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Web Time Wasters

How was your week, guys? I very, very rarely attend professional conferences but when it’s in my own city – I can be convinced! On Friday and Saturday I attended SimpleRev, a conference devoted to minimalism and intentional living. Super interesting! And I finally got to meet my long-time internet friend Courtney!

But enough about me. Let’s talk about you, internet.

I’ve been reading the Tiny Buddha blog foreeeeever (and even wrote for them!) so I’m super excited to dig into their new book! 365 tiny love challenges, indeed!

So helpful! 4 steps for fixing your conflict.

Have you already read ‘That Time I Pooped In The Closet‘?  Funny, funny, funny stuff.

Such a pretty dress!

Are these sexy or old lady-y?

There’s a freedom in saying “I’m too old for this.”
Young(er) women, take this to heart: Why waste time and energy on insecurity? I have no doubt that when I’m 80 I’ll look at pictures of myself when I was 60 and think how young I was then, how filled with joy and beauty.

So, so sweet. An 89-year-old grandma becomes a beautifully unexpected bridesmaid.

Related: Everything my grandma said last night as we watched American Ninja Warrior.

“Oh, his clothes are so baggy.”

“Is the cat near you? Do you suppose he got outside? Your window is wide open. Well, he’s somewhere.”

“Oh, my gosh.”

“Look at his muscles!”

Bookmarking for next summer: rosé lemonade.

How cute are these mini sweet notes?

Say yes to: managed expectations.

Can you fully relax if you’ve only got 20 minutes? Yup! Here are 20 ways.

Related: How to recharge and stay inspired when you’re really busy.

Duck boot + ballet flat = SO EFFING CUTE.

I loved this: 28 things I’ve done that I’m proud of. Wouldn’t it be great to make a list like this every year on your birthday?

Self-acceptance is activism.
The most important kind of activism is to be yourself—to go to yoga classes wearing whatever you want. None of this self-conscious Lululemon “you have to be wearing this, that, or the other” stuff, and a lot of places in Durham, NC, where I live and teach, are overly focused on that. But you can only be marginalized so much. The vast majority of people are just normal people. We don’t all look like Tara Stiles, and there’s more community [to be found] in standing together—as uniquely ourselves. The most important thing we can do is be honest. Take photos of yourself in your underwear!

You guys, I didn’t realize it but I’m already living my fantasy life.

Questions to ask yourself when you’re feeling horrible.
Do you feel ineffective?  Pause right now and get something small completed, whether it’s responding to an e-mail, loading up the dishwasher, or packing your gym bag for your next trip.  Good job!

And a few Yes & Yes posts you might have missed: 15 ways to make this autumn more interesting + more fun, How to make your life a million times easier, Don’t save the ‘good’ stuff.

Web Time Wasters

How was your week, guys? I crossed TWO things off my ‘New Things’ list (energy work + visiting the Wabasha caves) and I’m working on writing them up. I also took myself on a little DIY writing retreat, caught up with an old friend from Australia, had a mini train adventure on the Northstar Line, and watched a friend’s band. High five, week! You were awesome!

Anyhoodles. Links for you.

I have oodles of space in September’s Network of Nice! If you’d like to make new friends, get personal insights, find un-Google-able info or beta test your offerings this is for you! Send me 50-100 words at sarah (at) yesandyes (dot) org and we’ll get you set up!

I’ve been reading a few pages of The Effortless Everyday every night and it is chock full of wisdom. A particular favorite: “There’s no growth in your comfort zone and no comfort in your growth zone.” PREEEEEACH.

I have found the gold standard for coffee travel mugs and they’re $22 for 2! 454 four star reviews!

Do you want to make an amazing first impression? Dur. Who doesn’t? Here’s how.

I looooove creepy stuff. David Lynchian-anything, Russia, weird, sad biographies. Creepy Girl Travels is for us, fellow creepers.

Oooof, this is a good one. Why is everyone succeeding except me? (And I love the photo they chose to accompany this article.)
But everyone starts things and then abandons them. That’s part of being a creative person. You have good ideas and only a few of them pan out or keep your attention over time. I used to define myself as a quitter, thanks to all of the projects on my computer that I never finished. But the truth is, it takes a lot of stops and starts to figure out what you’re really committed to and what you really love enough to work hard on without much reward in sight.

What if we treated all consent the way we treated sexual consent?

A reminder: athletes come in all shapes and sizes.

Another reminder: we get to choose what we let into our lives – social media accounts included.

