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What’d you do for the 4th, friends? I was back in my hometown, swimming in lakes, eating sweetcorn, and catching up with friends from high school. I hope your time off was equally refreshing!

Links for you

If you have conflicted feelings about celebrating the U.S. right now, this quote might help.

This time of year can be a minefield for your money and happiness – attending high school reunions, family reunions, seeing everyone’s vacation photos on Instagram, spending $$$$ to attend weddings. I made a video about ways to deal with all this, things to say to people + things to say to yourself. You can watch it here.

I chatted with Tami Hackbarth this week about self-care and how money + habits contribute to it! Click here to listen.

FASCINATING! Can you forget things on purpose?
What we found was that when people engaged more with the information they were trying to forget, they were, in certain conditions, more successful at forgetting it. If they engaged with the memory too much, they strengthened it; if they completely disengaged the memory, it wasn’t modified at all; but if they engaged just a little bit, or a moderate amount, then the memory was more susceptible to forgetting, a finding we validated by testing them behaviorally later on.

We had a good discussion about this article in our Money & Happy Facebook group: ‘Class-passing’: how do you learn the rules of being rich?

I loved this house tour and its mix of new and old.

Wearing this every day this summer.

This made me smile.

Co-signed: The secret to getting ahead is doing the work other people don’t want to do.

I loved this interview with Alanis Morissette and I’d probably react the same way the writer did.
I knew that there was no chance of me being an objective journalist in our time together. I knew that I would have protected her with my body if the aforementioned man had pushed his way into the room. I knew I would tell her I too had left Canada at the age of 19, that Jagged Little Pill was my first cassette tape, and that I had three children, while she sat there beatifically gestating her own third. The question was: Would this word-vomit emerge from me the minute she sat down, or would it ooze out at odd moments? (The first, mainly.)

Ahhhh! I love this DIY!

Yessss. A good reminder if ‘swimsuit season’ has you up in your head, obsessing about your body or weight.

Hope you had a lovely week, friends!

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Alanna Royale – I Know (Music Video) from Solar Cabin on Vimeo.

How was your week, friends? I had a super busy week of mutually beneficial brain picking, walking around lakes, and joyfully fussing with the yard. This weekend we hosted a family barbecue, helped a friend celebrate her graduation, and protested the separation of immigrant families.

Links for you!

The fastest way to help immigrants separated from their children

How do you regain your confidence after a stumble?

Kenny bike commutes to work every day so I loved this cycling safety hack involved a … pool noodle? (Thus far, I have not convinced him to do this.)

What if you disconnected exercise from eating? Like, exercise wasn’t ‘punishment’ for eating something ‘bad’?

Who doesn’t love a good listicle? Parenting hacks that I’ve truly never heard before.

One of the habits I picked up from years of traveling international on my own is to a) stay out of arm’s reach of any man I walk past
b) cover my chest with the arm that’s nearest them. Depressing, right? Thus, I enjoyed this article: How to play Patriarchy Chicken: why I refuse to move out of the way for men
If you don’t move out of the way for men, your commute changes. For one thing – I’m not going to lie about this – you do collide with a lot of men. This is where the name of the game comes from. You need to really commit to Patriarchy Chicken: don’t let your social instinct to step to the side kick in. Men are going to walk into you: that isn’t your fault.

Somewhat related: Cardinal rules for safe, solo lady travel.

Some thoughts on minimum wage, the businesses that pay minimum wage, and who’s ‘supposed to’ be working those jobs.

YESSSSS. What’s the difference between ‘having boundaries’ and ‘refusing to interact with anyone who doesn’t do everything exactly the way you want‘?

When it comes to sustainability, it can feel like the ‘best’ thing to do is replace all the things we currently own with bamboo this, stainless steel that, organic cotton everything. A good reminder.

And if you think sustainable stuff is too expensive, remember that buying second hand is always better than buying pretty much ANYTHING new. Even those cute organic linen pants! If you’re overwhelmed by thrifting, I share all my best tips here.

One of things I teach in Make It Stick Habit School is the importance of building new neural pathways. If you’re like “Huh?” this article is a good place to start: What It Takes To Change Your Brain’s Patterns After Age 25
If you want to keep your brain agile, you’re going to have to hone in on parts of the brain that you use less frequently, says Swart. And this new task has to be so challenging that you’ll feel mentally and physically exhausted after practicing the task because you’re forcing your brain to work in ways it’s unaccustomed to. This is the only way you’ll actually grow new neurons strong enough to connect with existing neurons, forming new pathways.

Eggplant “bacon”?

Correct.

