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Web Time Wasters

How was your week, guys? I’ve started getting Real Massages once a month and they make suuuuuch a huge difference in the way my hands/arms/shoulders feel after hours and hours of typing. (My amazing masseuse is running a Groupon if you’re in MSP!)

In addition to getting awesomely pummelled, I started ghostwriting a book for Penguin and attended ‘Wine and Film Club’ with six of my favorite people (aka asked the wine store guy to recommend a wine flight and then watched a documentary on Netflix).

I found the best links on the whoooooole dang internet. Just for you.

September always feels like a fresh start, so I love Elise’s 12 Tiny Changes  project. Each month her whole community will be working toward the same small change (drinking more water, doing meal prep on Sundays, etc). She’ll be sharing resources and tips each month and guiding everyone on Instagram. Awesome, right?

And if you’re looking for a little more ‘yes’ in your Fall, you might like my ‘Yes! Daily‘ app. It’s got a five-star rating!

I’m Agnostic and my husband is a secular Jew, but we still like to celebrate and honor the Jewish holidays. We have this lovely letterpress print hanging in our dining room and it’s a great reminder. Also: happy Rosh Hashana!

Random product recommendation. We got this for the backyard and we looooove it.

Have you heard of ‘granny flats’? They’re garage apartments or tiny alley houses that were traditionally used by grandmas who wanted  or needed to live closer to their kids – without actually living with them. They’re becoming more and more popular as primary homes and ways to better utilize space in crowded, expensive cities!

Want to travel the world without quitting your job? Here’s how the ‘digital nomads’ do it.
This autumn, when the sea starts to get chilly in the UK, he and his family plan to head off to Spain and Portugal, where they will continue with a similar mix of work and play throughout the winter. If this lifestyle sounds idyllic, you may be surprised to know that Thomson and Tipping need to earn only just over £600 a month to get by. They have managed this by moving into a camper van, living simply and working from a laptop with a mobile Wi-Fi connection while touring the British coast.

Have you tried retinol? Would you? Here’s how it’s been going for Kara.

I loved this: Little old lady annihilates subway slut-shamer.

An Autumn-appropriate jumpsuit.

Haaaaa! What will happen if I don’t take my phone out right now

* A female celebrity will do something in public and I will miss the chance to ask aloud, “Yes, but is she a feminist?
* I’ll get invited to a party on Facebook and will not be the first person to post a flippant remark, like, “new phone who dis.”
* I will have to spend at least one second of my life not agonizing over how everyone else’s life seems better. (How are you always at a cottage? Who drove you there? You don’t have a car and I don’t understand.)

Have you heard of It searches hotels AND Airbnb AND Vrbo …. and all the other sites I don’t know about.

Presented without comment: It turns out parenthood is more depressing than divorce, unemployment, or the death of a partner.
Of those new mothers and fathers whose happiness went down, 37 percent (742) reported a one-unit drop, 19 percent (383) a two-unit drop and 17 percent (341) a three-unit drop. On average, new parenthood led to a 1.4 unit drop in happiness. That’s considered very severe. To put things in perspective, previous studies have quantified the impact of other major life events on the same happiness scale in this way: divorce, the equivalent of a 0.6 “happiness unit” drop; unemployment, a one-unit drop; and the death of a partner a one-unit drop.

Instagram death match: Rosé vs. Avocado Toast.

If you want to strengthen a friendship, here’s what you should do on their birthday.

Hope you had a great weekend, guys!

Web Time Wasters

Happy weekend, dudes! Did you enjoy your short week? I got to see long-time Yes & Yes reader/singer songwriter/cellist Alana Henderson perform alongside Hozier (and kill it, incidentally). This weekend Kenny and I are celebrating his birthday in our very favorite way: a weekend in Wisconsin, eating at supper clubs and staying in weird motels.

Also: can we talk about how awesome the above song is? Beirut is what my soul sounds like.

Links for you!

Related to our weekend plans: Best day trips from Minneapolis and St. Paul

You know I’m all about staying smart – here’s how to recognize the artists of famous paintings.

I really liked this. I retired at 30. The best part isn’t the leisure – it’s the freedom.
This is what I’m really describing when I talk about early retirement. It’s not really retirement at all, but that’s because I don’t think anybody should truly retire in the old sense of the word — swearing off all forms of paid activity in favor of a dramatic increase in television watching and golf playing. Creation of new ideas, new enterprises, or new things is the biggest joy of being alive. Learning more about life, the world, and yourself and then trying to mix the ingredients together to the best of your ability is the happiest path you can take as a human. We’re uniquely lucky to even have such an option available to us these days.