Ohhhhhhhh goodness am I ever co-signed on this one. Flaking out is not self-care.
It is an act of self-care to look at my schedule and see if a new project really belongs there. If there isn’t space, it is destructive for me to shoehorn it in. It’s not about only putting good things in my schedule. It’s about acknowledging what I have capacity for, and then not adding more (no matter how tempting).
And later, when I’m feeling overwhelmed and terrible because I have too many things on my plate? It’s past the time for care. At that point, flaking isn’t self-care. It’s triage.

A cute DIY wall hanging!

A makeup bag that speaks to my soul.

Super interesting and surprisingly uplifting: My parents were unwed teens.

A fan asked Amanda Palmer if she was crowdfunding her baby and this was her response.

Fresh Off The Boat is one of my favorite tv show and I think we’re all a little in love with Constance Wu, who plays the prickly mom. You’ll love this interview with her.

I can’t get this essay out of my head.

I’m stalking this swimsuit till it goes on sale.

I loved Liz’s super sweet story about Bob Dylan + travel + reconnecting with your family history.

Hope you had a lovely weekend!

Web Time Wasters

How was your week, guys? I’ve started getting Real Massages once a month and they make suuuuuch a huge difference in the way my hands/arms/shoulders feel after hours and hours of typing. (My amazing masseuse is running a Groupon if you’re in MSP!)

In addition to getting awesomely pummelled, I started ghostwriting a book for Penguin and attended ‘Wine and Film Club’ with six of my favorite people (aka asked the wine store guy to recommend a wine flight and then watched a documentary on Netflix).

I found the best links on the whoooooole dang internet. Just for you.

September always feels like a fresh start, so I love Elise’s 12 Tiny Changes  project. Each month her whole community will be working toward the same small change (drinking more water, doing meal prep on Sundays, etc). She’ll be sharing resources and tips each month and guiding everyone on Instagram. Awesome, right?

And if you’re looking for a little more ‘yes’ in your Fall, you might like my ‘Yes! Daily‘ app. It’s got a five-star rating!

I’m Agnostic and my husband is a secular Jew, but we still like to celebrate and honor the Jewish holidays. We have this lovely letterpress print hanging in our dining room and it’s a great reminder. Also: happy Rosh Hashana!

Random product recommendation. We got this for the backyard and we looooove it.

Have you heard of ‘granny flats’? They’re garage apartments or tiny alley houses that were traditionally used by grandmas who wanted  or needed to live closer to their kids – without actually living with them. They’re becoming more and more popular as primary homes and ways to better utilize space in crowded, expensive cities!

Want to travel the world without quitting your job? Here’s how the ‘digital nomads’ do it.
This autumn, when the sea starts to get chilly in the UK, he and his family plan to head off to Spain and Portugal, where they will continue with a similar mix of work and play throughout the winter. If this lifestyle sounds idyllic, you may be surprised to know that Thomson and Tipping need to earn only just over £600 a month to get by. They have managed this by moving into a camper van, living simply and working from a laptop with a mobile Wi-Fi connection while touring the British coast.

Have you tried retinol? Would you? Here’s how it’s been going for Kara.

I loved this: Little old lady annihilates subway slut-shamer.

An Autumn-appropriate jumpsuit.

Haaaaa! What will happen if I don’t take my phone out right now

* A female celebrity will do something in public and I will miss the chance to ask aloud, “Yes, but is she a feminist?
* I’ll get invited to a party on Facebook and will not be the first person to post a flippant remark, like, “new phone who dis.”
* I will have to spend at least one second of my life not agonizing over how everyone else’s life seems better. (How are you always at a cottage? Who drove you there? You don’t have a car and I don’t understand.)

Have you heard of It searches hotels AND Airbnb AND Vrbo …. and all the other sites I don’t know about.

Presented without comment: It turns out parenthood is more depressing than divorce, unemployment, or the death of a partner.
Of those new mothers and fathers whose happiness went down, 37 percent (742) reported a one-unit drop, 19 percent (383) a two-unit drop and 17 percent (341) a three-unit drop. On average, new parenthood led to a 1.4 unit drop in happiness. That’s considered very severe. To put things in perspective, previous studies have quantified the impact of other major life events on the same happiness scale in this way: divorce, the equivalent of a 0.6 “happiness unit” drop; unemployment, a one-unit drop; and the death of a partner a one-unit drop.

Instagram death match: Rosé vs. Avocado Toast.

