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Online jewelry and estate sales are a great way to bulk up your bank account and re-home things with weird memories attached!

What’d you get up to this week, friends? I’m halfway through a road trip with my mom, visiting some of the best small to mid-sized cities in the country <- pretty much my favorite thing to do EVER. You can follow along on Instagram Stories if you’d like to see the quirky museums, adorable downtowns, and little diners we’ve been stopping at.

Links for you!

One place we’re FOR SURE stopping on this road trip? St. Elmo’s Steakhouse. It checks so many boxes for me: vintage decor, locally-owned, featured in a plotline for Parks And Rec! (Yes, I’m still a vegetarian.)

It’s Pride month! Awesome! Rather than buying a Rainbow t-shirt from Amazon or Target, what if we supported shops owned by LGBTQ+ people? Here are t-shirts from 22 queer-owned shops.

Related: 30 books written by LGBTQ+ authors.

I’m leading a group through a round of Bank Boost right now and several participants have brought in money by selling jewelry from previous relationships. Can you even STAND what a power move that is?! Imagine having more money in your bank account while also being rid of the ring that cheating so-and-so gave you? FWIW, a lot of them have had more success/a more enjoyable selling experience using online auction houses rather than Ebay or a pawn shop. Fellows UK is a great place to start (even if you’re in the U.S.!) and they’ve been family-run since 1876!

Somewhat related: the four types of wealth (most of us only think about two types)

I’m weirdly into this … biscuit recipe analysis?

Oh my. The World Of Incel Plastic Surgery
Friends and family said he had body-dysmorphic disorder, a condition the International OCD Foundation says affects about one in every 50 people. Psychiatric manuals describe it as an obsession with perceived flaws in one’s appearance that others don’t see or notice. But Truth4lie’s imperfections were perfectly noticeable to other forum users: weak jawline, feminine nose, small frame, thinning hair. To Truth4lie, their assessments explained why he hadn’t fit in in high school, why his ex didn’t love him, why women he looked at on the street didn’t make eye contact.

A simple trick to make your weekend feel longer.

On my ‘to travel’ list for next year: hiking the coast-to-coast trail across northern England. You hike all day but get to sleep in lovely rural bed and breakfasts! A company will transport your big backpack for you so you can just hike with a little day pack! My friend Lindsay is doing this hike right now and her Instagram photos have further convinced me. (If you’ve done this hike and have tips to share, please share them in the comments!)

Whaaaaat? A ‘string garden‘? Didn’t know I needed this in my life!

Great reminders from Captain Awkward about the emotional and psychological minefields of wedding season.
“Be in my wedding party?” is an invitation, not a command. So be respectful and up front about budget & time commitments. Let “So sorry, I can’t, but I’d love to celebrate as a guest!” be a good, happy, loving answer when it is the honest answer. Also, don’t expect people to read your mind if there’s something you want them to do, you might have a playbook in mind but it’s far from universal, so spell it out! Help people make a good decision, help people give you what you want and need.

Hope you had a lovely week, friends!

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Looking for farm to table recipes? This strawberry puff pastry is an easy dessert recipe that will use up some of those strawberries from your garden!

How was your week, friends? Since it was the last week of the month, I did my monthly No Grocery Challenge to use up all odds and ends in the kitchen and reduce our grocery bill/food waste. This time, I partnered with Farm Flavor and used their farm to table recipes as a jumping off point (because I don’t know how to make a quinoa-based quiche crust without a little guidance.)

Links for you!

In case you need it: Everything You Need to Know About Emergency Contraception

Cute! (And a metaphor for something)

I love house tours that are something other than NYC/LA minimalist palatial homes. So I obviously loved this tour of a colorful Tennessee rental. They’ve done AMAZING things.

This is what a cow looks like after it’s been blow-dried!

Co-signed: Allow me to convince you to take a lunch break today.
The survey also found that employees who take regular lunch breaks are more engaged in the workplace, so while a quarter of Americans associate taking lunch with working less hard, the opposite is true. This probably explains the side-eye I get from colleagues when I shut my laptop at noon: Even if they’d like to join me, breaking the social contract of abstaining from self-care during work hours is perceived as risky.

