How was your week, friends? I lunched with friends and mostly worked, worked, worked since I’ll be taking almost a month off while I travel around Morocco and Dubai soon! I’ve got 20-hour layovers in Amsterdam on each end of the trip – wish me luck!
Links for you!
Reminder: On September 23rd, we’re winnowing down the Yes & Yes free resource library from 10 (!!!) free workbooks to two. So if you want access to literally hundreds of pages of super helpful stuff, now’s the time to grab ’em! Click here to download your free workbooks.
DISCUSS: How social media enabled the memeification of mental health. Drawing a map of any given concept based on the internet’s information means the vast majority of us are disordered in numerous ways, many of them conflicting. “The silent treatment is ABUSE,” according to an Instagram post by NarcAway, an account run by a self-proclaimed survivor of narcissism. And if my sense of intuition often proves true, does that make me an empath? If I’m empathetic, compassionate, and headstrong, am I an Indigo Child? What even is an Indigo Child? (The answer: sensitive children believed to possess emotional intelligence that borders on the supernatural.)
Friends! Last week I spent a few days in the Lehigh Valley and now I won’t shut up about it. As you know, I loooooove slightly-under-the-radar destinations and I really need to tell you about this one. It’ll be particularly gorgeous when the leaves change (and potentially closer/cheaper/less crowded than Maine or Vermont.)
Some thoughts + a potential itinerary for the Lehigh Valley
The Lehigh Valley is less than three hours from Philly, NYC, and DC. If you live in NYC and you’re looking for a getaway, OMG GO HERE INSTEAD OF THE HUDSON VALLEY. It’s not much further, the traffic is so much lighter, and the lodging prices are much lower than the Hudson Valley. Case in point: Lehigh Valley: The Historic Hotel Bethlehem is a 4-star hotel and rooms start at $189. Hudson Valley: The Diamond Mills Hotel is a 4-star hotel and the rooms start at $300.This 2-bed, 4-guest Airbnb in a historic home is $109 a night! (P.S. If you’ve never used Airbnb before, here’s $40 towards your first booking!)
Wander downtown Bethlehem and die over the cuteness – their historic downtown has been placed the US Tentative List for nomination as a UNESCO World Heritage Site (!!!)
Walk one block over to the Easton Public Market for great fresh food, cute vendors, and kid-friendly play spaces.
Come back to Bethlehem for the evening and visit Steel Stacks – the old Bethlehem Steel factory that’s been turned into a park, elevated walkway, and a space for live music and movies. Check out one of the indie movies playing at the theater or grab dinner at one of the three restaurants.
No joke, I groaned “Ugggggh, cuuuuuuuute” about 15 times a day while visiting this area and fell down a Zillow rabbit hole looking at real estate – which is how you know a town is truly great. P.S. If you live someplace where historic houses cost more than $200k don’t look at Bethlehem’s Zillow. You’ll just end up crying and planning to move. DON’T SAY I DIDN’T WARN YOU!!!
Anyway – Links for you!
If you think you have Too Many Feelings, this is for you.
This is probably filed under the heading of “Nobody cares, Sarah” but I get tons of questions about how I get all that volume in my hair. For a long time, the answer was Aveda Dry Shampoo, but I’ve officially switched this. It’s $20 cheaper (!!) and because it’s a paste it won’t spill when I travel. Note: it’s very texturizing and it won’t make your hair feel ‘clean,’ but it’ll definitely get rid of greasy roots and give you an absurd amount of volume!
A very sweet article about the end of Car Talk. Those brothers were so sweet and funny! Some other Car Talk words and phrases The Boston Globe identified: “dope slap,” or a quick, corrective slap to the back of the head in punishment of stupidity; “urgent haircut,” or the need to relieve oneself; “T.S., Eliot,” or a public-radio friendly way of saying “tough shit”; “schnerdling,” a word with Icelandic origins to mean toilet; and “boat payment,” a unit of measurement arising from Ray’s discovery that the least scrupulous mechanics he knew all owned boats.
This is exactly what I want my space to look like!
I was on the Woke & Wired podcast this week talking about how I developed an intentional relationship with money + how I verrrry carefully curate what I see on Instagram so it’s inspiring and helpful, not disheartening.
Ashley is traveling around Transylvania (long on my to-visit list) and I’m gobbling up her Instagram posts!
Also: I know I already told you that I’m reading this book and it’s great. If you’re on the fence about immigration, granting people asylum, or you don’t understand why we’d ever allow people into the U.S. who can’t 100% financially support themselves, pleeeeease read it. (It’s a very enjoyable novel! It’s not a dry, non-fiction book that will talk down to you about immigration policy!)
We’re in the process of redesigning the Yes & Yes website and cleaning up the clutter that comes with 11 (!!!) years of blogging. To that end, on September 23rd we’ll be retiring the Yes & Yes Free Resource Library and its TEN free workbooks. If you haven’t signed up for the library yet, do it now!
How was your week, friends? I rang in my 40th birthday, celebrating with a few nights in the Hudson Valley with Kenny. We spent the day doing all my favorite things: poking around small towns, swimming in a lake, browsing used book stores, and eating good food. Lovely! Now I’m in the Lehigh Valley (extremely recommended!); you can follow along in Instagram Stories if you want to see what I’m up to!
I’ve been devouring this novel on my trip and dog earring sections I want to revisit.