If you want to strengthen a friendship, here’s what you should do on their birthday.

Hope you had a great weekend, guys!

Web Time Wasters

Happy weekend, dudes! Did you enjoy your short week? I got to see long-time Yes & Yes reader/singer songwriter/cellist Alana Henderson perform alongside Hozier (and kill it, incidentally). This weekend Kenny and I are celebrating his birthday in our very favorite way: a weekend in Wisconsin, eating at supper clubs and staying in weird motels.

Also: can we talk about how awesome the above song is? Beirut is what my soul sounds like.

Links for you!

Related to our weekend plans: Best day trips from Minneapolis and St. Paul

You know I’m all about staying smart – here’s how to recognize the artists of famous paintings.

I really liked this. I retired at 30. The best part isn’t the leisure – it’s the freedom.
This is what I’m really describing when I talk about early retirement. It’s not really retirement at all, but that’s because I don’t think anybody should truly retire in the old sense of the word — swearing off all forms of paid activity in favor of a dramatic increase in television watching and golf playing. Creation of new ideas, new enterprises, or new things is the biggest joy of being alive. Learning more about life, the world, and yourself and then trying to mix the ingredients together to the best of your ability is the happiest path you can take as a human. We’re uniquely lucky to even have such an option available to us these days.

A pretty, swingy top that could work in any season.

Love it. French fry toppings of the world.

Have we already talked about these key chains?

How does one maintain their dye job and mani in prison?

This is how I feel about my Roomba. (This is how my cat feels.)

Related: cats as ninjas.

What does feminism look like in Russia’s Valley of Geysers?
“She can cook, she can clean, she can light a fire,” Dennis says. “She’s ready to get married!” I go to move a bench out of their way. Dennis drops his end of the bed and leaps to my rescue. “That’s too heavy for you,” he tells me, and I know why he thinks so.
“That’s men’s work, to lift things,” says Konstantin. “Women’s work is to have babies.”

Do you believe any of these myths?

Here’s what it feels like to have dyslexia.

A fashion blogger who never shows her face? And she had 8k Instagram followers!

Such a pretty, weird ring.

Are you trying to get financially healthy? Here are 11 things you should quit.
Aspirational lifestyle and fashion blogs. I used to torture myself with the Sartorialist. It was a form of deeply masochistic envy-blogging, where I would lust over the endless disposable income, chic surroundings, and whisper-thin waistlines of the subjects, and imagine my life would beso much better if I could only afford that handbag. Even the lesser gods of the lifestyle-blogging pantheon made me feel like I was a mediocre person who was a 50 percent salary increase from being wonderful and happy. Now, I stick to the more realistic bloggers, who pair “sale sweater” with “being a normal human being who has flaws.”

P.S. Are we friends on Instagram? I’m over there pretty regularly sharing travel tips, lazy recipes, and my weekly #churchofgratitude posts! 

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How was your week, guys? I discovered my new personal mantra, brunched with my ladies, picnicked with buddies and got in one last meal at SeaSalt before it closed for the season.

Links for youuuuu!

V. important: a cat tea cafe in San Francisco. (It’s called Kit Tea GET IT)

Bookmarking this for an accent wall in the master bedroom: Top 10 removable wallpapers.

Oof. Making a home, in sickness and health.
Yet meeting Mr. Fisher had made her feel like a real person again. After months of thinking of herself as being a jumble of test results and medical jargon, talking with him revived the curious, lively, creative person she had been, the one who loved books, art, culture and travel and was equally at home interviewing architects like Renzo Piano and dissecting the finer points of the British cult TV show “Dr. Who.”

When she finally gathered the courage to tell him, he wasn’t devastated and he didn’t run. Nor did he jump in to become her full-time caretaker. She already had a tight circle of friends who had rallied around her to take her to her doctors’ appointments, fill her refrigerator or keep her company.

Oh, you know. Just miniature skulls carved from pearls.

Doesn’t this dress scream “Autumn dinner party”?

A super interesting read about gender and sexuality: “Why I’m Still A Butch Lesbian.”
Facebook has more than 50 possible gender identifiers. So why have I, a female-bodied person who wears men’s clothing, decided to stick with the increasingly old-fashioned “butch lesbian woman”? In part, it’s because the language of gender identity has always been a bit bewildering to me—I’ve felt hungry, happy, gassy, and anxious, but never male or female.

I grew up camping every summer (and I never, ever need to eat Spam or squeeze cheese again, thanks). But Erin makes family camping look damn-near enjoyable. Honestly, I think a yurt is more my speed.

