Category: web time wasters

Web Time Wasters

(just listen to the whole thing while you’re making breakfast today. you’ll thank me.)

What are you guys up to this weekend? I’m on a quick business trip to L.A. and I’m squeezing in a mini-trip to San Diego to meet Sarah and Elise in person – finally! Also: catching up with friends from high school and alllll the tacos, ever.

Links for you!

Yes. Everything I Am Afraid Might Happen If I Ask New Acquaintances To Get Coffee.
They’ll say yes, and we’ll have a perfectly nice time and bond over what it’s like being in our twenties and working in creative fields and struggling to find fulfillment on a day-to-day basis. It will slowly grow dark outside as we share and laugh late into the evening, and when we part we’ll agree that it was a truly lovely time and that we’ll definitely do dinner soon, and then we will never speak again.

Wouldn’t it be fun to re-create some of these? The obsessively detailed list of American literature’s most epic roadtrips.

Could you beat a 12-year-old at arm wrestling? Not this 12-year-old Minnesota girl.

An app to help you create and use your capsule wardrobe?

How to deal with too many business phone calls.


(more yelling) INVISIBLE BOOK SHELF??!!

Ooof. One female photographer is taking pictures of men moments after they harass her.

The ‘Email a tree’ service didn’t go as planned – it was a lot sweeter.
“My dearest Ulmus,” the message began.
“As I was leaving St. Mary’s College today I was struck, not by a branch, but by your radiant beauty. You must get these messages all the time. You’re such an attractive tree.”

When I lived in Taiwan this was one of my favorite restaurants. So awesome and weird!

A totally new way to use Twitter.

My hands and wrists get jacked up from typing all day, but this is helping a lot.

Have you heard of Thrive Market? It looks like Amazon for affordable health food? I’m intrigued…

What new moms say vs. what they mean.

Let’s agree on these things.

I don’t even have an iphone and I want this.

Happens to the best of us. What should you do when you’re jealous of someone who’s ‘bigger’ on the internet?
But here’s the thing we too often forget in this age of social media fame. Being cool on Twitter? That’s not the same thing as having power. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re creating anything huge or important or particularly meaningful. It doesn’t even mean you’re making a living wage. It just means you spend a lot of time on Twitter, and that some folks who have been designated as “cool” think you’re cool.

Hope you had a great weekend!

Web Time Wasters

Boy, do I ever feel this: the psychic weight of stuff.
Since the yard sale I have been thinking about how bringing an item into my home exponentially expands its weigh and energy. So easy it is to bring something in, and so hard it is to get it out! It’s like it grows to quadruple the size as soon as you take it out of the bag or the box. Just preparing for a yard sale takes many more hours per item than acquiring the item itself. I cannot afford to expend life energy on things that I don’t truly want or need.

Related: what does ‘living small’ actually mean?

Ooooh! The secret gardens of London!

John Mark Nelson is 21 and he’s writing songs like this. So.

Every time I wear this$5 lip gloss, people comment on it. Like, really.

I’m filing this under ‘investment pieces I’m saving for.’ (Or maybe I’ll just get this instead.)

I’m heading out to L.A. for a quick work trip next week and I’m totally making/packing these lemon chia chews because I imagine they’re 100% cheaper/healthier/better than the three Clif bars I’d try to eat.

Ahhhhhh! This house tour! That ruggggg!

Cute! Marthe will send you a handwritten, artist-designed inspirational postcard for $5.

From ages 22 – 35, you’ll probably spend tens of thousands of dollars on your friends’ weddings. Reminder: you don’t have to go to every wedding you’re invited to, especially if they’re far away.
A 33-year-old Washingtonian I spoke to has found an effective way to cut down on the costs: She says no to nearly all out-of-town weddings. “If you don’t live in D.C. and I never see you, I’ll go to your wedding,” she tells me. But if the couple lives in D.C. and they’re having a wedding outside the Washington area, she’s not going.

The smartest way to take a vacation. (I think I’m doing it ‘wrong’)

Related: how to maintain that vacation feeling when the vacation is over.