A pretty, swingy top that could work in any season.

Love it. French fry toppings of the world.

Have we already talked about these key chains?

How does one maintain their dye job and mani in prison?

This is how I feel about my Roomba. (This is how my cat feels.)

Related: cats as ninjas.

What does feminism look like in Russia’s Valley of Geysers?
“She can cook, she can clean, she can light a fire,” Dennis says. “She’s ready to get married!” I go to move a bench out of their way. Dennis drops his end of the bed and leaps to my rescue. “That’s too heavy for you,” he tells me, and I know why he thinks so.
“That’s men’s work, to lift things,” says Konstantin. “Women’s work is to have babies.”

Do you believe any of these myths?

Here’s what it feels like to have dyslexia.

A fashion blogger who never shows her face? And she had 8k Instagram followers!

Such a pretty, weird ring.

Are you trying to get financially healthy? Here are 11 things you should quit.
Aspirational lifestyle and fashion blogs. I used to torture myself with the Sartorialist. It was a form of deeply masochistic envy-blogging, where I would lust over the endless disposable income, chic surroundings, and whisper-thin waistlines of the subjects, and imagine my life would beso much better if I could only afford that handbag. Even the lesser gods of the lifestyle-blogging pantheon made me feel like I was a mediocre person who was a 50 percent salary increase from being wonderful and happy. Now, I stick to the more realistic bloggers, who pair “sale sweater” with “being a normal human being who has flaws.”

P.S. Are we friends on Instagram? I’m over there pretty regularly sharing travel tips, lazy recipes, and my weekly #churchofgratitude posts! 

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How was your week, guys? I discovered my new personal mantra, brunched with my ladies, picnicked with buddies and got in one last meal at SeaSalt before it closed for the season.

Links for youuuuu!

V. important: a cat tea cafe in San Francisco. (It’s called Kit Tea GET IT)

Bookmarking this for an accent wall in the master bedroom: Top 10 removable wallpapers.

Oof. Making a home, in sickness and health.
Yet meeting Mr. Fisher had made her feel like a real person again. After months of thinking of herself as being a jumble of test results and medical jargon, talking with him revived the curious, lively, creative person she had been, the one who loved books, art, culture and travel and was equally at home interviewing architects like Renzo Piano and dissecting the finer points of the British cult TV show “Dr. Who.”

When she finally gathered the courage to tell him, he wasn’t devastated and he didn’t run. Nor did he jump in to become her full-time caretaker. She already had a tight circle of friends who had rallied around her to take her to her doctors’ appointments, fill her refrigerator or keep her company.

Oh, you know. Just miniature skulls carved from pearls.

Doesn’t this dress scream “Autumn dinner party”?

A super interesting read about gender and sexuality: “Why I’m Still A Butch Lesbian.”
Facebook has more than 50 possible gender identifiers. So why have I, a female-bodied person who wears men’s clothing, decided to stick with the increasingly old-fashioned “butch lesbian woman”? In part, it’s because the language of gender identity has always been a bit bewildering to me—I’ve felt hungry, happy, gassy, and anxious, but never male or female.

I grew up camping every summer (and I never, ever need to eat Spam or squeeze cheese again, thanks). But Erin makes family camping look damn-near enjoyable. Honestly, I think a yurt is more my speed.

A fun, seven-day challenge to make your less-than-amazing day job more fun!

I’m giving my beloved Old Navy Rockstar jeans a break in favor of these. (Be warned. They’re very, um, butt-centric. At least on me.)

Where to put your money when you travel. (Also: Bra Pocket)

Related: how to pack like Joan Didion.

Also related: How to travel like you’re not totally broke.

I’ve never labored under the impression that it’s easy to be healthy (for me, every day is a battle not to eat noodles and butter) but the internet and Pinterest have taught us that health can be Easy! and Fun! all the time, ever. Our collective girlfriend Nicole gets real about it.
My running and salad-making habits are solidly on point, but there will never, ever, ever be a time when going running and preparing a healthy meal is as easy and effortless as laying on the couch eating an entire sleeve of Oreos. Never ever.

I love a good list of life wisdom. Danielle LaPorte shares 28 of the best things I ever did – from my bedroom to my business.
(Some of my best decisions have been: starting a blog, living abroad, wearing sunscreen all the time, hiring a VA, signing up for online dating, giving up – for the most part – caffeine and alcohol.)

Say yes to rejection.

I love this AND CAN TOTALLY RELATE. Gigi had a successful business as a freelance copywriter, living a location-independent life. But last year she realized she was passionate about travel writing – not copy and About-page writing. So she closed up shop and now she’s trying to make it as a full-time travel writer. Inspiring!