A fun, seven-day challenge to make your less-than-amazing day job more fun!

I’m giving my beloved Old Navy Rockstar jeans a break in favor of these. (Be warned. They’re very, um, butt-centric. At least on me.)

Where to put your money when you travel. (Also: Bra Pocket)

Related: how to pack like Joan Didion.

Also related: How to travel like you’re not totally broke.

I’ve never labored under the impression that it’s easy to be healthy (for me, every day is a battle not to eat noodles and butter) but the internet and Pinterest have taught us that health can be Easy! and Fun! all the time, ever. Our collective girlfriend Nicole gets real about it.
My running and salad-making habits are solidly on point, but there will never, ever, ever be a time when going running and preparing a healthy meal is as easy and effortless as laying on the couch eating an entire sleeve of Oreos. Never ever.

I love a good list of life wisdom. Danielle LaPorte shares 28 of the best things I ever did – from my bedroom to my business.
(Some of my best decisions have been: starting a blog, living abroad, wearing sunscreen all the time, hiring a VA, signing up for online dating, giving up – for the most part – caffeine and alcohol.)

Say yes to rejection.

I love this AND CAN TOTALLY RELATE. Gigi had a successful business as a freelance copywriter, living a location-independent life. But last year she realized she was passionate about travel writing – not copy and About-page writing. So she closed up shop and now she’s trying to make it as a full-time travel writer. Inspiring!

And a few Yes & Yes posts you might have missed: How do I become a grown up? How to travel on the cheap, The epic difference between ‘have to’ and ‘want to.’

Hope you had a great weekend, guys!

Web Time Wasters

You guys! It’s been a crazy week! Eight days ago my guy and I tied the knot in front of our parents and his boys. Yesterday, I invited over a pile of friends for a) Adult Snow Cones b) my 36th birthday.  Somewhere in there, I met friends for coffee and lunch, read lots of magazines on blankets, played hooky at the beach, and watched my husband (?!!?) record a podcast about climate change with two professional comics.

But enough about all that. Let’s talk about the internet.

I’m officially a stepmom now and this book comes highly recommended. If you have any other recommendations, let me know!

Sister Bourne is our new idol.
In the 1910s she lost her first school teaching job in Arizona because she danced the one-step (think about what would have happened if it was the two-step!). At her second teaching job at a mining camp outside of Tuscon, Bourne asked her students (who didn’t speak any English) to teach her Spanish even though it was illegal to speak Spanish at Arizona schools at the time.

DIY deodorant cream? I’m kind of into it.

I love the idea of pairing a workout with your favorite book!

Wouldn’t this be cute nestled on your bookshelf?

Back-to-school supplies for grown ups

Yes! Yes. The REAL way to stand with Planned Parenthood.

Whoa! An app for … foraging fruits and vegetables?


Not Dressed As Lamb is one of my long-time favorite fashion bloggers; she’s incredibly stylish and fit and happens to be 43. Recently, she started the Instagram hashtag #iwillwearwhatilike, asking her followers to photograph themselves in trends they’ve been told they “shouldn’t wear over the age of 30.” The results are wonderful!

I liked this. 5 simple ways to make life LESS convenient.

Why is it so painful to admit you’re on public assistance?
I see myself in the stranger’s eyes, and I know he thinks he and I are the same. I am a young white woman with an expensive looking dress I bought at a thrift store last summer.  I have an EBT card, too, I imagine myself telling him, taking ownership of my identity. After all, what is there to be ashamed of? I wonder what it is, exactly, about receiving public assistance that humiliates me so deeply. I work hard, I want to tell him. I’m working two jobs this summer, and I’m starting college in the fall. Instead, I merely smile back at him and shrug. Moments later, I slip the cashier my EBT card, and the cashier looks surprised, then confused. Still, he swipes it without a word, and to my relief, it’s accepted. When I exit the store, I don’t let myself look back.

Wait, what? You can make your own sidewalk chalk?

Cute! DIY map envelopes!

A roundup of eco-friendly beauty products.

What if we treated our sons like daughters?
Logan is learning to read! There are so many books in his classroom, and he naturally gravitates to books about princes. He even wears his Prince Charming costume to school most days and keeps it clean. He daydreams about growing up rich and living in a castle and being married to a beautiful princess.

How to spend time alone in NYC.

And a few Yes & Yes posts you might have missed: 4 theme parties you’ve probably never tried,