Related: 10 things to do on your lunch break that aren’t Lean Cuisine or Facebook

Next week I’m leaving on a one-week road trip with my mom (!!!) and one of our stops will be Bloomington, IN. It is SUCH a great city and I loved interviewing a local about how much it costs to live there.

Related: I loved this Instagram post from an artist about why she lives in Door County, Wisconsin (which is beautiful!) rather than NYC or LA.

Correct.

Oooof. I’m sure I’ve been guilty of this – have you?

If you’re road tripping this summer, here are all the tips I’ve learned over the course of 15,000+ miles.

This is what bar bathrooms are like for women. Sweet!

Hope you had a lovely week! You can follow along with my up-coming roadtrip on Instagram if we’re not already friends there <3

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How was your week, friends? Here in Minneapolis, it was weirdly rainy and cold, so I spent most of it doing indoor things and planning future trips. But this weekend has been gooooorgeous, so we’re making up for lost time with lots of bike rides, barbecues, and reading on the deck.

Links for you

Next week is the last week of the month, which means it’s time for my monthly No Grocery Challenge! If you’ve never watched my Instagram Stories, my NGC is a week where – in an effort to reduce food waste and save money + time – I cook only with what’s in the fridge, freezer, and pantry. It’s weirdly fun and gratifying! You can use this workbook to plan your own (it’s SO much more than just using leftovers!) or follow along here to watch me do it.

I was on Rolf Potts’ podcast this week, talking about traveling light, dressing modestly while traveling, and how to deal with travel anxiety. Listen here!

Have you read this yet? It’s a bit like David Sedaris, but younger and British.

Some truths from Bill Nye.

A good point: Don’t Use My Family For Your True Crime Stories.
Nobody has tried to make entertainment out of Sabina’s story, but if they did, I would burn their podcast studio to the ground. I would call them every night at 3 a.m, and then again at 5, and when they started turning their phone off I would show up and ring the doorbell. I would dig up their most embarrassing secrets and use them as blackmail. I would do whatever I had to do to get them to give up on the project. It would be intolerable to me—physically intolerable like the way a body can’t tolerate rotten oysters—for someone to splash Sabina’s last moments and the horror of her death onto a TV screen, or to narrate it between advertisements for Casper mattresses.

I’ve been catching up on this season of Queer Eye and if you, like me, where obsessed with the squash casserole recipe, here it is! This would be a such a good way to some of that end-of-summer zucchini we’ll all be drowning in.

Trying to get your business off the ground without a lot of capital? Here are 10 ways to bootstrap it!

Fellow MSPers – if you’re in the market for a floral arrangement, Northern Heir makes gorgeous arrangements out of local flowers in thrifted and vintage containers. Lovely!

A state-by-state break down of where you can support pro-choice organizations.

If you, like me, have been concerned about how many plastic straws you use, it’s worth knowing that eating less fish might actually be a more effective approach to limiting plastic pollution in the oceans.

Important and interesting: The Cost Of Being Disabled.

I hear people talk about how hard it is to make friends as an adult ALL THE TIME, so I liked these tips about friendship as a grown up.

Just as I suspected!!!! A UCLA study proved that, for a lot of people, “our need to reward ourselves materially may actually increase our stress.

I really liked this:
“I’ve always been a time-based worker. You know, like, ‘did I sit here for 3 hours and try?’ I don’t have a word count when I sit down to write. It’s all about sitting down and trying to make something happen in that time period — and letting those hours stack up.”

Related: Track your efforts, not your accomplishments.

Hope you had a lovely weekend!

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Did you know that every morning on Instagram Stories, I share a little reminder/intention/inspirational-quote-type thing? Based on the DMs I get, they seem to make people really happy!

So if you’d like a bit of happy in your day for $0, you can follow along here.

How was your week, friends? Thursday – Sunday I was in South Dakota with my whooooole extended family, celebrating the life of my late grandmother. It was so, so lovely to see everybody.