Yup. 10 wines to drink with ice cream.

Related: saltine crack ice cream sandwiches.

Such a cute, easy idea: DIY reversible throw pillows.

This bra is so incredibly sexy.

Do you do date nights? My guy and I love the $3 Riverview Theater and R & B nights at The Roller Garden. Here are 10 cute summer date night ideas!

I loved this: My wedding was perfect and I was fat as hell the whole time.
I skipped the bridal boutiques altogether. My friend, artist and designer Mark Mitchell, and I conceived of the most beautiful dress we could imagine, which, according to the old orthodoxies, just happened to be the least “flattering” dress possible for a fat chick: a strapless, skin-tight mermaid gown exploding with silk flowers. The flowers – my god, the wisteria! – added extra bulk in areas I’m supposed to try and “slim”. The silhouette accentuated my stomach instead of camouflaging it. My arms looked like what they are – strong, and big. I didn’t wear Spanx. I was beautiful.

I never thought of this, but it’s such a good idea: Why I Always Support Female Led Films on Opening Weekend

Web Time Wasters

Links for you! 

Ooooh! Famous European theaters as seen from backstage!

I work from my sun porch these days but I loved these tips on how to save money and time on your commute.

Yes x 1,000. Conscious optimism vs. lazy, pseudo-spiritual optimism. Please make a choice.
So that vision of the world we want to live in…it requires wide awake optimism to create it. Those lives “of service” so many of us are trying to live… Service is being informed. Service is being enraged. Service is keeping your heart open even when you’re enraged. Service is being ruthlessly honest about the facts — and then choosing to be optimistic. Service is fuelling your optimism with action. (And yes, meditation counts as action.)

Quick! Before summer is over! Fill 100 water balloons per minute?!

Man partner, are you reading this? Please buy me these for my birthday. Also: this brooch.

Things we should all cook/bake/eat immediately: Crispy tofu kale hash, peach and plum Caprese salad, asparagus three cheese tart.

Focus At Will is the newest tool in my productivity toolkit. So good! This is the oddly specific way I use it.

Here’s your Sunday weep: a story of a couple’s last vacation together as the wife dies of cancer.

“First I need you to promise me something. Not for now, for after.”

I take a deep breath and find it hard to form words; all I come up with is a nod.

“I want you to do the things you always talked about doing but never did,” she says. “The house on a lake you wanted. Buying the vineyard that will use up all your money. Another dog, to keep Gus company. Just don’t let too much time pass before you do. Each day is like a year, as I found out the hard way. And I want you to be happy, as I always have been. That’s my wish for you.”

“I don’t want to do any of that without you,” I say. “It won’t mean the same.”

“It will have to be without me,” Susan says. “That decision has been made.”

The best natural sunscreens.

Related: Ca-yute! And a perfume that allegedly smells like the beach.

How to create a sustainable grocery shopping list #lentils

Do you also love creepy, creepy Shirley Jackson? What if she wrote “What To Expect When You’re Expecting”?
Chapter 3: Mother, Mother, I’m Coming, I’m Coming, Mother, Just A Minute Mother, Mother, Stop Banging On The Walls, Mother I’m Coming, Mother Mother ᴍᴏᴛʜᴇʀ
On The Moon We Speak A Soft, Liquid Tongue
Look Down On The Dead Dried World • A Huge Cloud Of Looming Nothingness • There’s No One Here Named Charles

I moved into a new place a few months ago and I’m struggling to make my  old pieces fit in the new place. I liked Kelsey’s series on decorating a new space with intention (instead of just buying cute, mismatched things at Goodwill, like I usually do.)

Tech housekeeping = yes.

Are you healthy or cheap or vegan or lazy? If so, have I got the summer dessert for you!

A photo essay about a 22-year-old nun.

Ooooh! A super easy DIY for your own upholstered headboard.

And a few Yes & Yes posts you might have missed: How to take a sabbatical without ruining your career and 7 style tricks to fool people into thinking you’ve made an effort with your appearance.