And a few Yes & Yes posts you might have missed: How do I become a grown up? How to travel on the cheap, The epic difference between ‘have to’ and ‘want to.’

Hope you had a great weekend, guys!

Web Time Wasters

You guys! It’s been a crazy week! Eight days ago my guy and I tied the knot in front of our parents and his boys. Yesterday, I invited over a pile of friends for a) Adult Snow Cones b) my 36th birthday.  Somewhere in there, I met friends for coffee and lunch, read lots of magazines on blankets, played hooky at the beach, and watched my husband (?!!?) record a podcast about climate change with two professional comics.

But enough about all that. Let’s talk about the internet.

I’m officially a stepmom now and this book comes highly recommended. If you have any other recommendations, let me know!

Sister Bourne is our new idol.
In the 1910s she lost her first school teaching job in Arizona because she danced the one-step (think about what would have happened if it was the two-step!). At her second teaching job at a mining camp outside of Tuscon, Bourne asked her students (who didn’t speak any English) to teach her Spanish even though it was illegal to speak Spanish at Arizona schools at the time.

DIY deodorant cream? I’m kind of into it.

I love the idea of pairing a workout with your favorite book!

Wouldn’t this be cute nestled on your bookshelf?

Back-to-school supplies for grown ups

Yes! Yes. The REAL way to stand with Planned Parenthood.

Whoa! An app for … foraging fruits and vegetables?


Not Dressed As Lamb is one of my long-time favorite fashion bloggers; she’s incredibly stylish and fit and happens to be 43. Recently, she started the Instagram hashtag #iwillwearwhatilike, asking her followers to photograph themselves in trends they’ve been told they “shouldn’t wear over the age of 30.” The results are wonderful!

I liked this. 5 simple ways to make life LESS convenient.

Why is it so painful to admit you’re on public assistance?
I see myself in the stranger’s eyes, and I know he thinks he and I are the same. I am a young white woman with an expensive looking dress I bought at a thrift store last summer.  I have an EBT card, too, I imagine myself telling him, taking ownership of my identity. After all, what is there to be ashamed of? I wonder what it is, exactly, about receiving public assistance that humiliates me so deeply. I work hard, I want to tell him. I’m working two jobs this summer, and I’m starting college in the fall. Instead, I merely smile back at him and shrug. Moments later, I slip the cashier my EBT card, and the cashier looks surprised, then confused. Still, he swipes it without a word, and to my relief, it’s accepted. When I exit the store, I don’t let myself look back.

Wait, what? You can make your own sidewalk chalk?

Cute! DIY map envelopes!

A roundup of eco-friendly beauty products.

What if we treated our sons like daughters?
Logan is learning to read! There are so many books in his classroom, and he naturally gravitates to books about princes. He even wears his Prince Charming costume to school most days and keeps it clean. He daydreams about growing up rich and living in a castle and being married to a beautiful princess.

How to spend time alone in NYC.

And a few Yes & Yes posts you might have missed: 4 theme parties you’ve probably never tried,

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Such a sassy song.

What you do on a friend’s birthday says about how much your value their friendship.

A brave article from a mom who gave up primary custody of her daughter.
I worried that I was teaching her that struggle is a part of life — something that many of us are taught subliminally. I worried that she would grow up with issues from not having her daddy in her life (a struggle that many women can relate to). I worried about the relationship she would have with money if she watched me try to make ends meet. I worried about a lot of things during that time, but the biggest worry of all was that I was setting an example for her that life is very, very hard — and that is not something I want to pass on to my child.

Let’s all make bacon donuts with maple cinnamon cream and then let’s make lemon poppyseed ricotta waffles followed by a watermelon margarita and a pie that has a crust made out of saltines.

I’m completely mesmerized by this … blazer?

I’m almost done with my tube of CC cream and I think I’m going to splash out on this highly-reviewed mineral makeup.

I love a good interview. A crematory operator explains what it’s like to burn bodies for a living.
What is the grossest thing you do at work?
Sometimes we get bodies in that are fairly decomposed. Because I’m at a crematorium in Detroit we often deal with bodies that have been found in abandoned houses and they’re there for quite a while until they’re found. So when they are found I have to make sure each body matches up with the paperwork so I have to check the toe tags and ankle bracelets to check and keep everything organized. Recently we’ve been dealing with the universities and donor cadavers and sometimes the cadavers aren’t all in one piece. If they’re in multiple pieces, each piece is tagged with the same ID number to make sure no pieces get misplaced. I had to hold a severed human head and it was a lot heavier than I thought it would be. That could be a little weird for people.

