Everything about this movie is in my wheelhouse. #MaxGreenfield4eva
How was your week guys? I’ve been trying (with varying degrees of success) to really slow down and enjoy the holiday season. I’m dialing back the client work, writing some really great blog posts for 2016, and working on an awesome, free, super helpful collection of things for you. Stay tuned!
How was your week, guys? I spent most of Monday vulturing over sales on big purchases I’ve been putting off for months. Area rug! Philips wake up light! A new Roomba!A real desk chair! So now I have zero dollars, but I’ll wake up pleasantly, to a clean home I didn’t need to vacuum and enjoy sitting at my desk.
Here’s a weirdly obvious online shopping tip: before you go through with any purchase, google ‘[website name] discount code’. There’s almost always a discount code to be had and I usually save 10-25%!
Enough about my robot vacuum. Let’s talk about you, internet.(more…)
American readers! How was your Thanksgiving? We hosted our very first feast with my in-laws and it was lovely and surprisingly easy (mostly because everyone brought something). The rest of the weekend was that perfect combination of Doing Productive Stuff and Doing Nothing. It’s so hard to find that balance!
Links for you!
If you’re doing your holiday shopping online, check out shops that are participating in the Good Karma Sale! You get 25% off your purchase and 10% of the proceeds go to charity!
I think this dress would be a great addition to any minimalist wardrobe. Layerable! Works across seasons!
Here’s the Adele’s first interview in three years. It is, of course, awesome. She talks about doing the Globes and how drunk they, “the Hollywood lot,” got and then when she was coming offstage she reached for someone’s hand and it turned out to be “George-F*cking-Clooney’s.” She talks about making the video for Hello and Xavier asking her to cry, so she made them play Labrinth’s Jealous. “The minute that piano starts I’m like,” she breaks into a fake wail. “Snot going everywhere. I can’t cope with that song. You could play it at my kid’s birthday and I’d burst into tears.”
Yes. Put your life in flight mode. If you don’t need to answer work emails at the weekend, don’t check them. (Use a separate address for non-work messages, or set up a Gmail filter so you see only those you want to see.) Use a different device if you can, too: using work technology at home, it’s been shown, makes it harder to detach. And for God’s sake turn off social media notifications on your phone, thus eliminating the nagging anticipation that one might arrive. There’s plenty in life you can’t control. Don’t leave your mind at the mercy of the things you can.
How was your week guys? I won’t bore you by telling you how busy I was BUT OMG I WAS SO BUSY MY HANDS ARE GOING TO FALL OFF AND MY HEAD IS GOING TO EXPLODE.
A Facebook post I wrote about how to help refugees went viral (as I type this it’s been viewed by 1.2 million people!) so I also spent a lot of time refreshing the page and deleting racist slurs and blocking people. :/
I’m recovering by eating popcorn for dinner, brunching, and sleeping.
Random recommendation: grating your cheese with this makes every dish feel fancy (and you use less cheese!)
Super interesting: You really don’t need to work so much. Once upon a time, it was taken for granted that the wealthier classes enjoyed a life of leisure on the backs of the proletariat. Today it is people in skilled trades who can most find reasonable hours coupled with good pay; the American professional is among those subject to humiliation and driven like a beast of burden.
If you’re trying to buy fair trade items this holiday season, Befair.org is an awesome one-stop shopping portal!
Privilege is an incredibly touchy subject. Most of us want to believe that we don’t have it and that we’ve gotten where we are “on our own.” I’ve certainly indulged in that perspective before! If you find yourself having that knee-jerk reaction or a you’re not sure how privilege works, this comic will clarify things.
A reminder to all of us: girl-on-girl jealousy is not inevitable. We aren’t competing with other women, ultimately, but with ourselves — with how we think of ourselves. For many of us, we look at other women and see, instead, a version of ourselves that is better, prettier, smarter, something more. We don’t see the other woman at all.
How was your week, guys? Kenny and I had a little mid-week adventure at this gorgeous architect-designed … camper cabin. Since he’s a state employee now, we really try to take advantage of all the days he gets off. Veteran’s Day, ahoy! I also got to meet up with one of my usually-on-the -East-Coast clients here in Minneapolis!
But enough about me. Let’s talk about you, internet.