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My mini-roadtrip this week reminded me: OMG if you’re in the car for more than three hours, this will make all the difference in how you feel upon arrival.

Related: Everything you need to know to plan a road trip 

Sometimes, when I’m hard on myself for not doing ‘more’ as stepmom, I remember that even as a pretty B+ stepmom I do more (and I’m held to a much higher standard) than many full time, bio dads: What ‘Good’ Dads Get Away With.

I talked about the link between money, happiness, habits, and education on the What I’m Unlearning podcast! Listen here.

And I talked with Andrea about the totally unsexy but inestimable power of still going when everybody else gives us.

Perfect for picnic weather! 9 best packable sandwiches.

In case you needed another reason to buy Chobani yogurt!

DISCUSS: After men in Spain got paternity leave, they wanted fewer kids
Farré and González think that spending more time with their children—or the prospect of having to do so—may have made men more acutely aware of the effort and costs associated with childrearing, and, as the researchers put it, “shifted their preferences from child quantity to quality.”

‘I see any dinosaur, I buy it’: at home with the embattled owner of the Flintstone house

Like Psychology Today’s Find-A-Therapist tool – but for shamen, coaches, and other healers.

I loved this: Rob Walker’s Exercises for Noticing New Things
Eat Somewhere Dubious. Have one meal at a restaurant that you didn’t find on Yelp or through any sort of recommendation and that doesn’t even look trendy or hip. First you’ll have fun keeping an eye out for it: “Is THAT our dubious restaurant?” Second, even if you have a mediocre meal, you’ll have an unpredictable experience! And this, by the way, is how the best food writers make discoveries and find the places that later get hot on Yelp. So maybe you’ll get lucky.

This kids’ room is wowsers

I hope you had a lovely week!

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How was your week, friends? I lunched and coffee-d with friends, fussed with the yard (it is never-ending!!! will the grass grow this year?!) and devotedly wished that the weather would clear up.

I finished everything I need to work through Bank Boost with our new round of students. Class starts on Monday and – not to toot my own horn – but it’s an AWESOME program. People add hundreds and thousands of dollars to their bank accounts, strengthen their self-advocacy muscles, change their relationship with money, NBD. All to the tune of $57. Click here to join us!

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It’s been a pretty tough week for current events. Reminder: 5calls.org has call scripts and phone numbers that make contacting your reps super easy.

WOW.

An unsexy, honest, inspiring photo of what intentional spending looks like.

Ahhhh! A must-read for anyone who’s been dumped and is trying to convince someone to take them back. (We’ve all been there, right?)

You could be absolutely perfect, you could become all the things your former partner specifically said would be exactly right for him, you could find the golden ratio of speaking up and staying silent about all the right things in exactly the right order, you could even send me a list of all your best private jokes and relationship touchstones and I could write you a dazzling, personalized speech that strikes a breathtaking balance between “maintaining a quiet dignity” and “being vulnerable and real…”  …and he could still go, or rather, keep going, in the same direction he already went, i.e. already gone.

My favorite things: financial transparency and a liiiiitle bit of voyeurism: How much it costs to live in Raleigh, NC.

Somewhat related: The best $5,929.10 I ever spent: moving back to the Midwest
On the subject of apartments: I’m paying $650 a month for a gorgeous studio with a view of the Cedar River and in-unit laundry. I’m the first tenant to occupy this apartment (and the first tenant to use its brand new appliances). Considering that my first Seattle apartment was a converted hotel room with no kitchen and a landlord who advised me to wash my dishes in a bus tub and dump the dishwater into the toilet — WHICH I DID, EVERY DAY — living in this apartment feels like living in another world.

Speaking my language! A house tour with a “thrifty maximalist.”

Related: 12 cheap home improvements that are totally worth it.

I hope that Mothers’ Day is a good day for you; if it’s not, you’re not alone. This is one of the most highly trafficked posts I’ve ever published – True Story: I have a toxic relationship with my mom.

Also: if you’re a stepmom, this is must-read I wish someone had told me about four years ago.