Ha! The asshole rating self-exam.

Yup. I didn’t blog for an entire week and no one died.

Ooof. What do I have to say to a cop?

Yes! You can actually enjoy your mornings!

Gorgeous cat toys and accessories.

ALLLLLEEEERT! This empty Sicilian town is giving away houses.

My partner’s a climatologist so this article hits close to home.
“Oh yeah,” Schmidt says, almost casually. “The business-as-usual world that we project is really a totally different planet. There’s going to be huge dislocations if that comes about.”

But things can change much quicker than people think, he says. Look at attitudes on gay marriage.

And the glaciers?

“The glaciers are going to melt, they’re all going to melt,” he says. “But my reaction to Jason Box’s comments is—what is the point of saying that? It doesn’t help anybody.”

Do you have an intense kid in your life? Here are five ways to calm them down.

This designer is funding her trip of 26,000 miles by selling a series of 26 travel-inspired, hand-lettered posters!

And a few Yes & Yes posts you might have missed: True Story: I have Aspergers, How to become a morning person (or at least fake it), Love your ex enough to leave them alone. 

Web Time Wasters

How was your week, guys? I spent Monday in San Deigo (and it was gross), lunched on Buster’s famous onion rings with Elizabeth and this weekend I brought the same salad to two bbqs because I believe in multi-tasking.

Enough about me! Let’s talk about you!

A few years ago I was part of this Minneapolis arts ambassador program and I can’t recommend it highly enough. In exchange for a tweet or two you get to attend nine events at a tiny fraction of the ticket price. Look into it, MSP-ers!

My latest travel trick.

Fellow renters! Easy, temporary backsplash tiles!

Until I read this, I didn’t realize that I agreed. ‘Celebrities I Have Long Believed Are Enchanted Dogs In Human Form.’ (Tony Danza, OBVIOUSLY.)

YES. Yes. Even though I love travel and it’s a huge part of my life, I don’t think that it’s a requirement for a fulfilling life and I think it’s condescending to assume that someone ‘hasn’t lived’ till they’ve seen the pyramids. (Puke.)
Because of how I was raised, where I went to school, and professional luck, I graduated into a class of people who seem to take international travel for granted, as if not going abroad is some kind of hardship. I guess this has always kind of irked for a few reasons. Firstly, the assumption that a lot of travel-privileged have that there is some sort of transcendent experience only they understand because of their travel that non-travelers wouldn’t understand. Yes, travel is educational and expands worldview, but so does meeting new people from diverse backgrounds and exploring neighborhoods outside your own. The assumption that people who don’t travel are somehow small-minded has always driven me nuts.

The second thing that always bothered me about a particular type of snobby world traveler is how classist and condescending they can be. “Oh my god you haven’t been to Paris?!? That’s crazy!” As if Paris was as far away as Bakersfield and as cheap to stay in.

I am always going to wear a helmet when I bike, but apparently there are some pretty decent reasons not to? Discuss.

Related: if you’re new to biking (or – like me – you know a million people who have been hit by cars) check out Ride The City. It’s an app that outlines ‘direct,’ ‘safe,’ and ‘safer’ routes for you!

Such a pretty, lady-like shirt.

Super interesting. The likely cause of addiction has been discovered and it’s not what you think.

We’ve talked about how what we eat can change the world. If you don’t want to become a vegetarian, what if you became a reducetarian?

Ahhhhh! Farting is my secret feminist weapon that works every time.
Not 10 seconds after my flatulence escaped me, though, a line of noxious odor that can only be described in subway terms as more-gross-than-unbathed-homeless-person and less-gross-than-actual-feces, and crept along to the unassuming nostrils of the privileged man half sitting in my seat.

Faster than the speed of fart, this man sniffled ever so slightly and then shifted over in his seat, removing the part of his thighs and butt that had been crossing the line into my territory.

 It was a miracle.

A swimsuit worth bookmarking (and stalking as we wait for it to go on sale.)

Also: A cute feminist t-shirt.

It’s possible! The $30 dinner party!

This is important. A gentler, more compassionate way to talk about suicide.
Someone does not “commit” suicide, they die from suicide. This is a much less judgmental, more straightforward way to talk about someone who dies from mental illness. They are not “a suicide” any more than someone who dies from cancer is “a cancer.”

And a few Yes & Yes posts you might have missed: What’s your Plan Z? True Story: I went back to college at 51, “I want to quit my job + travel. Now what?”

Hope you had a great weekend, guys!