I looooved this post about the reality of ‘Midwestern Nice.’ Really beautifully written. To live in the Midwest is to experience two realities: the first, all sunshine and bland pleasantries among other potluck-suppering churchgoers; the other, a red-lit underworld where people relay vulgarities through the learned second language of euphemism, eye rolls and loaded silence.
Related: a lot of people say that the Twin Cities are incredibly insular and that it’s really hard to make friends here. If you’re looking for new buddies in MSP, check out Break The Bubble!
If your Thanksgiving is going to include nosy relatives or a creepy uncle who keeps trying to give you “shoulder rubs” this is for you.
New podcast obsession: Every Branch. Brooke and Sarah cover topics like transforming the mundane, using mistakes creatively, and integrating work and play. Love it!
Have you ever wondered what it’s like to raise a kid on your own? The hardest bitisn’t having nobody to share the burden, it’s having no one to share the love. Nobody right there when your child tells their teddy that “people are bears, too, but with bones inside”, which you think is the most amazing thing in the history of the world, but you have a creeping suspicion nobody else will, and you can’t go on Facebook or ring your mother again.
A beautifully written piece on why Serena Williams is important. Imagine that you’re the player John McEnroe recently described as ‘‘the greatest player, I think, that ever lived.’’ Imagine that, despite all this, there were so many bad calls against you, you were given as one reason video replay needed to be used on the courts. Imagine that you have to contend with critiques of your body that perpetuate racist notions that black women are hypermasculine and unattractive. Imagine being asked to comment at a news conference before a tournament because the president of the Russian Tennis Federation, Shamil Tarpischev, has described you and your sister as ‘‘brothers’’ who are ‘‘scary’’ to look at. Imagine.
I LOVE hearing about people who make huge changes in their life anytime after the age of, oh, 30. Anna Dorfman – everyone’s favorite design blogger – just turned forty. She also moved from NYC to a small town in New Mexico, quit her job of 16 years, and amicably ended her marriage. And she’s doing great! Hats off to you, Anna, and best wishes on your new beginning!
How was your week, guys? I spent the weekend and first part of the week in New Mexico with my BFF, hiking and cozying up to giant, paper mache skeletons. The rest of the week was one metric ton of ghostwriting, house warming parties, brunches, and a middle school performance of Titus Andronicus. Because nothing says 7th grade like a sixteenth-century play about violence and revenge, right?
Anyway. Links for you!
I’ve been talking everyone’s ear off aboutFar From the Tree. Without hyperbole, reading this book is an investment in your humanity. Seriously. It’s is 700 pages long, but it’s absolutely worth it. If that’s a bit overwhelming for you, the audio book is read by the extremely emotive and engaging author. I don’t know a single person whose life hasn’t been touched by the topics covered in it.
Went to the gym daily to bulk up in order to become strong and worthy of her, using “for Serena” as his concentration mantra in between reps
Played Taylor Swift’s “You Belong With Me” on repeat during Tabata workouts to keep his focus pure
Casually looked up tennis scoring names on his phone just before starting conversation with her, clenching his fist and muttering to himself, “It’s love, fifteen, thirty, forty, game, you can do this, Aubrey”
Let’s commit to making Instagram both beautiful and bearable. First, we all owe one another an apology. I’ll go first. I’m sorry I make everything look perfect on Instagram. In fact, nothing is perfect. Everyone is, in fact, doing the same thing… hiding their pain and disguising their anxieties behind various overhead shots of coffee and donuts. I’m sorry. I’m guilty of the same. Let’s forgive people in advance for their perceived perfection, see past it and love each other anyway.
I’ve always thought Rihanna was gorgeous but also quietly wondered what the big deal was. Then Miranda July interviewed her and now I sort of get it. ‘‘You know, when I started to experience the difference — or even have my race be highlighted — it was mostly when I would do business deals.’’ Business deals. Meaning that everyone’s cool with a young black woman singing, dancing, partying and looking hot, but that when it comes time to negotiate, to broker a deal, she is suddenly made aware of her blackness. ‘‘And, you know, that never ends, by the way. It’s still a thing. And it’s the thing that makes me want to prove people wrong. It almost excites me; I know what they’re expecting and I can’t wait to show them that I’m here to exceed those expectations.’’