Also, a periodic reminder that if you appreciate my taste in links, you might want to follow me on Pinterest! I pin all sort of good stuff over there!

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How was your week, friends? I’m writing this from Granger, Indiana from this amazing, historic Airbnb. I’m speaking about money, happiness, and habits at Nicole’s Real Talk Retreat and it is lovely. If you have a conference, workshop, lunch-n-learn that needs a speaker, get in my inbox! I love IRL teaching.

Links for you!

12 things you might not know about Juneteenth

Amazing dance moves!

Super smart travel tips
“I rip out all the articles I meant to read from old issues of The New Yorker, Vogue, Vanity Fair, etc. and pack them instead of bringing the WHOLE magazine, which gets heavy.”

Also: I’ll never, ever stop talking about why you need these for travel.

Yes! Behavior Shopping: This Is Why You Might Be Spending More

Verified info on how to help kids at the border directly from a lawyer who visited a station in Clint, TX

FASCINATING. The Secret Oral History of Bennington: The 1980s’ Most Decadent College

Of course I loved this. Ten Things I Learned From Loving “Anne of Green Gables”
Anne, however, has no Dumbledore or Aslan to initiate her into a larger understanding. Instead, Anne herself is the portal — the tornado, the wardrobe — who helps the characters around her understand that the “mundane” world, itself, was always already full of deep magic.

How do the 21 Democrat candidates for president differ? The NY Times asked them the same 18 questions; here are their answers.

I loved Alison’s post about health vs. aging and what’s possible.

I loooove stories like this. A Craigslist buyer complimented a woman’s home decor and it lead her to change her career! (And her home is gorgeous.)

Ooooof. If you’ve ever struggled with healthcare costs this podcast episode is for you: We Thought We’d Adulted Properly.

Such a sweet ode to an amazing teacher.

I’m exteremly co-signed on this approach to happiness + feeling good.

Hope you had an awesome week!

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In case you haven’t seen it yet …

How was your week, friends? On Wednesday, I got back from a week-long road trip with my mom, so I spent the rest of the week doing laundry, digging myself out of an email hole, you know. The usual post-trip stuff. This weekend we celebrated a friend’s birthday with a private hot yoga session for all our friends! Awesome + sweaty.

Links for you!

First and foremost: What’s going on in Sudan and what the US is doing about it — explained

And 7 things you can do to help Sudan

On my way through Des Moines, I stayed at one of the best-run Airbnbs I’ve ever been to. The guest house had extra razors, tampons, and phone chargers! Also: it was $70 and there was an amazing covered patio with cafe lights. On Instagram Stories, a bunch of people asked for a link to the listing, so I’m sharing it here, too. And if you’ve never used Airbnb before, here’s a $40 credit towards your first booking!

Co-signed.

A hilarious response if anyone asks why you’re “still single.”

Somewhat related: I love the interview series Single Women And Their Spaces. This tour of Chelsea’s rented apartment in Portugal is great.

I thought this was lovely and important: How to navigate a special needs encounter with kids.
The emotions that a child feels when seeing another child with special needs can range from curious, to nervous, to just plain confused. Let your child know that questions are okay. For example, if your child points at my daughter and says, “What happened to her arm?!” my suggestion would be to get down on your child’s level and explain that some people are born differently than other people. I then often refer to other differences, like hair color, skin color, glasses, etc. 

An interview with Amy Sedaris that is, obviously, a delight.

I was on the How She Creates podcast this week talking about questioning, well, everything has lead me to a life that I really, really like. Listen here! And if you’ve got a podcast, I’d love to be on it! Drop me an email at sarah@yesandyes.org and let’s get something scheduled!

Speaking of podcasts – I’m still plugging away, setting mine up and Paula has been super helpful. And she just launched a course about how to start your own!

A roundup of super helpful money resources!

Related: a great Twitter thread on free/cheap mood-improving things.

This just in: Dolly Parton sleeps in her makeup when she travels + brings her own snacks.
I used to take my family on trips and vacations. We would go all over the world. We’d stop in and have food, but we’d take a lot of our own food. You’d take your own good pillows and your little things, which I still do to this day. Even when I travel overseas, I take my pillows, I take a few snack foods and other things that you might not be able to get.

Hope you had a lovely week!

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Online jewelry and estate sales are a great way to bulk up your bank account and re-home things with weird memories attached!

What’d you get up to this week, friends? I’m halfway through a road trip with my mom, visiting some of the best small to mid-sized cities in the country <- pretty much my favorite thing to do EVER. You can follow along on Instagram Stories if you’d like to see the quirky museums, adorable downtowns, and little diners we’ve been stopping at.

