisit Paris. But I did anyway. Our promise to return continued on — albeit in a very different way than we hoped — and served to remind me how resilient I am. And just like they have many times before, Parisians will once again prove their resilience in the weeks and months of rebuilding to come.

One of my favorite foods when I lived in Taiwan was dan bing. It is SO GOOD and I have no idea why it hasn’t reached cream cheese wanton status here in the U.S. Here’s how to make your own if you’re curious!

Fun fact about me: I love bats. If you’re skeptical, look at this Flying Fox. She looks just like our rat terrier/chihuahua!

I don’t drink much – only if I’m on vacation, I’m celebrating something big, or we’re at a supper club and I’d be remiss if I didn’t sample their Old Fashioned. What are your thoughts on the rise of elective sobriety?
 “I used to think I lost my social anxiety after I had the first drink,” says Joy Manning, one of the party’s co-hosts. “Now I realize, the first 15 minutes of anything is just awkward. Once I adjust to the environment and start chatting with someone, I relax. And it’s amazing to see that happen across a whole room of people who aren’t drinking. We’ve been giving alcohol a power it doesn’t really have.”

Hope you had a lovely weekend!

Web Time Wasters

This trailer made me so uncomfortable I couldn’t watch all of it – which means I need to watch the movie.

How was your week, friends? Minnesota was buried in a blizzard, as I’m sure you heard. I had coffee dates with friends, painted the bathroom, and shoveled SO MUCH SNOW.

Links for you!

A very intriguing pasta recipe!

Less than thrilled about how the president has treated Ilham Omar? Here’s a script for calling your reps and telling them that.

I was on the Creatively Human podcast talking about why I do online business the “wrong” way and habits that leads to happiness. Click here to listen!

Related: I’m in the beginning stages of creating a Yes & Yes podcast and I am forever lol-ing at Creative Commons music. Did you know there’s an entire album called ‘Corporate and Motivational Music‘ with track titles like ‘Driven To Success’? It’s true.

Body positivity applies to men, too. I appreciate the type of bodies this brand is using.

I wish my 2002 self had read these thoughts about ethical traveling, poverty, and photography.

If you fantasize about buying an abandoned mansion and returning it to its former glory, this six-bedroom, three-bathroom historical home is $185,000 in St. Paul. I would watch a reality tv show about who ever buys this house!

Related: I’m reading this book and this book as we start to consider house-hunting.

If you watch my Instagram Stories, you saw me share the tale of my averted financial-assholery (trying to get everything for free and not supporting people or businesses who benefit me on a regular basis when I can absolutely afford t0). Related: 15 ways to support artists for free!

Our collective cool aunt Anne Lammot is getting married!

Wowsers is this house gorgeous.

I loved Amy’s budget-friendly advice on starting an online business.  I ran a profitable business for YEARS with a $300 netbook, a Paypal account, and a yahoo email account. It’s not nearly as complicated as we make it!

Gorgeous photos from … SNL?

I have SO MANY FEELINGS about money, consumption, competition, the way we talk about + think about all of the above. I loved what Paul wrote about keeping up with the Insta-Joneses.

The act of trying to keep up is an inaccurate comparison though and debt doesn’t photograph well.

We’re comparing the things others want us to see, with our own reality. Because flaws and overdue credit card bills, problems and the sometimes-mundane of day-to-day existence doesn’t photograph that well. We get to choose what we share (and what we don’t), and in this never-ending game of one-ups-person-ship, we act as if we’ve got things together at all times, for the sake of our own social status. Picturesque vacations (we can’t afford), private jets (rented on the runway), and on-trend clothes (we can’t wear twice on camera).

This comparison trap with the Insta-Joneses isn’t just a thief of joy. It’s a thief of our pay cheques as well. The lie this “keeping up” tells us is that everyone else is living well except for us. Everyone else has the nice things they deserve except for us. Everyone else is more interesting, more picturesque, more socially accepted than us. And we end up feeling bad because shouldn’t we have nice things too? Don’t we deserve to be happy enough to conspicuously consume as well?

Hope you had a lovely week!

Web Time Wasters

How was your week, friends? On Monday, I taught high schoolers about how to use Instagram to find internships, brand partnerships, and collaborators (if you’d like me to teach something similar at your company, organization, or school email me at sarah@yesandyes.org). The rest of the week was devoted to lunch and coffee dates and last night was a friend’s yearly lip sync party. Fun!

Links for you

Related to teaching those teenagers on Monday: a Twitter thread from a teacher who incorporates phones into lessons, rather than confiscating them.

Such a cute way to start the day!

I’m definitely trying a few of these nine things to refresh for spring.

A book I am extremely enjoying!

I’ve written several ebooks: The No Grocery Challenge Guidebook + Cookbook, How To Get What You Want, the ebook version of Bank Boost … and I wish I would have read this super helpful post about how to market ebooks! I just, uh, wrote them and mentioned them a few times!

Related: 7 Honest Ways To Spring Clean Your Mind + Life

I was on the Own It All podcast talking about how use your time wisely + productively. Listen here!

P.S. If you have a podcast, I’d love to be on it! Drop me a line at sarah@yesandyes.org and we’ll get something sorted!

A very good post about making responsible choices + how it’s hard to be perfect:
In the face of it, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed or cynical. I don’t think we need to throw up our hands and declare the whole project useless, but I do think it’s helpful to know that in seeking sustainability, we’re not always going to get it right. It’s wise to acknowledge that the least detrimental form of consumption is to abstain from consuming altogether, but that abstinence isn’t always possible (and not always pleasurable). I guess most of all, I’m hoping to remember that ultimately we’re in it together. 

A recipe I’ll be trying for my next No Grocery Challenge: Easy Dukkah

True story: when Kenny and I got married, I tried to convince him that he, his dog, and his two sons should join me in my 850 square-foot apartment. He could not be convinced. This family of four makes living in a 750 square-foot apartment look great!

Totally co-signed on these eight things to do for yourself before you leave for a trip.

Funny!

An excellent Twitter thread about being okay with people disliking you and releasing the desire to control everything.

I hope you had a lovely week!