Why is this so cute?! Japanese Ambassador To Sweden Sees Pikachu As His Son
“The first time I saw Pikachu, I felt that he was my son,” the tweet from yesterday reads. “When Pokémon Go came out in 2016, Pikachu and the other millions of figures got new friends around the world. Now I will gladly see the Detective Pikachu movie.”

Want to redefine your relationship with money? What luck! That’s exactly what I talked about on this podcast!

Also: Kelly and I talked about all things self-help!

Sometime I feel like I’m the only person on the internet who’s not trying to create a multi-million dollar empire that sells self-paced business ecourses and has a team of 15 people. It’s just me and Paul Jarvis. 
I’m free from financial worry, as it doesn’t take much revenue to be profitable and expenses are quite low. I’m free from the stresses of always being busy or having to hustle constantly, because I know what enough is and don’t have to push myself beyond it. I’m free from the weight of typical “business growth” responsibility—I don’t have to manage others, I don’t have to answer to a board of directors or investors, and I don’t have to be on the hook for high office rent.

The Pied Piper of kittens!

This made me smile.

I loved this: advice you’d give your younger self.

Hope you had a lovely week! And I hope to see you inside Bank Boost on Monday! If you’re on the fence or you have any questions, drop me an email at sarah@yesandyes.org and I’ll answer ’em!

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Another song with millions of views that I heard for the first time this week

How was your week, friends? I spent most of mine getting ready for the next round of Bank Boost (enrollment opens tomorrow!) Kenny spoke at UW Platteville on Thursday so we turned it into a long weekend away with cheese curds and House On The Rock.

I was also able to live out my extremely specific fantasy of living (read:renting an Airbnb) over a coffee shop in a cute, historical apartment that overlooks the main street of a quaint small town. This is where we stayed and here’s a $40 credit towards your first booking if you’ve never used Airbnb before!

Links for you

For my fellow MSP-ers, is it Lake Calhoun or Bde Maka Ska?

And very proud of Minnesotan Halima Aden for making history as the first model to wear a hijab and burkini in Sports Illustrated Swimsuit!

You’ve probably heard me rail against premium pricing and traditional marketing methods before. I was pumped to take part in the Unconventional Marketing Summit!

What to say (and what NOT to say) to someone with a broken heart.
“What’s something that would make your life just a tiny bit easier right now? Could I bring over some food? Wash your sheets and make your bed? Fill up your car with gas? Something else? I know you’ve got so much weighing on you right now, so I’d love to do something to make your day a little easier and calmer.”

Related: How to get over a break up

Did you know you can follow hashtags on Instagram? I’m really enjoying the #hauteeclectic hashtag. It’s a nice break from white, minimalist, farm house decor 😉

If you live in MSP and are looking to add a dog to your family, make sure you follow my friend Leslie’s Adopt A Stray May! She’s a professional pet photographer so her photos are gorgeous and the dogs she features are amazing!

Extremely co-signed.

I loved this: Money + misdirection: the shadow side of “charge what you’re worth” pricing culture

Related: Why I charge $57 for Bank Boost even though I could charge a lot more

An old essay from David Sedaris that a) still makes me laugh b) is incredibly relatable
Now I’m up to sixty thousand, which is twenty-five and a half miles. Walking that distance at the age of fifty-seven, with completely flat feet while lugging a heavy bag of garbage, takes close to nine hours—a big block of time, but hardly wasted. I listen to audiobooks, and podcasts. I talk to people. I learn things: the fact, for example, that, in the days of yore, peppercorns were sold individually and, because they were so valuable, to guard against theft the people who packed them had to have their pockets sewed shut.

Yum! An unusual rhubarb pie recipe.

You probably know by know that I’m a huge champion of small and mid-sized cities. I love traveling to them, promoting them, talking about how their low cost of living can dramatically improve quality of life for certain people. So I was suuuuuuper interested in this piece: HGTV stars Chip and Joanna Gaines helped convert a sleepy Texas town into a tourist mecca. But not everyone agrees on what Waco’s “restoration” should look like.

I hope you had a lovely weekend and that I see you inside Bank Boost on Monday!