What’d you get up to this week, friends? We saw a movie at the amazing Height theater, saw a friend’s envy-inducing new house, and today I’m headed up north for a three-day cabin escape with some of my lady friends.
“You know what? I think I’m ready to do it.” We’re driving back to Minneapolis after a long cabin weekend and my never-ending yammering about habits and goals has my friend all riled up.
“I’m gonna do it for real this time,” he nods. “I’ve got this terrible habit of checking my phone first thing in the morning and I’m going to go cold turkey.” He passes an old Nissan and takes a sip of his gas station coffee.
“I’m going to stop checking my phone and start meditating! Yes!” He slaps the steering wheel.
“Oh dude, you don’t have to do that,” I tell him. “Why don’t you just Indiana Jones it?”
Unsurprisingly, this makes zero sense to my friend. So I elaborate.
“You’ve seen Indiana Jones And The Raiders Of The Lost Ark, right?” (This is a trick question because we’re both children of the 80s and OBVIOUSLY HE’S SEEN IT.)
“Indiana Jones doesn’t just, like, snatch the golden idol and leave that pedestal empty. He replaces the it with a bag of sand that’s about the same size and weight.”
Now, leaving aside the fact that it’s, uh, pretty problematic that Indiana Jones is stealing ancient artifacts from indigenous people and his sandbag swap triggers a series of booby traps, I think what he does nicely illustrates something we should do when we’re trying to break bad habits. Instead of trying to break a bad habit cold turkey or replace it with something painfully virtuous, what if we swapped in something slightly less ‘bad’? Click To Tweet (more…)
How was your week, friends? How are you doing and dealing with current events?
I’m self-medicating with a combination of 5calls.org, planning upcoming trips, and watching The Good Place. Yesterday we went to the ever-adorable Red Wing for my 4-year-old niece’s birthday party + bluff hiking + thrifting and it was exactly what my heart and mind needed.
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My hands are a little sweaty as I click the ‘send’ button.
I pace around the living room, giving myself a pep talk. “You know what? Maybe this is what will get people to pay attention. I know it’s supposedly tacky to talk about but I think it’s important and I’m glad I did it. Yup? Yup. Yuuuuup.”
What did I do?
What’d you get up to this week, friends? Besides losing your mind over current events? I had lunch dates, got ready to open the live version of Make It Stick Habit School (!!!), and now I’m taking a three-day weekend at a cabin in Wisconsin for a friend’s birthday. Hiking! Kayaking! Reading by the fire!
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I’m not a perfectionist in the traditional sense.
I’ve published dozens of blog posts that contain typos. I’ll leave the house knowing there’s a tiny coffee stain on my shirt and pretend it happened in transit. I’ll happily cobble together a meal from a wilting green pepper and some freezer-burned corn and then yell about how I’m pretty much Julia Child.
I mean, I wrote a blog post entitled “It Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect, It Just Has To Be Something.”
But I’ll also spend weeks – or months! – polishing and editing and fussing over an ebook that’s already 99% amazing. I’ll wander into the kitchen at 10 pm “just to wipe down the counters” … and then it’s 45 minutes later and I’m defrosting the freezer. I’ll spend so long tweaking a client proposal that I almost miss the deadline.
Of course, truly getting over perfectionism is the work of a lifetime and probably lots of therapy. But while you’re doing that deeper work, here are two surprisingly effective tips that have helped me get out of my own way and get on with my totally-not-perfect-but-still-awesome life!