I’m writing to you from Ras al Khaimah, U.A.E.! I’m here visiting my friend of 15+ years who I last saw in Prince Edward Island, when she humored me by joining me on my Anne Of Green Gables pilgrimage.
If you’ve always thought travel to the U.A.E. was totally outside your budget, I’m here to tell you that it might not be. My direct, 8-hour flight between Casablanca and Dubai (on super bougie Emirates Air, no less) was $482. My 45-minute shuttle from Dubai to Ras al Khaimah was $11. My week night, non-water view hotel room at Stella Di Mare was $60.
So I guess what I’m saying is: don’t assume that something – a trip, an experience, a neighborhood – is out of your price range. Even a few minutes of research and the tiniest bit of strategy might prove you wrong.
Links for you!
Extremely pertinent to all my interests! Dolly Parton’s podcast will tell you more about Trump voters than any NYT trend piece To tell the story of Dolly Parton’s America, the show interviews over 50 people: family and friends, her bodyguard, business associates, Jane Fonda, Gloria Steinem, Rhiannon Giddens, country music insiders, Appalachian and Nashville commentators and academics, fans, and, of course, Parton herself. In the show, she gets personal and political, while explaining why she refuses to take a public political stance.
Friends, I’ve reached that point in my travels where I don’t know what day it is – either here in Morocco or back at home in Minneapolis. The sign of a great trip!
I’m typing this from my adorable Airbnb in Casablanca. When I shared photos on Instagram, I got lots of requests for the listing, so here it is and if you’ve never used Airbnb before, here’s a $40 credit towards your first booking.
I was on the Pique Podcast talking about spending your time, money, and energy on purpose – listen here. And if you have a podcast? I’d love to be on it! Drop me a line at email@example.com and let’s get a date on the calendar.
Several of my fellow thrifters swear by this to remove that ‘thrift store smell’ – I’m intrigued and welcome your suggestions!
I loved this essay Olympic athletes who claim the gold are very inspiring. But the person who comes in “last” can be just as inspiring, if not more so.
Showing up is inspiring. Trying is inspiring. That first shaky step after a setback, relapse, injury, heartbreak, or humiliation—that’s inspiring. Stumbling and asking for help and then trying again for the second, tenth, or hundredth time—that’s inspiring, too.
There are billions of ways to be a source of inspiration.
It’s been 7+ years since I’ve traveled in a developing country and it’s taken me a while to regain my sea legs – remembering how to haggle, that I need to confirm the price of the taxi before I get in, throwing my toilet paper in the trash instead of in the toilet. So I appreciated this flow chart: Did You Have A Good Adventure?
You know about ‘love languages’, right? Mine are acts of service + gifts. Did you know there are also ‘apology languages‘?! Off to take the quiz right now!
I was on the Money Made Easy podcast, talking about saying yes to BOTH money and happiness. Listen here!
A must-pack if you’re traveling carry-on only to a sunny place.
Another podcast episode about money, but I’m not in this one. I so appreciate Jason Zook’s honesty in this episode of Beyond The Dollar. He talks about how he got into debt, how it affected him, and his ‘enough’ number.
I loved this: How One Couple Lives Separately, Together Cecilia and Gerry say the decision has been great for their own relationship. “I’m super tidy — that’s my zen. Gerry loves that he can come home and put his keys wherever he wants without someone telling him otherwise. He’ll have hockey nights at home, where he can knock himself out watching sports, while I’ll be on my side, watching Catastrophe.”
Cecilia also swears by the separate sleeping arrangements. “When I get into my bed every day, I give thanks. I sleep with three comforters and socks, and Jerry sleeps with a fan and just a sheet. Before, one of us would be hot or cold, and now we can each do our thing. The intimacy is still there. We make time for each other, and then when it’s time for sleep, we’re like, ‘Bye!’”
How was your week? We celebrated Kenny’s 46th birthday with tiki drinks on a rooftop, housewarmed a friend’s new condo, and I kept preparing for my month-long trip to Morocco and the UAE. I leave on Wednesday! I’ll be sharing the trip on Instagram, if you’d like to follow along.
I loved this round up a cooking Q & As, particularly her suggestions about using up leftovers and keeping your dog calm during a dinner party!
Related: I finally tried Imperfect Foods and it is SO GOOD! Reduce food waste, save money, and have it all delivered to your door? INTO IT. If you’ve never tried it, here’s $10 off your first order!
A super interesting essay about the reality of the publishing world + managing your money: How to Lose a Third of a Million Dollars Without Really Trying After that second advance came through, I stepped into my dream life: I quit my day job to write full-time, moved to New York City, bought $15 cocktails, and learned (with astonishing speed) not worry about prices when ordering at a restaurant. I said yes to travel (often book research I wasn’t reimbursed for), concert tickets, new shoes, and finally being able to buy people the kind of presents I felt they deserved. I donated large sums of money to organizations I cared about, and delighted in the feeling that I was making a real difference.
I was on The Best Of The Nest podcast talking about how money affects how we feel at home. If you’ve never heard my teach my three highlighter money method, I talk about it there!
This applies to body acceptance and every thing else, ever.