Links for you!

One place we’re FOR SURE stopping on this road trip? St. Elmo’s Steakhouse. It checks so many boxes for me: vintage decor, locally-owned, featured in a plotline for Parks And Rec! (Yes, I’m still a vegetarian.)

It’s Pride month! Awesome! Rather than buying a Rainbow t-shirt from Amazon or Target, what if we supported shops owned by LGBTQ+ people? Here are t-shirts from 22 queer-owned shops.

Related: 30 books written by LGBTQ+ authors.

I’m leading a group through a round of Bank Boost right now and several participants have brought in money by selling jewelry from previous relationships. Can you even STAND what a power move that is?! Imagine having more money in your bank account while also being rid of the ring that cheating so-and-so gave you? FWIW, a lot of them have had more success/a more enjoyable selling experience using online auction houses rather than Ebay or a pawn shop. Fellows UK is a great place to start (even if you’re in the U.S.!) and they’ve been family-run since 1876!

Somewhat related: the four types of wealth (most of us only think about two types)

I’m weirdly into this … biscuit recipe analysis?

Oh my. The World Of Incel Plastic Surgery
Friends and family said he had body-dysmorphic disorder, a condition the International OCD Foundation says affects about one in every 50 people. Psychiatric manuals describe it as an obsession with perceived flaws in one’s appearance that others don’t see or notice. But Truth4lie’s imperfections were perfectly noticeable to other forum users: weak jawline, feminine nose, small frame, thinning hair. To Truth4lie, their assessments explained why he hadn’t fit in in high school, why his ex didn’t love him, why women he looked at on the street didn’t make eye contact.

A simple trick to make your weekend feel longer.

On my ‘to travel’ list for next year: hiking the coast-to-coast trail across northern England. You hike all day but get to sleep in lovely rural bed and breakfasts! A company will transport your big backpack for you so you can just hike with a little day pack! My friend Lindsay is doing this hike right now and her Instagram photos have further convinced me. (If you’ve done this hike and have tips to share, please share them in the comments!)

Whaaaaat? A ‘string garden‘? Didn’t know I needed this in my life!

Great reminders from Captain Awkward about the emotional and psychological minefields of wedding season.
“Be in my wedding party?” is an invitation, not a command. So be respectful and up front about budget & time commitments. Let “So sorry, I can’t, but I’d love to celebrate as a guest!” be a good, happy, loving answer when it is the honest answer. Also, don’t expect people to read your mind if there’s something you want them to do, you might have a playbook in mind but it’s far from universal, so spell it out! Help people make a good decision, help people give you what you want and need.

Hope you had a lovely week, friends!

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Looking for farm to table recipes? This strawberry puff pastry is an easy dessert recipe that will use up some of those strawberries from your garden!

How was your week, friends? Since it was the last week of the month, I did my monthly No Grocery Challenge to use up all odds and ends in the kitchen and reduce our grocery bill/food waste. This time, I partnered with Farm Flavor and used their farm to table recipes as a jumping off point (because I don’t know how to make a quinoa-based quiche crust without a little guidance.)

Links for you!

In case you need it: Everything You Need to Know About Emergency Contraception

Cute! (And a metaphor for something)

I love house tours that are something other than NYC/LA minimalist palatial homes. So I obviously loved this tour of a colorful Tennessee rental. They’ve done AMAZING things.

This is what a cow looks like after it’s been blow-dried!

Co-signed: Allow me to convince you to take a lunch break today.
The survey also found that employees who take regular lunch breaks are more engaged in the workplace, so while a quarter of Americans associate taking lunch with working less hard, the opposite is true. This probably explains the side-eye I get from colleagues when I shut my laptop at noon: Even if they’d like to join me, breaking the social contract of abstaining from self-care during work hours is perceived as risky.

Related: 10 things to do on your lunch break that aren’t Lean Cuisine or Facebook

Next week I’m leaving on a one-week road trip with my mom (!!!) and one of our stops will be Bloomington, IN. It is SUCH a great city and I loved interviewing a local about how much it costs to live there.

Related: I loved this Instagram post from an artist about why she lives in Door County, Wisconsin (which is beautiful!) rather than NYC or LA.

Correct.

Oooof. I’m sure I’ve been guilty of this – have you?

If you’re road tripping this summer, here are all the tips I’ve learned over the course of 15,000+ miles.

This is what bar bathrooms are like for women. Sweet!

Hope you had a lovely week! You can follow along with my up-coming roadtrip on Instagram if we’re not already friends there <3