I loved this! On Being A Great Aunt “One of the best ways I’ve found to foster a rapport with kids is to ask them for their opinions. Say you’re out for ice-cream and can’t decide between strawberry and chocolate. Ask Ms. Five-Year-Old and then go with what she recommends. Her face will light up. Kids are often underestimated, so when you value their opinion, it’s esteem-building.” — Tracey
Extremely ready to poke around the adorable downtowns of historic Pennsylvania! This is Easton, PA if you’re curious.
I’m writing this from Teaneck, New Jersey! I’m on the first leg of a 12-day trip out East, starting with Kenny’s family reunion. Tomorrow, the guys are headed to Six Flags and I’m headed to the Jersey Shore, which I’m disproportionately excited about. Exactly HOW much will it be like the show?!
How to design your life based on intentional living values Fundamentally, this approach works well because as Annie Dillard says, “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” If the small ways we show up each day align with the vision of the life we want, we’re much more likely to look back on a life encompassing our vision over the years.
I’m always a bit skeptical about ‘ethical’ websites that encourage you to throw away things you already own and then buy new things that are ‘ethical’ (when the most ‘ethical’ thing you can do is … use and repair what you already own or buy secondhand.) That being said, The Good Trade has a lot of great articles and resources for when you truly do need to buy something new.
You’ve probably already seen The Crane Wife being shared and posted around the internet, but if you haven’t it’s a must-read. These were small things, and I told myself it was stupid to feel disappointed by them. I had arrived in my thirties believing that to need things from others made you weak. I think this is true for lots of people but I think it is especially true for women. When men desire things they are “passionate.” When they feel they have not received something they need they are “deprived,” or even “emasculated,” and given permission for all sorts of behavior. But when a woman needs she is needy. She is meant to contain within her own self everything necessary to be happy.
That I wanted someone to articulate that they loved me, that they saw me, was a personal failing and I tried to overcome it.
How was your week, friends? Kenny and I had a two-night staycation at a lovely hotel here in Minneapolis and were, as always, amazed by how rejuvenating it can be to get out of your routine. Even when you’re only a few miles from home!
I spent the rest of the week working on wildly unsexy blog + business things. Eventually, they’ll help me create an online space that’s better, more useful, and more useful for all of us, but for now it’s 17-part Asana checklists and lots of Googling.
Links for you
I try realllllly hard not to give unsolicited advice (for the record: I’m not good at this, yet) but I loved Grace’s post about 5 pieces of unsolicited blogging advice she’s glad she ignored. “You Should Really Get Married — Brands Will Feel You’re More Reliable.” I will never forget this statement. Ever. I remember where I was (Balthazar), what I was eating (Eggs Florentine), and the feeling of white hot anger that shot through my body like it was yesterday. I was having a friendly breakfast chat with a fellow blogger and he pointed out that if I was to get married (this was prior to my first marriage), I would see a huge change in ad support. This blogger had a feeling that I was coming off as “too young” and “too unsettled” for larger brands to want to invest in me.
Ahem: Quit Your Terrible Job. If “buck up and ignore it since there’s nothing you can do about it” worked as advice for anything, I and every member of the Advice Columnist Industrial Complex would be out of a job, so let’s skip that approach.
Did you know that every winter, I lead retreats for my friend’s company? Yes! If you like luxury villas and working out (or just lounging by the pool and eating food prepared by a personal chef) you can join us in Tamarindo, Costa Rica, January 18 – 25th!
What happen when you attend an influencer event and most of them have smaller bodies and larger followings than you do?
Related: If Beyoncé Finds It Hard To Love Her Body, No Wonder The Rest of Us Are Struggling We’re constantly told that if we feel as though we’re failing, we must be more Bey. We have built an inconceivably high pedestal for her. As a result, I suspect that even Beyoncé doesn’t feel like Beyoncé every day. In the Guardian, Laura Snapes wrote ‘perhaps this is Beyoncé at her most human…to aspire to thinness is equated with fatphobia, lapsed feminism and shilling for the patriarchy…but so is feeling as if you don’t live up to society’s ideals.’
How was your week, friends? On Thursday, I was on Twin Cities Live talking about how to shop for your REAL life, not your fantasy life. Today, my 17-year-old niece is coming for a quick visit and I’m using my Graduate Hotels Hall Pass (not sponsored!) to spend the night in the Minneapolis Graduate Hotel. We’re going to poke around the U campus and grab breakfast at the famous Al’s Breakfast. Fun!
Did you know that most airlines charge $150 EXTRA PER WAY for unaccompanied minors? Here’s a round up of airlines that charge less.
Daaaaaang. 4 Things Brands Should Do For The Environment Instead Of Launching A New Sustainable Line. Labels may think they need to reinvent a product to make it more sustainable, but they don’t. “Durability is something that brands overlook very often,” said Xavier Vital, a global service manager at environmental consultancy SGS. “It’s something where you can have the same product, just connect sustainability with quality, and make this product last longer.”
Related: The Life Changing Magic Of Making Do Making do is a deeply pragmatic philosophy. It means asking of our things the only question we should ever ask of them: “Can you fulfill your intended use for me?” The answer – if we can be honest, and resist a moment of discomfort, inconvenience or boredom – is, extraordinarily often, yes. Making do is about taming the reflex to discard, replace or upgrade; it’s about using things well, and using them until they are used up. Taken literally, it simply means making something perform – making it do what it ought to do.
And under the heading of ‘making do’ – here are a few products that help everything in my life last longer + look better. As a side note, I’m not particularly handy or crafty, so rest assured that if I use these, you can, too!