This made me laugh till I wasn’t making any noise. This, too.
Amazing! I love Meg’s story of what she did after ending her engagement 10 years ago and how’s she’s celebrating that anniversary this year.
How was your week, friends? I lunched with friends and mostly worked, worked, worked since I’ll be taking almost a month off while I travel around Morocco and Dubai soon! I’ve got 20-hour layovers in Amsterdam on each end of the trip – wish me luck!
Links for you!
Reminder: On September 23rd, we’re winnowing down the Yes & Yes free resource library from 10 (!!!) free workbooks to two. So if you want access to literally hundreds of pages of super helpful stuff, now’s the time to grab ’em! Click here to download your free workbooks.
DISCUSS: How social media enabled the memeification of mental health. Drawing a map of any given concept based on the internet’s information means the vast majority of us are disordered in numerous ways, many of them conflicting. “The silent treatment is ABUSE,” according to an Instagram post by NarcAway, an account run by a self-proclaimed survivor of narcissism. And if my sense of intuition often proves true, does that make me an empath? If I’m empathetic, compassionate, and headstrong, am I an Indigo Child? What even is an Indigo Child? (The answer: sensitive children believed to possess emotional intelligence that borders on the supernatural.)
Friends! Last week I spent a few days in the Lehigh Valley and now I won’t shut up about it. As you know, I loooooove slightly-under-the-radar destinations and I really need to tell you about this one. It’ll be particularly gorgeous when the leaves change (and potentially closer/cheaper/less crowded than Maine or Vermont.)
Some thoughts + a potential itinerary for the Lehigh Valley
The Lehigh Valley is less than three hours from Philly, NYC, and DC. If you live in NYC and you’re looking for a getaway, OMG GO HERE INSTEAD OF THE HUDSON VALLEY. It’s not much further, the traffic is so much lighter, and the lodging prices are much lower than the Hudson Valley. Case in point: Lehigh Valley: The Historic Hotel Bethlehem is a 4-star hotel and rooms start at $189. Hudson Valley: The Diamond Mills Hotel is a 4-star hotel and the rooms start at $300.This 2-bed, 4-guest Airbnb in a historic home is $109 a night! (P.S. If you’ve never used Airbnb before, here’s $40 towards your first booking!)
Wander downtown Bethlehem and die over the cuteness – their historic downtown has been placed the US Tentative List for nomination as a UNESCO World Heritage Site (!!!)
Walk one block over to the Easton Public Market for great fresh food, cute vendors, and kid-friendly play spaces.
Come back to Bethlehem for the evening and visit Steel Stacks – the old Bethlehem Steel factory that’s been turned into a park, elevated walkway, and a space for live music and movies. Check out one of the indie movies playing at the theater or grab dinner at one of the three restaurants.
No joke, I groaned “Ugggggh, cuuuuuuuute” about 15 times a day while visiting this area and fell down a Zillow rabbit hole looking at real estate – which is how you know a town is truly great. P.S. If you live someplace where historic houses cost more than $200k don’t look at Bethlehem’s Zillow. You’ll just end up crying and planning to move. DON’T SAY I DIDN’T WARN YOU!!!
Anyway – Links for you!
If you think you have Too Many Feelings, this is for you.
This is probably filed under the heading of “Nobody cares, Sarah” but I get tons of questions about how I get all that volume in my hair. For a long time, the answer was Aveda Dry Shampoo, but I’ve officially switched this. It’s $20 cheaper (!!) and because it’s a paste it won’t spill when I travel. Note: it’s very texturizing and it won’t make your hair feel ‘clean,’ but it’ll definitely get rid of greasy roots and give you an absurd amount of volume!
A very sweet article about the end of Car Talk. Those brothers were so sweet and funny! Some other Car Talk words and phrases The Boston Globe identified: “dope slap,” or a quick, corrective slap to the back of the head in punishment of stupidity; “urgent haircut,” or the need to relieve oneself; “T.S., Eliot,” or a public-radio friendly way of saying “tough shit”; “schnerdling,” a word with Icelandic origins to mean toilet; and “boat payment,” a unit of measurement arising from Ray’s discovery that the least scrupulous mechanics he knew all owned boats.
This is exactly what I want my space to look like!
I was on the Woke & Wired podcast this week talking about how I developed an intentional relationship with money + how I verrrry carefully curate what I see on Instagram so it’s inspiring and helpful, not disheartening.
Ashley is traveling around Transylvania (long on my to-visit list) and I’m gobbling up her Instagram posts!
Also: I know I already told you that I’m reading this book and it’s great. If you’re on the fence about immigration, granting people asylum, or you don’t understand why we’d ever allow people into the U.S. who can’t 100% financially support themselves, pleeeeease read it. (It’s a very enjoyable novel! It’s not a dry, non-fiction book that will talk down to you about immigration policy!)
We’re in the process of redesigning the Yes & Yes website and cleaning up the clutter that comes with 11 (!!!) years of blogging. To that end, on September 23rd we’ll be retiring the Yes & Yes Free Resource Library and its TEN free workbooks. If you haven’t signed up for the library yet, do it now!
Hope you had a lovely week, friends.
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